To be dying to go back to work?!

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Oh it sounds awful, and I am indescribably grateful for my two amazing children and the opportunity to spend so much time with them (just a few weeks off the end of my year maternity leave with DS; DD two and a half) but dear god am I fed up with the humdrum of daily chores and no use of my brain (which is fast turning to mush). Am I an awful mum to not want to spend all my time with my beloved babies?

why the snide comment secondcoming? No matter how much you love your kids and enjoy playing with them, unless you are a child psychologist studying behaviour and development you are not going to find it mentally stimulating in the same way as a challenging, professional job with people who can complete a sentence and answer a question and don't throw their lunch on the floor because you cut it / didn't cut it/ gave it to them on the wrong plate / gave more to their sister etc. After a year at home and one year at 2 days a week, I have found a good balance at 3 days a week at work, but days like today (no sleep, rain etc) I would much rather be at work - though Mr Bloom has just come on so things are looking up!

Happy Mum equals happy kids in my mind - different things work for different families so YANBU.

I have had a complete turnaround myself - I couldn't wait to go back when DS was about 3 months old but decided to take my full year off instead of the 6 months i had thought i would and am due back next week. I have spent the last week in tears and wish i didn't have to go back at all :-(

Fingers crossed i win the lottery at the weekend and can stay home (Don't see it happening somehow)!!!

It suits some to go back to work , it suits some not too - not a problem and YANBU

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Not unreasonable to not enjoy it but as you are now stuck with your kids, as such, try throwing some of that work energy and ethic into enjoying spending time with them.

I know where thesecondcoming is coming from
Ive done both & my brain didn't turn to mush

Oh my god! Why on earth take it as a personal attack, secondcoming?! At what point did I say that all SAHMs have mush for brains and lead humdrum lives?! I'm sorry you took it that way (oversensitive, much...?) but I was referring to MYSELF. I have nothing against those who choose to stay at home, I am just saying it's not for me! I'm sure you have other ways of keeping your brain busy... I for one PERSONALLY am craving the routine and mental challenge of my job- plus am finding it tough if I'm honest. All hail and I bow down to the SAHMs- I couldn't bloody well do it.

Kitchentiles- I can assure you I am making the most if my time with them. Like I said, we go out every day and are permanently busy. I love nothing more than dancing round the kitchen with my baby on my hip and the two year old dancing with me. I am happy to be with them. It's just not a permanent solution for me! I am lucky in that I'm a teacher so will be working my bum off in term time to be able to enjoy those precious moments in the holidays.

YANBU. I gave up work after dd and was perfectly content, but I was even happier when i got a part time job again when she was two. Consequently I returned after an 8 month maternity leave with ds. I adore my kids but I enjoy having other things to stimulate me too

Yanbu, OP.

I had planned on giving up work when I had my first, but after the first 6 months, I was desperate to get back to work. I felt so stifled being at home 7 days a week. I think I would have gone a bit mad if I had stayed a SAHM for much longer. My boss was happy for me to do 2 days and recruit for a job share. I was also lucky in that I had family desperate to help out.

It was the best thing I ever did as I feel I get the best of both worlds. A few years on, I now do 3 days and the 3rd day is completely flexible, ie I can choose what day to do and how long to work.

I admire SAHM, but it just was not for me.

Being made redundant is an entirely different kettle of fish to being a SAHM by choice, or indeed being on maternity leave. I'm struggling to see the comparison.

Should I have added the disclaimer: "I appreciate how lucky I am to actually have a job to go back to..." Obviously in this day and age that's true, but equally as obviously goes without saying!

I can only apologise profusely if there is anyone reading this who has been made redundant, has low self esteem and has been made to "feel shit" by my post.... (jeez! )