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Original poster

to wonder where the stupid fucker has got to?

60 replies

DameHermione · 28/04/2012 23:11

Dh has gone out on a jolly. He isn't back yet.

The weather is dreadful. V v v windy and rainy.

If the stupid fucker got the bus they planned on getting he should have been back an hour ago.

I am most certainly not going to pick up. I have had a glass of wine.

Stupid fucker has also left his mobile here at home.

Stupid fucker also has a habit of getting absolutely legless occasionally.

I have to work at the crack of dawn tomorrow and could do without a broken night wondering where he is.

I am more than a bit cross.

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BlueRinse · 28/04/2012 23:40

He is a stupid fucker.

Such a shame you can't sleep, you shouldn't need to wait up for a grown man.

WorraLiberty · 28/04/2012 23:40

You don't even know he's got so pissed he's missed the last bus though do you?

Really, this is your problem that you're projecting here.

If he's gone out and he's got a key to get home, what's the big deal?

Mrsjay · 28/04/2012 23:40

does he need to be up for the kids if you are working or are the old enough to sort themselves ? If they are old enough id just go to sleep and laugh at his hangover

Morloth · 28/04/2012 23:49

I don't get it. So what if he missed the last bus, how is that your problem.

I go out sometimes and come home late, as long as I don't wake anyone and am not needed for anything, I am a grown up and can do as I like.

minimisschief · 28/04/2012 23:51

well arent you a nice person. calling your parner a stupid fucker for going out and enjoying himself.

WorraLiberty · 28/04/2012 23:52

I'm just trying to imagine the same thread started by a man asking where the stupid bitch has got to Grin

I'm guessing the angry replies would run into the hundreds within the hour.

SerendipitousHarlot · 28/04/2012 23:53

Erm - with all due respect, he's not your son, he's your partner. I'd be really irritated by someone reacting like you to me going out for a few drinks.

winnybella · 28/04/2012 23:53

I don't see the problem, either Confused He's presumably an adult? If there are no young children to take care of in the morning, why can't he have an evening out? It's not that late.

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DameHermione · 29/04/2012 00:59

No sign.

To get home now would need a taxi costing more than £50. Or maybe a hotel costing more. Money i have to get up at 5.30 to go and earn.
If you get so pissed you don't go home you are a stupid fucker. Male or female.

I am awake because i also worry that he is lying in a ditch somewhere. Althogh i don't know why as he obviously doesn't.

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DameHermione · 29/04/2012 01:00

And 13 hours of drinking is not a few drinks.

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DameHermione · 29/04/2012 01:01

And i'm not waiting up. I'd rather be asleep.

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PurpleRomanesco · 29/04/2012 01:06

This is shit, How are you Dame?

It would be different if he was in town or at the local so I get where you are coming from, £50 is a HUGE amount of money for a taxi home so anyone accusing OP of being overbearing needs a reality check IMO.

Has he done this before?

IAmBooyhoo · 29/04/2012 01:09

i think he could have found a way to phone you at least to let you know he wasn't in a ditch, assuming he isn't. for that he is an arse. (again, assuming he is ok)

IAmBooyhoo · 29/04/2012 01:10

do you have numbers for anyone he is out with?

Mia4 · 29/04/2012 01:11

Go to bed and try to ignore that he's not back. Chance are he's being an idiot and passed out somehwere or kipped around a friends rather then anything else. Bes bet is not to get yourself stressed and wound up, it isn't worth it. Currently the only thing keeping you up is you, so go and sleep.

McPhee · 29/04/2012 01:12

My DP would have his knob missing if he did this.

I hope when he appears he has a very good excuse!

PurpleRomanesco · 29/04/2012 01:15

I agree Booy. If OP was under the impression he was (at least) getting the last bus then surely it's just right to let her know otherwise. Of course this will cause worry.

Being out 13 hours drinking with no contact is not normal. I do hope he is OK.

kittyandthefontanelles · 29/04/2012 02:28

Any sign?

WheresMrMonkey · 29/04/2012 02:36

I have had the same thing, he has just got back and thrown up everywhere- then sparko, I am full of cold and so seething with rage I can't sleep. Sooooooooo angry. And I guess I will be up with 13mo Dd though promised a lie in. Fed up of broken promises. It's making me plan on leaving, can't take it anymore

PurpleRomanesco · 29/04/2012 02:54

Thrown up everywhere? Try and wake him up!

I'm up if you can't sleep.

WheresMrMonkey · 29/04/2012 03:00

Out the window, mainly, found him cleaning it up- he will be fine. But thank you for worrying. Just feel so dreadful myself, wish I could just turn off the resentment and get to sleep

likelucklove · 29/04/2012 03:11

Joining you ladies - I want to scream!

He was supposed to be back at 12.30 which I thought was very good. He's out wetting DD's head while I look after her. I'm ill and am not doing well due to PND. Then he does this.

What is it about tonight and these darling men of mine?

I wouldn't worry so much if there hadn't been an incident a year and a half ago where after a night of drinking he tried to commit suicide. He doesn't get why I can't forget it and I don't get how he thinks I can Sad

Sorry for the hi jack I hope your OH is now home Dame and yours is behaving for you other poster (sorry, forgot name and I'm on iPhone!)

likelucklove · 29/04/2012 03:11

Mine = ours

One is all I can handle

PurpleRomanesco · 29/04/2012 03:13

Prop him on his side with a few pillows at his back just in case he is boaky in his sleep, Then you go to sleep yourself.

I hope you feel better soon.

PurpleRomanesco · 29/04/2012 03:22

Oh likeluck, If you have PND then (given your worries about his past incident) could you phone a member of your family or a friend?

I know how hard it is when someone says "I'll be home at 12:30" and they are late when you have PND, An hour feels like a lifetime.

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