to be a bit put out that DM readers gave me 39 red thumbs down? Bastards!

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www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2133989/No-jealous-siblings-How-parents-bringing-kids-delivery-room-witness-new-babys-birth.html

I know.... it's the Daily Mail. But I'm quite surprised at how extreme some of the comments are. Are all DM readers a bit mental? (except me of course! I was just browsing.)

I'm sure Mumsnetters would give a much more balanced view...

Agree with softlysoftly above. You come across smug and judgemental.
You shouldn't judge another women's birth experience.

I wouldn't have wanted my dcs there...didn't even have dh there for one of them.
In fact I didn't even want to be there

not everyone has a Heidi Klum soft focus birthing experience.

Well I feel well and truly judged by you and the other smug one who commented.

I think it´s because you sound smug & not very nice tbh.

I wouldn't want my children to see me in pain either. I wasn't really with it during either of my births, I went into my own dark little place and wasn't very aware of my surroundings which I think would have been quite scary for my children to see. Plus all that gore. I think that would be frightening for them.

I block DM on my laptop so I can never ever be tempted to give them the clicks.

There won't be one decision that's right for all parents and all kids.

OK not the same but I had a dilemma when the cat died about whether to let them see her dead body (not squashed or owt but definitely cold). I decided on balance not to. Based on their ages, temperaments and a general instinct - had they been a wee bit older and circumstances were different I'd have made a different decision.

Planning a home birth I'd probably make arrangements for them to be elsewhere as you never know where the process might end up, a good birth might be fascinating and reassuring for them, but if it went a bit scary this could worry them.

I honestly can't think of anything worse than giving birth with your other children there. I gave birth in hospital both times but when I had dd2 my labour progressed quite quickly and when we were still at home dd1 was worried and scared although she was ok when she realised what was happening. No way would I want my children being there through the whole thing. And I don't have someone that could whisk children away anyway.

People tend to get red arrowed if they sound smug, no screaming agony or copious loss of blood, good for you.

YABVU to put a link to that misogynistic site on here

This app saves me from any angry making exposure though. It's almost worth clicking the link to have a smile on my face from the Oh no! that site's horrible... message

I can´t get the link between being there at the birth & no jealousy tbh.

I'm not surprised you got a negative response given that you were agreeing with Miss Smuggy McSmug of Smughampton. "If you're going to make a fuss...."

Really?

No-one has the right to judge anyone else's experience. I had 2 rapid deliveries with no pain relief and quick recoveries. This doesn't make me better than someone who had the whole catalogue of interventions - it just makes me much luckier. Those of us who get through childbirth fairly easily really should be humbled by those who have a tough time and get through it, not smug about it.

Totally agree with kung fu ^