Not want sex after having a baby

[Lovepjs]

Is it normal to still not want it 6 months after having baby?

Wow I'm jealous! I bled this time for about 6 weeks

We were back to it two weeks after each DC, lochia was just a normal period for me and lasted about a week. all the stitches with DC1 healed within a week and half, we were slow and careful, it was 'nice' sex rather than earth shattering, just what i needed tbh :)

On the other hand, my best mate had a planned section with no issues and didnt feel up to it for 12 months.

It really is so personal that there is no 'normal' imo.

Hope we both get some sleep soon Kitty!

Here here, catgirl!

Haven't read the whole thread so sorry if repeat things. We didn't have sex from very early in the pregnancy due to a previous miscarriage and then bleeding week 8 which scared the life out of us both. I had an ECS, DS was EBF & we just felt there was never a time where it didn't feel contrived. We went on holiday when DS was 12 weeks old and almost forced ourselves to do it (I realise that sounds horrible!) as we were starting to forget how it felt to be intimate with each other. It was very sporadic for the next 6 months (once a month if we were lucky at most) but we realised it was having a detrimental effect on our moods/relationship so we have started to make more of an effort. I must be honest and say initially I had to push remind myself to initiate (DH was wary of initiating as he was almost being too thoughtful) but I do feel a benefit. I think it's very individual so don't give yourself a hard time..but you may need to orchestrate a situation to get yourself back on track. I know I did!

My DS was waking up twice a night since age 2 months which was fine and he'd drink milk and go back to sleep. For the past 3 weeks he's been waking up and crying after a feed and will only be rocked back to bed with the sound of white noise. We started the white noise when he was 6 weeks and it's like he's addicted to it now. But if swaddling has stopped working try swaddling WITH white Noise. He's also been sucking his fingers a lot for the past 4 weeks which is why I might have started my period, but then my periods never stopped with Dd so I guess I'm lucky i had 4 months off.

YANBU
Too scared to get pregnant again, too fat, too tired, baby always there in the middle, basically can't be arsed.

My ds is 9 months , forceps delivery, epic fail at bf and PND since he was 3 days old.

We still haven't had any kind of sex!!! I'm a bit 'chemically neutered ' because of my meds and thankfully DH has been very patient.

Each to their own op.

I am almost crying with relief at all this.....I am at 11mo and we have attempted once...unsuccessfully as it turns out I am totally terrified of anything even remotely pointy going anywhere near my vagine.

So very very glad to find out I'm not the only one not bonking away merrily..

Thanks to everyone who posted ! Appreciate your honesty and it's now one less thing to worry about. It did make me smile how a thread about sex ended up discussing swaddling babies and tips for sleeping lol we can try to be sex kittens but at the end of the day the babies are always our main priority/concern

Correction to my post..... Ds is 11 months !!!! Makes it even worse :)