I know she's being unreasonable but I kind of see her point ... what would you do?

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DD1 (age 13) has a face like a cross between a slapped arse and a wet month of Sundays.

She does athletics. She's always in the school squad.

Except not this time.

Because we were at a funeral on the day of the try-outs (Thursday) and there's no exceptions the team is picked.

But it's not her fault she wasn't sick, or dodging practice, it was a genuine family funeral.

She's saying she's fine, but she's not really.

WWYD?

So far I've tried to be sympathetic but I'm losing patience, and at the end of the day I do think the school are being a bit harsh. But I've not told her that lol.

Thank fuck for a teacher with a bit of compassion and some common sense!

So glad it worked out op.

Oh hurrah! I am also glad that it worked out for her. And a bit peeved that her form tutor was so "suck it up" instead of "go and have a word to the PE teacher" about it.

Form tutor is about as much use as a chocolate chastity belt ...

It's a GRRRRRRR but a learning experience too. Secondary school is like this. We have had the same with DS re claskes of commitments (even within school with different departments- why oh why can they NOT hold a concert on the day of a crucial rugby match for senior team selection etc etc).

Ultimately you and your DD made a (correct IMHO) choice to prioritise family. THere are going to be a lot of similar hard choices in life and it's OK to be sad/grumpy about the bits that can't have an easy solution.

Like the idea of out of school athletics too- but be are there eill be more conflicts with this too!

Oh we've had netball and hockey matches on at the same time.

She's in both A squads ....

Personally I think school are being absolutely vile and I would tell them so!

It's not the way to treat a pupil who always turns up and works hard.

That's great, so just one idiot at school (form tutor) and not the whole lot of them being crazy! A victory for the PE department. chokes as thinks that's the first time in my life I've held a positive opinion of a PE teacher

I do not think anyone is being unreasonable. Poor kid, poor you, poor school for missing out on a top athlete.

Yip basically she spoke to form tutor who said tough - and DD decided to leave it and not take it any further she's obviously not as stroppy as her mother

And the PE teacher passed her in the corridor and said "DD1 stop right there. Why weren't you at athletics?"

That's fantastic news! Very pleased for your daughter :)

sorry, much easier to scan the thread on the PC with the OP highlighted, glad PE are nice and sensible.

Yes, I can say it's the first time in my life too that a PE teacher is in my good books

Although the cynical bit of me says it's only because they want to win

Oh just read update !! hurray for common sense good luck to her!

Great news for DD.

Don't think about the PE teachers motivation too hard!!

Form teacher is a prat.. it's something DD needs to think about/be told... asking the right person (ie the organ grinder and not the monkey ) not the nearest person!

Thank good for common sense

V pleased for your DD. Hope she wins!!