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Am I being over protective to be annoyed by school today

56 replies

bblp888 · 08/05/2012 19:42

My DS is 4, and started reception this year, the school is great and I am happy with it in general. I was upset today though as DS came home from school in another pair of trousers and said it was because he hadn't made it to the loo in time and had wet himself...so no big deal and all fine I thought. When I bathed him just then he was wearing the trousers and school pants but over the top of his wet pants, he says that the teaching assistant gave him the trousers and pants and took him to the loo but then some year six's came in, so she asked them to help him. They then started a game throwing his trousers to each other and down the loo and laughing. So he said he put the new pants and trousers on himself. So he sat in a wet pair of pants for the rest of the day, which must have been horrible. So I am annoyed that firstly they didn't check he was ok changing himself out of wet clothes (he's only 4.5 ) and secondly that they asked some year 6 boys to do it, the whole situation just sounds a bit mean to me, with them laughing and throwing his trousers around and I am annoyed by it. Do you think I am being over protective about this. DS seems oblivious to it and doesn't seem to have found any it upsetting!!

OP posts:
5318008 · 08/05/2012 19:44

Yanbu

Olympia2012 · 08/05/2012 19:47

AW bless him. Yanbu

halcyondays · 08/05/2012 19:48

Yanbu

imnotmymum · 08/05/2012 19:49

That is outrageous and un professional of the TA. I would be furious with this and their lack of caring is outrageous also.

FarSideOfFuckingBalloons · 08/05/2012 19:49

Yanbu who leaves 10 year old boys to change a wet 4 year old.

EclecticShock · 08/05/2012 19:49

YANBU, sounds very unprofessional IMO.

ClaireCodd · 08/05/2012 19:52

Yanbu. I would just have a word with teacher. Explain your DS does not seem effected, but you are a little concerned about the situation and could it maybe handled different next time, as he could get a complex if it were to happen again.

gaunyerseljeannie · 08/05/2012 19:52

YANBU.
The school need to know about it too, because in my DD's school that would be unacceptable.
Y6 and 7 buddies love their little buddies and would not behave like this, if the school had asked them to help with something.... (which to be honest in this case I think is really dodgy anyway?)
I just told my DD1 and she is horrified!
And where was the TA?
Phone them in the morning.

Coconutty · 08/05/2012 19:54

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thebody · 08/05/2012 19:58

Not acceptable for any of the children concearned.

Even child protection implications and distasteful and plain wrong.

Report

akaemmafrost · 08/05/2012 20:00

I would be seething at this, in fact I am just reading your OP.

Straight to HT, sorry but I so would be in her/his office first thing!

bblp888 · 08/05/2012 20:08

Glad you agree with me, I'm going to have a word to his teacher tomorrow. I just feel that I am turning into one of those parents, who always have to speak to the teacher about something. Also a bit worried as DS sometimes misses vital parts of the story and isn't that good at telling me things that go on at school, so for all I know he could have been laughing and enjoying the game (can't see how really though)

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imnotmymum · 08/05/2012 20:11

When I taught at primary no one was allowed to do changing if not have crb. Buddy system great but should not extend to this. I am not thinking for one minute the boys would abuse the situation but probably be embarrassed also that why made the joke. Lazy TA.

Groovee · 08/05/2012 20:12

What a lazy TA. I'd be fizzing if my dd was asked to change a child, it's not her job to do that, never mind a 4 year old going through that. I'd be getting that sorted with the management team ASAP

HandMini · 08/05/2012 20:14

OP, you should say something to school. Your poor polite DS. Its important that the school treat toilet accidents professionally, and they really didnt in this instance.

HumphreysCorner · 08/05/2012 20:25

Oh this is terrible, the year 6 girls used to help my DD's when they had an accident but they did it just fine.

tethersend · 08/05/2012 20:31

This is potentially very dangerous, and a breach of safeguarding procedure.

Children should never be asked to change other children's underwear. It puts both parties at risk; at risk of abuse and at risk of allegations of abuse.

Please take this to the head, it is very serious indeed.

Nanny0gg · 08/05/2012 20:33

The TA shouldn't have left him, it was her job to get him changed.
Definitely have a word with the teacher. It is completely unacceptable that he had to sit in wet clothes.
Also, make sure he knows how to make it known that he needs the loo to avoid it happening again.
If Year 6s were involved I am assuming that the TA didn't want to miss her break.

Willabywallaby · 08/05/2012 20:35

Yanbu

lagoonhaze · 08/05/2012 20:36

Straight to head! I'm not a complainer but this would have me seething!

gafhyb · 08/05/2012 20:37

You aren't being precious. You must mention it to the teacher. The TA should not have done that and the year 6's need a bollocking.

As tether said, this is a breach of safeguarding procedures

fluffypillow · 08/05/2012 20:38

This is just so wrong YANBU. You need to make some noise tomorrow IMO. This can't happen again to your DS, or anybody else.

gafhyb · 08/05/2012 20:38

Nanny
... more likely the TA was covering playground duty or a class, but whatever, not the right thing to do at all.

BigHairyFlowers · 08/05/2012 20:40

Yanbu. I'd be furious.

helenthemadex · 08/05/2012 20:41

totally inappropriate as others have said complain to the head

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