to worry about this?

[Springsister]

I'm away on a course this weekend and dh is looking after dc
I just rang him and he sounded a bit pissed. He said he had only had 3 cans and was planning one more 2before bed .

I asked him if that was a good idea since he is on his own. He said he would be fine.

I just rang again to tell him something and he is not answering.

Oops this should be in relationships how do I get it moved?

Probably because he thinks you are going to have another go at him...

I didn't have a go. Just questioned his judgement. Probably pissed him off tho

How much does he normally drink?

Would three/four cans render him incapable?

You're thinking worse case scenario which is improbable, I wouldn't start worrying about it just yet.

How old is your DS?

He doesn't drink much so four cans will definately make him slurry.

I'm probably overthinking.
Not used to leaving dc.

I would be pretty pissed off with dp if he drank three cans while in sole care of the dc's. Unless they are teenagers in which case YABU

21 months and 4yo

3/4 cans of what? Does he normallly drink super strength lager and would he be crazy drunk on that amount or does he normally drink a weak lager? I wouldn't be hugely drunk on 3/4 cans of normal strength lager

21 mth does sleep through now but wakes early.

You have pissed him off because you don't trust him to look after his own children.

Not surprised he won't answer the phone tbh

Just normal lager

Three cans of lager is no worse than three glasses of wine, and there are plenty of single parents who have no choice but to stay in, and have a drink at home on their own.

That amount of alcohol is not likely to render a person senseless or stop them from dealing with any emergencies.

No different to most people here on the drunk threads having a vatbottle of wine.......

True squeaky.
I'm probably a bit paranoid cos my mum was an alcoholic and often passed out on sofa. It's given me a fear.
Pissed off he won't pick.up though. He knows I'm worried

Unless you're steaming drunk, you soon sober up if something important happens.

I'd be a bit pissed off with him too, but then I'm not used to leaving the kids either. Would you let your babysitter babysit the kids with 3 or 4 glasses of wine on board? Hardly. Men are silly sometimes. Yes I'd be fairly pissed off with him.

Having said that, he'll probably be fine, manage on autopilot. 3 or 4 drinks isn't too much.

How would you feel if he had gone away for the weekend and rang up to speak to you, and implied that you were being a crap irresponsible parent because you have had a couple of drinks.

If the kids were in bed, and he was relaxing on the sofa, possibly nodding off, he could have sounded a bit more pissed than he actually is...

A babysitter drinking is a different thing. A babysitter is a person being paid to do a job, not a parent relaxing in their own home.

Totally understand where you're coming from so, if your mum was a drinker. No wonder you're fretting. 3 or 4 isn't a whole lot, as has been said above, it's only one nightyou're away for, the evidence is that your DH is responsible and caring etc. So nothing is likely to change overnight.

I'd be pretty pissed off, actually.

What if he had to take your DC to the out of hours?

Or would be be too smashed to even realise the children were ill?

3 cans of normal lager?

That's about 2 and a half pints

I don't even understand how he's slurring to be honest.

Squeaky I didn't imply that. I just said do you think its a good idea.

Dc wakes early.

Guess I am worrying over nothing really

Good to hear all your opinions. Thanks :)

I know you didnt imply that, or didnt mean to, but that may be how he has taken it. And is how I would have taken it too if someone had said that to me.

What if he had to take your DC to the out of hours?

Taxi? like anyone else who has had a drink, or who doesnt have a car..