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to not like sharing a hotel room with anyone other than my DH and DC?

33 replies

ceebeegeebies · 04/05/2012 20:56

I know it may make me a bit weird but I really don't like sharing hotel rooms with family/friends - I like my own space Grin

I am a private person and feel really awkward when sharing small spaces (and going to the toilet etc) when with someone else.

Am going on my DSis's hen do tomorrow and sharing a hotel room with her tomorrow night and I feel uncomfortable about it. Also, 2 of my colleagues/friends are asking about sharing a family room on our Christmas Do and I just want to scream no but realise that would make me seem odd Hmm

Am I the only one who feels like this?

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surroundedbyblondes · 04/05/2012 21:02

A bit, though it's not so bad when it's good friends! I hate if I have ever had to share with a colleague at work things (training, teambuilding, etc.)

EndoplasmicReticulum · 04/05/2012 21:08

YANBU. I don't like it. I shared with a colleague on a school trip and got no sleep because of her snoring. I am also not good at being sociable in the mornings.

CrispyCod · 04/05/2012 21:08

I'm exactly the same. I like my own space and privacy.

LynetteScavo · 04/05/2012 21:18

YANBU.

People fart when they are asleep. Fact.

toastandmarmiterocks · 04/05/2012 21:36

Grin spot on LynetteScavo

EndoplasmicReticulum · 04/05/2012 21:36

Lynette I fart when I'm awake, too. Hate holding it in to be polite.

Sirzy · 04/05/2012 21:37

YANBU IF you are willing to pay the extra cost for the extra room. A lot of time room sharing makes it a much more affordable option

Gumby · 04/05/2012 21:38

You are not alone
I hate it
I can't poo in a hotel bathroom because it's too noisy & close to where the friend will be sitting
I worry about snoring
I look shite when I wake up!

CountessOlenska · 04/05/2012 21:40

YANBU, I hate it too. Just can't relax. Def wouldn't share with work people.

Springforward · 04/05/2012 21:42

YANBU.

echt · 04/05/2012 21:46

YANBU. My work arranged a weekend conference and said we all had to share rooms to save cost. I refused, saying I'd drive home every night and return every morning (and charge them the petrol).

It took several tedious conversations before they got it that under no circumstances would I share with a colleague.

I got my own room.

GirlWithALlamaTattoo · 04/05/2012 21:49

YANBU

HateBeingCantDoUpMyJeans · 04/05/2012 21:50

I would rather have my own room too, you have to be tidy when others are there.

JaxTellerIsMyFriend · 04/05/2012 21:51

I dont mind sharing with very good friends or family (close family) but wouldnt like to share with a colleague.

HappyJustToBe · 04/05/2012 21:52

YANBU. I'm sharing a room with two friends when we go away in a couple of weeks and whilst I'm looking forward to the trip I'm not looking forward to them hearing my night time ramblings.

ravenAK · 04/05/2012 21:54

Ugh, no, hate it.

I have one colleague I'll share with when I must - not that we're amazingly close friends, but we both feel the same distaste for the sharing malarkey so have a tacit agreement that we both get mildly pished, retire to bed with earphones & Kindle, & pretend the other is Not Really There.

Beaverfeaver · 04/05/2012 21:55

I am currently planning a wedding and my dsis is planning my hen.

For my wedding it is far away so we are putting everyone up in the hotel for 2 nights to help out.

I hate sharing with anyone so would assume everyone else is the same, this means that I have made sure that everyone has their own room. Not wanting anyone to be uncomfortable for 2 days.

My sister is planning my hen and I purposely requested no overnight stays to ensure there was no issue

DaDerDaDer · 04/05/2012 21:56

I love sharing with a friend. We end up talking really really late into the night whilst in bed, like being 13 again.

The whole toilet, dressing thing doesn't worry me, in fact again I love the evening getting ready together bit. Like being 13 again. Again.

I find it nice to be free of the family structure for a while and just be me with my friends...like we are 13 again....

But YANBU, I suspect many people feel like you and many feel like me. You're not weird, and I'm certainly not weirdGrin.

Changethatbulb · 04/05/2012 21:59

YANBU

I travelled (via coach) to Italy with my Mum which involved a stayover in France. I had requested twin beds. It was a double. I put a line of pillows down the bed and couldn't use the loo apart from having a wee!

I am still tainted by the memory of being forced to share a room at a work conference years ago with a colleague I barely knew. She strode out of the bathroom stark naked declaring "well, we're just girlies together aren't we"?.

Yes love, but I didn't need to see your tits and bush.

Brain bleach is still needed to this day.

InNeedOfAKickUpTheArse · 04/05/2012 22:00

It's horrible - especially the work colleagues thing. I've been known to say that I snore/sleep walk/talk/shout to get out of it. But to be honest, I don't even like sharing with my parents. Don't have to do it now but would find a way out if I had to!

Mrsjay · 04/05/2012 22:03

YANBU im a bit weird like that too for my lovely friends 40th weekend she suggested i share with her friend who was also going and i didnt know i booked a room for myself i cant be wandering about in my PJs infront of strangers Grin

EcoLady · 04/05/2012 22:21

On our most recent Brownie Pack holiday, I was sharing a room with the other Assistant Guider. She told me in the morning that she found it very comforting that I snore in exactly the same way as her husband. Blush

Geranium3 · 04/05/2012 22:41

no i hate it too though it is very reassuring to realize i am not thhe only one, i thought i was!! My friends are always dead keen to go away for girlie weekends and think half the fun is sharing,i make an excuse not to go as i wouldn't like to hurt their feelings by saying i want my own room!Maybe it's an age thing though as had some wondeful holidays in 20's and early 30's and loved sharing, now i need my own space!

BustersOfDoom · 04/05/2012 22:47

Last time I shared a hotel room was with a colleague when we went to see a show together. The hotel was a ten minute walk away from the venue and I had imagined we would go and have a drink afterwards and make the most of our night away and ability to have a sleep in. No chance! She wanted to go straight back to the hotel and go sleep. We were in bed with lights out at about 10.30pm! Wouldn't put up with that again and not really sure why I did at the time!

I refuse to share these days. I just tell people that I snore like a pig and will keep them awake all night, which is true according to DP and DS. Fortunately my employer does not expect people to share rooms, which is just as well as if they want me to stay away from home for work then they can stump up for a single room.

nothingoldcanstay · 04/05/2012 23:05

I hate it but saying that if you find someone cool and chilled out it's not as bad as you think. I actually ended up sharing a bed with my mate as they only had doubles and it was fine. Drinking lots helps!!

We had a great time and it was actually less hassle then sharing with my DP. The toilet thing normally gets me but we were both sympathetic to the situation and were happy to let the other have 5 mins alone in the room.