To go to cinema with male work colleague?

[Beaverfeaver]

I get on really well with a male work colleague. I see him as a very good friend.

However I am gettin married soon.

AIBU to want to go to cinema with him and without my partner?

AF, one word.
Pokemon.

Ohgodohgodohgod.

Ooh, KFC. Yummy.

However nandos is my current fave

Beaverfeaver...are you my daughter ?

Pokemon ? I would rather eat my own arm

Tin Tin was tolerable, I could at least appreciate the Gallic references, and imagine myself in Old France

the KFC gave me heartburn and gas, and some funny looks from the clientele

I like action movies, OH despises them. Over the many years of our relationship, he was delighted that I had friends to go with and not him. Now DS is old enough to enjoy them too, I tend to go with him. I still go to music festivals and the theatre with my best friends, most of whom are men and several of them married.

I think by the time the third Pokemon movie came out I was ready to perform a DIY lobotomy rather that be conscious of what I was enduring.

Well he cancelled anyway. Turns out e does like me more as a friend. Nothing serious.

Now my dilemma is: I really want to stay friends with this guy, but I now fear he will stay clear, to protect his feelings.
Is ther another way to save the friendship?

Am married, but have been to cinema, gigs, theatre and lunches/dinner with a (straight) male friend. I have no problem with this, neither does DH. Should anyone have any issue with this, they should speak directly to me (or, in this case you, OP) and they shall be set in the right direction (ie grow up and MYOB)

The sooner we realise that we don't have male "good friends" the better.
There will always be more to it from one or both parties, whether they admit to it or not.

Whatever you say toofat. If that's how it is for you, I'm not going to attempt to change your mindset.

Talk of 'saving' the friendship seems a bit melodramatic: either you are friends or you aren't. If he chooses to back off, just let him. Nobody signed a contract.

That has been my experience each and every time I have had a good male friend. There's been an attraction whether its from my side or theirs.

Even if you find someone attractive that doesn't mean you actually want to do anything about it. You can think 'yeah if we were both single I might sleep with you, but actually, it wouldn't work as a relationship.' It's different if one person is secretly harbouring notions that you may one day be their DP.

I lived in a shared student house for years, with several fellow students who were male. At one point, I was the only girl with 5 male housemates. Several of them are still close friends now. Of course I liked them, a couple of them I love like brothers.
But no lust, philia not eros. Not on their side either. My DD has a couple of similar relationships although her best friend is female.
Why does that seem so impossible?

YABU. I did this years ago to see Jurassic Park. Said colleague suddenly blurted out, very loudly "FUCK ME, THEY'RE REAL!!!"

I was mortified that people might think he was my DP :o

If your fiance doesn't have a problem with it then I don't see why you can;t go.

As long as DP knows, what's the problem ?

If your fiance does have a problem with it I'd think that was rather a bad thing.

Friendship is a Good Thing. We need friends. Some of them may - gasp - be equipped with different genitals and/or a sexual orientation which matches ours. It is, IMO, possible to spend an evening with a friend you do even find quite attractive without the two of you ripping each other's clothes off to have wild animal sex in a carpark.