Just pondering really (not a tread about a thread but inspired by one)
I used to work in a shop and one day worked with another lady. I had one of those bosses who disliked young staff so it was always
'Kayano I need you to do x, y z'
'joyce would you like a cuppa'
'Kayano why isn't a,b,c done?!'
Errr because I was doing x, y, z
'just make sure it's done'
While clinking teacups with Joyce.
So I was on edge all the time anyway about not being liked even though I tried.
There was another woman... We will call her Mary. Mary would question me constantly over and over again about money. Not my money but shop money.
I would take a £20 note for a newspaper for example and issue change. Mary would be over to me in a shot
'what did you do with the £20?'
'I put it in the till'
'are you sure you took that £20?'
'yes I did'
'you haven't left it lying around or not put it in till?'
I often felt like 'FFS WOMAN I have not put it in my pocket it's in the MOFO TILL!' (not that I ever said this...
It got my back up because she used to do this in front of the boss who didn't much like me anyway and his eyebrow would always be up and staring at me. He started to double check the tills despite being cashed up correctly and having the exact money they should while I was there. My mum worked there too and this never happened so she wasn't happy and I soon left.
I honestly thought Mary was mean and a stirrer who was determined to get NE in trouble or sacked! I actually told my mother I hated her and she was making my life a misery at work. (it wasn't just money it was everything)
My mum later starts working with Mary and the same thing starts. Mum has a word. Turns
Out Mary had severe OCD. (I would recognise signs now but I hadn't heard of it then) and was diagnosed and everything.
I just thought there are so many mental health issues that are hidden away and people think of them as bad and shameful and it's a shame. I Mary had actually told me I would have been more understanding and not so upset and feeling victimised at work. My boss might have been more understanding and not always checking my till loads. I wouldn't have resented Mary.
It just made the whole situation worse. She knew she was doing it as I said a few times 'why are you asking again?' 'I PROMISE the money is where it should be...' etc
I know some people would find it hard to admit to some issues but honestly I just wish I'd known. I quit my job (for a better one as it turned out) and my mum was put in a terrible position over it :(
So AIBU to think openness in some situations such as this would be a good thing?