To go to cinema with male work colleague?

[Beaverfeaver]

I get on really well with a male work colleague. I see him as a very good friend.

However I am gettin married soon.

AIBU to want to go to cinema with him and without my partner?

worra I can't imagine what his motive could be - cinema is public place. Not like we are going back to each others houses

I've done it often, my friends and I have shared interests that my OH often doesn't share. I've been to concerts, cinema, theatre and dayschools with friends who are male.
Fortunately I have sensible friends all round and OH isn't the stupidly jealous or possessive type, Neither am I, which is good considering the number of female musicians and singers he hangs about with.
I tend to lump office gossipers along with those that watch JK, live through soap operas and generally have very little, petty and conventional lives. So their opinions are irrelevant to me.

I mean 'motive' as in him thinking it's just one step down from a date

Nothing sinister

birds, you are being quite, quite silly

if your life with your P is so "restrictive" get out of it

but don't keep secrets that will potentially blow up in your face

that's teenage stuff, that is

I've even slept at friends' houses after I was married without my owner husband. Wanton, that's me.

going to the cinema is usually "first date" territory to be honest.. and if colleagues have suggested to him that he back off, then it sounds to me as if he appears to have more than a friendly interest...

Really?
Fuck me, all those missed opportunities I was obviously oblivious to.

OP, you want to see the same film twice within a couple of weeks ?

why ?

tell your friend to go with someone else who hasn't seen it

squeakytoy I just feel its all quite harmless, work colleagues (ages 55+) do not

anyfucker have you seen it? It is amazing! Well worth second viewing

what fantastic piece of cinematic history is this ?

Why did you not ask the friend to come along with you and your partner when you went to see it the first time?

The avengers :D

I'm not even into comics, but it is fucking amazing cinematography

I saw Star Wars 6 times when it first came out.
A good film is worth a revisit, like a good book. DS and I are going to see The Avengers on saturday.

THe Avengers ?

YABU

Squeaky - we went spur of the moment last Saturday.

Didn't even realise it had been releaed

yes, I saw Star wars several times

I was about 12

Because when you go with your partner, it is a date. So who wants or needs a friend along?

For me this is a new issue that has come about at a difficult time, in what is in other ways a good relationship. I am sorry that it didn't come up sooner so that we could have dealt with it differently.

Anyfucker - YABU for telling me IABU!

:D
Don't knock it just yet

P.s. can't wait for the new batman!

I am married and go to the cinema with my male single straight mate.

I also go away to conventions and sometimes share a room.

(shrug)

It's all about open honesty and trust

I can quite safely say I won't be going to the cinema to see The Avengers

nor Batman

I did see TinTin in 3D with a male ...my 11 yo son

never again

BGF, you really need to talk with your partner. I couldn't have an extended relationship with an insecure man who felt threatened by my other friendships, or past relationships.
It would be a dealbreaker if I had to drop platonic friendships because he was jealous and possessive.

I was dragged to KFC too, am still traumatised

Another sane person in the melee. Hurrah!