to fecking well hate being a SAHM!!!!

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I know I should be grateful for my DCs blah de blah and I really am. I adore them but in small doses. My 4th toddler (the others are all school age) is amazing and adorable but is driving me nuts. I am so done with tantrums, screeching, running off and fucking Peppa Pig!!!

I have been desperately looking for a job but am getting no where, due to part it seems to me being at home now for over 3 years. I have had a wild thought of starting my own business just so I can claim tax credits for childcare costs. It will be something I have always wanted to do but never had the balls to. The initial financial outlay will be minimal and I will start small but I have very big plans if it takes off. I may not make any money at all from it but I could actually do very well. At the very least it may save my sanity. AIB ridiculously U?

YANBU

Good luck

Go for it, and YANBU

if it saves your sanity then go for it!!

YANBU- its entirely normal to want to do more than just be at home, and after 4 toddlers I'm not surprised you're climbing the walls! Go for it

YANBU. Hope your business idea works for you.

24 hour childcare is not for everyone, and it sounds like you have done plenty of it over the last few years. I am the opposite - I absolutely love being a SAHM and I don't want to give it up just yet, so I have trained as a childminder to make staying at home more staying sustainable for me. Working mums are my bread and butter I kind of see this as practical feminism in a way - we can all do the jobs we would prefer to do and the children still get to be cared for by people who have energy and enthusiasm for it on a day-to-day basis.

Good luck!!

YANBU (as long as it isn't cupcake related).

I didn't know you could claim child tax credits if you run your own business. I'm in the process of starting a business and help towards child care would help enormously. Is it means tested?

YANBU

Staying at home with small children all day would drive me insane. Children are great but 24/7 - no way!

Good for u, I run a child minding business so guess that's just up your street??? Ha ha

Some do like SAHMdom, some don't. Do what works for you to keep your sanity!

YANBU. I can't stand Peppa Pig

This book www.susanjeffers.com/home/detailtemplate.cfm?catID=2234 is great for working through what's holding you back.

Good luck x

Oh thank you for reinforcing that this is right. I am afraid, very afraid, but also very, very excited. I feel more alive than I have for a long time. I have read that book Bishoplyn .

I do feel terribly guilty that I don't want to be with DC4 all day but I feel I have nothing to lose. If he is unhappy, I will put my business on hold and anyway i will be able to work as little or as much as I want with no employer! OMG that will be amazing!

BonnieBumble - you can get childcare tax credits when you are self employed depending on your household income. My DH is not earning that much so we qualify. The hardest thing is estimating how much money you will be bringing in with a new business but HMRC have said that you can call them to update whenever the income goes up or down. I don't expect to make anything for the 1st 3 months at least so we will have to find 30% of the childcare costs from our normal income until I get some money coming in. Our tax credits will also decrease due to my 'earned income' (have to give HMRC an estimate for the year). Things will be a bit tight initially but hopefully well worth it.

I feel your pain OP.

I worked up until 37/8 weeks, and had 12 weeks mat leave. Oh.My.Dayz. I didn have a screaming toddler, granted but i hated it. I love my DD, but it was boring, repetative, i lost self confidence, i was shattered, urgh.

I could not be a SAHM!

YANBU.

I was forced into being a SAHM by redundancy. I've tried to make the best of it for the sake of my DCs, but it's not for me!

greenbananas, what a nice post, I would like my children to be looked after by a childcarer with this type of great attitude.

YANBU good luck :)

I work full time, but funny hours so I can still see a lot of the DCs. I need the balace between being at home and escaping to work, and I know how lucky I am to have it.

greenbananas that was a great post :)

Yanbu - it's relentless day in day out- I am soon pleased to be at work somedays ( I work 3 days a week), I can't imagine not having it ( even if it has cost me over £100 a day in childcare to be there in the past)

yanbu
i am rubbish at being a SAHM

I work mostly for my mental health. and i have enough left over after childcare and running the car to afford a takeway and a nice bottle of wine now and again, which suits me .

Go for it with your business idea!

YANBU

I dropped DD off at nursery today, waved cheerfully at her departing backside and wished the staff good luck. 48 hours of screaming frustrated non verbal toddler with no chance to play outdoors was hell.

I got my americano, went to work, worked hard from 9-5 felt shattered and yet a he'll of a lot better than my days at home. I love my daughter, I love being a mum, I also love doing baking, sewing, playdough but toddlerdom is such such hard work.

Good luck!

I have never enjoyed motherhood more than when I returned to work. Go for it.

Go for it ! I totally understand where you're coming from.

Oh my goodness... 4...!

YANBU in the slightest - I am on the verge of full time return to work after 2. Don't blame you at all.

Good luck!

YANBU at all - I was going nuts as a SAHM after my second DC, I would have been mental after four.

Peppa pig was banned in this house before I even had my baby. Urgh