Sorry, another MIL thread. And sorry also that it's a bit dramatic and probably doesn't belong on AIBU but please bear with me, my head's everywhere at the moment.
I posted a few weeks ago in the relationships section about MIL and her visit to me and DH in the week after our son was born. I was asking then basically the same thing due to her general hurtful behaviour. I bit my tongue as we don't see much of her anyway and because I'm not very assertive.
Anyway, something really really awful happened to DH this week. I don't want to speak about what it was, but please trust me, it was so awful that he seemed to lose his mind and disappeared in the night a couple of nights ago. When I woke up at 7am, he was gone and so was his car. He'd left a note indicating that we'd all just be better off without him, left his mobile phone, and took no money or debit cards with him. I thought he'd killed himself.
I reported him missing to the police who were round straight away, asked for a picture of him, numberplate to track the car etc. I contacted his mum to let her know the situation and asking her to please get in touch if she heard anything from him or found out that he was safe. She said she'd ring me after she finished work...
Throughout the day more people got involved in looking for DH, his work colleagues, my family. I got more and more frantic at home with 4 week old DS, convincing myself DH must be dead. I called his mum a few more times throughout the day with no response, then after I kinew she would be home from work I called her mobile and landline a few times.
Eventually DH answers her landline. MIL lives on the opposite side of the country. He'd been with her for a few hours. I cry/shout etc and DH makes his way home (where he has now got help and will never ever ever be putting me or DS through something like that again. I'm not excusing his actions, I'm really angry at him but it's totally out of character and another issue altogether).
I can't get over MIL being so cruel knowing that I was in turmoil at home, that I was on my own with a tiny baby, worrying that DH was dead and for hours he was sat with her in her house. I can't believe she didn't call or even text just to say he was safe/alive/with her, and that she didn't answer or respond to any of my calls. For the first time I have pulled her up and told her this, to which she was completely indifferent and unapologetic. WIBU to have nothing more to say to her or to do with her given this and previous behaviour?
Please don't be too harsh, feeling fragile.