regarding my reaction to daughter's plans?

[TheUnMember]

She is 19 and recently told me that she is moving out and setting up home with her boyfriend. I tried to control my reaction but I couldn't. I let it all out. Now she's cross with me.

Why are you angry about her moving out / moving in with boyfriend?

Or maybe you weren't angry? Did you whoop for joy that she was finally going and start packing for her? Is that why she is cross?

What are you worried about? Dh and I moved in together when I was 17 and he was 18 and we managed fine.

Unless she is emotionally immature, let her get on with it, she's 19 fgs. Tell her her room will always be there for her. Support her and it will be easier for both of you, make it hard and you'll only alienate her HTH

What was your reaction and why?

YAprobablyBU though, I moved out of home when I was 17 and my boyfriend pretty much moved in with me soon after. It was fine.

Ah! Good point TooManyOddSocks!

What was your reaction?

I assume because she's so young, shandy?

TooManyOddSocks you're spot on. She seriously got the hump when I got back from the DIY shop today with paint and wallpaper samples. She even started to backtrack and say she doesn't think they'll be able to manage as they don't even have enough to buy a double bed. She got double grumpy when I offered to get them one. :o

You're not supposed to whoop with joy you know, you're meant to be a least a little bit sad that she's going says she who will be partying for England when DD finally goes.

TheUnMember My dad was the same as you when I moved out (in a nice way). I had barely moved out before he had moved his desk and computer in won't mention that I had to move back in with him when i was 4months pregnant and alone and it took me 2 years to move back out

I tried hell, really I tried.

If she comes back, she's in the cellar :o

Sounds like my mum who then sobbed when she dropped me off at halls

S'ok I know how you feel. DS had been gone a week when we started to re-decorate his room pink.

My poor dad had got used to the house to himself when I moved my pregnant self back in and was shortly followed by my Dsis and her DH!
He looks back on those 2years fondly (if with a slight twitch!)

I'm glad I'm not the only one! My dd is only 15 but today I was flicking through a homes magazine and planning what I would do with her bedroom when she has moved out!

She said she'd come back and stay at weekends if I wanted. At that point I realised how my husband feels when I ask if a particular outfit makes me look fat.

Yes. You're not suppose to dance around the house with joy like my mother did when I announced I was moving out to go back to Uni half way across the US.

True story.

I had a baby and my own house at 19. I think you're being a bit precious.

Have you actually read the thread, NenNen?

Classic 'didn't read the thread' by NenNen...

On a slightly more serious note, I am very, very happy. My daughter is autistic so seeing her prepare to make such a step into adulthood is a massive, choking with pride moment. She isn't capable of living independently, but she is capable of living with her boyfriend. They've been together 3 years and he adores her despite her being a complete pain in the arse. If I could choose her partner for her, it would have been him.

Carrying on with the serious note, do you think turquoise and pink would work for a hobby room? :o