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Original poster

to be a bit put out that DM readers gave me 39 red thumbs down? Bastards!

38 replies

girlynut · 27/04/2012 23:18

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2133989/No-jealous-siblings-How-parents-bringing-kids-delivery-room-witness-new-babys-birth.html

I know.... it's the Daily Mail. But I'm quite surprised at how extreme some of the comments are. Are all DM readers a bit mental? (except me of course! I was just browsing.)

I'm sure Mumsnetters would give a much more balanced view... Wink

OP posts:
2shoes · 27/04/2012 23:20

yabu
because I don't want to click on a link

GwendolineMaryLacey · 27/04/2012 23:22

I love it. The more red arrows I get the more sane I know I am!

squeakytoy · 27/04/2012 23:23

I have to say I disagree with your point.

TheFarSide · 27/04/2012 23:24

I don't give the DM any hits if I can help it, so you'll have to summarise the gist. (Are you one of them secret DM promoters?).

carernotasaint · 27/04/2012 23:25

Im with Gwendoline on this one.

lisad123 · 27/04/2012 23:26

i think YAbu to care what they think Grin

Original poster
girlynut · 27/04/2012 23:27

Secret DM promoters? Didn't know there was such a thing! Definitely not!

The article was about siblings being present at baby's birth. Myself and another woman posted about having older siblings present during home births. And I was just a bit taken aback at the barrage of venom from others! Birth was equated to 'torture'! Bit OTT really?

OP posts:
MissCeliaFoote · 27/04/2012 23:28

YABU. Never post a serious comment on the Daily Mail. It is, however, the only place where I very much enjoy trolling. If you write outlandishly left-wing comments, the backlash is amazing!

WhaleOilBeefHookedIWill · 27/04/2012 23:28

Why would anyone want their child to see them giving birth? FFS boundaries!!

Original poster
girlynut · 27/04/2012 23:28

lisa - i'm very 'externally referenced'! i shouldn't care but i do!

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WorraLiberty · 27/04/2012 23:29

I really don't want kids wandering in and out of the room when I'm trying to shit a fridge.

DrCoconut · 27/04/2012 23:31

I have had more red arrows than RAF Scampton on there because I have disagreed with the hang em and flog em brigade, said that immigrants are not all evil swan eaters and that working mums are not the work of the devil. It can be fun to see. Join mailwatch if you have not already done so, that is even more fun.

Original poster
girlynut · 27/04/2012 23:31
Grin
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doormat · 27/04/2012 23:32

i wouldnt want any of my lads seeing my faj, let alone my girls...that is a grim thought...

Softlysoftly · 27/04/2012 23:36

If yours is the comment I think it is agreeing with the woman who states "if you're going to make a fuss and get an epidural at the first twinge...." then sorry but yabvu. I totally think you deserved the thumbs down.

No woman should get to judge or comment on another's labour experience, pain threshold or method of birthing until they have implanted themselves into that woman's mental and physical state, it's judgemental and as you have named yourself "hypno mum" helps confirm the Daily Fails opinions on this type of mother being smug and hippyish, instead of helping the cause so to speak.

whomovedmychocolate · 27/04/2012 23:37

Well it'd clear up any misinformation about birds and bees that's for sure Grin

WorraLiberty · 27/04/2012 23:37

I thought the OP was the one with the birthing pool and her son telling everyone at school he'd seen his Mum's fanjo?

Shagmundfreud · 27/04/2012 23:38

~Awww - have 'liked' your comment.

Don't take it to heart.

They is all 'orrible on that site.

WorraLiberty · 27/04/2012 23:39

Don't you have to register anyway to comment?

I would have thought so?

ImperialBlether · 27/04/2012 23:42

When my kids are in the room, I see myself as their protector. If I was giving birth and they were there, I would find it hard to experience it properly; I'd be wondering if they wanted a drink or if they were getting upset or bored etc.

But YABU for posting on the Daily Mail site - are you Disgusted from Tunbridge Wells?

toofattorun · 27/04/2012 23:43

Each to their own. Both my births were very long and complicated. I would have traumatised by DC if he had seen any if it!

Shagmundfreud · 27/04/2012 23:45

I think it's funny that so many comments about birth being 'private' don't acknowledge the fact that most people experience it surrounded by strangers.

Personally I'd rather have my child in the room while I gave birth than some 19 year old student doctor. My child watches me have a bath, sees me naked and wanders in when I'm on the loo. So far I've not noticed him being traumatised by the experience.

As for children becoming distressed - well, that's why you have someone there: to whisk them away if they get upset. But they don't usually from what I can tell.

WorraLiberty · 27/04/2012 23:49

I'd worry my kids would have been upset with the baby for 'hurting mummy'...so I'd try to hide any twinge or pain from them.

It's not about privacy for me, it's about not wanting my kids to see me in pain for any reason if I can avoid it.

MardyBra · 27/04/2012 23:54

Myself posted?

Sorry I don't normally nitpick on grammar but wtf.

WorraLiberty · 28/04/2012 00:00

Perhaps she thought she was answering Lord Sugar Grin

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