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I'm a bit 50/50, so I'll go with the majority

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Smellslikecatspee · 27/04/2012 19:20

OH has a run on Sunday, very very long run.

He wants me to come watch, there is no shelter, no, well basically it'll be standing on the side of the road for about 4 hours.

This isn't a special run or anything, it's a rehearsal for one later in the year,that I will be attending.

I really don't want to go it'll be me and his running club.

I'm working tomorrow, so Sunday will be my only day off.

Should I go?

OP posts:
Lovemygirls · 27/04/2012 19:37

No way would I be there.

blabalalalablabla · 27/04/2012 19:38

Definitely No

JustFab · 27/04/2012 19:41

Mine would probably ban me from going!

DaisyMaisyJessicaEmily · 27/04/2012 19:46

no.

Nanny0gg · 27/04/2012 19:49

Nope.
Stay at home and maybe bribe with the offer of the really nice meal you can cook cos you've been at home all day.

Or just, No.

Rhubarbgarden · 27/04/2012 19:50

No. I used to go and watch DH play sport. Boring as hell. Stopped going once the honeymoon period was over about twice.

NagooIsBuildingAnArk · 27/04/2012 19:52

NO.

Maybe wave him off if you're feeling generous.

Why would you go and watch? Why would he want you to?

warmandwooly · 27/04/2012 19:52

No

IslaValargeone · 27/04/2012 19:54

As the majority is in favour of you staying at home, my post is probably rather pointless, however, I think you should go :o He obviously wants you there for some support.
Although I do think pombear's idea is fab

defineme · 27/04/2012 19:59

Is this a really special achievement for him? Is he new to this running stuff?

Can't you just meet up at the end and go for lunch/drive him home or something?
I take it the road won't be lined with other partners from the running club?

Does he usually espect you to trail ropund after him?

Butwhatdoyoudoallday · 27/04/2012 20:03

I'd go if I were you. In fact I am going on Sunday to watch DH in a marathon, miles from home, standing around in the cold with a hangover (hen night on Saturday) because I support him in his hobbies.

If your DH is doing Milton Keynes I'll meet you for a coffee!

WhereYouLeftIt · 27/04/2012 20:04

No, I would not go. Is there travel involved to get to where he is running? So it would be 4 hours plus travel, and maybe not worth the travelling time plus ten minutes to see him finish?

I went once to watch DH participate in a bike race, round and round a disused airfield. Never again.

Lemonsqueegie · 27/04/2012 20:05

Christ no.
Watch back to back Desperate Housewives/Homeland/Other TV Tat lying in bed like a starfish and eating Crunchies. Then take him to the pub for a late lunch. x

Yama · 27/04/2012 20:05

No. Not if you are going to watch later in the year.

Bit crap that he's asking but he'll get over it.

usualsuspect · 27/04/2012 20:05

No

defineme · 27/04/2012 20:11

I hope there's mutual support there butwhatdoyoudoallday? Do you do anything that entails similar support.

Is it not a bit weird to go to training?
Dh did amdram and obviously I went to the show but I'd look like a tit turning up at rehearsals.

My Dad had an all consuming outdoor sport hobby and I was resentful that every weekend and holiday was dictated by it and I spent much of my childhood marooned on hillsides. Then he died doing it Sad so perhaps I'm the wrong person to comment.

Just imagining if I went to my Mum's crochet class or dh's gym sessions-still finding this odd.

But then I have friends who do everything together -every tedious shopping trip/errand and so on and I find that odd too...Perhaps I am too self interested.
Will go and show an interest in what dh's book that he's reading is like.

KurriKurri · 27/04/2012 20:13

God no, don't go it sounds incredibly dull - he'll probably re-enact the whole thing when he gets home anyway.

rhondajean · 27/04/2012 20:13

I'd go.

I'd wave them off, find somewhere with wifi for a coffee and MN and maybe lunch and then head for the finish line just about when he's due.

It would hardly be a hardship. He can't expect you to stand in one spot for four hours when he will go past once can he? And surely you want to support him cos it obviously means a lot to him?

joanofarchitrave · 27/04/2012 20:18

Right. I personally would hate to have someone watching me run, and surely the point of running once you are a parent is to be running AWAY from your partner and child, in a societally-sanctioned way.

However, clearly it means something to him to have you there. I think I would say to him that i did want to come to the main event and am looking forward to it [convincing liar] but given the awful weather, what does he want from you on the day? would it be OK if you meet him at the finish, etc? he might be a bit hurt by it, but with any luck you could find out what he thinks would actually be different if you weren't there. That way you could avoid hurting him by accident even if you end up hurting him a bit deliberately.

NorbertDentressangle · 27/04/2012 20:19

Hell, no.

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/04/2012 20:21

Four hours so you can see him once for ten seconds, no. Be there at the start, slope off home.

DestinationUnknown · 27/04/2012 20:32

No don't go! That sounds like a rubbish day off for you. Will he be coming and watching you at work on Sunday?

Also, I don't understand how you can watch someone do a 4 hour run unless it is round and round a track or you run alongside shouting supportive slogans the whole way. Or manage to be at the finish, which would be my only compromise on the matter, assuming it isn't too far from home.

verytellytubby · 27/04/2012 20:34

Unless there was a pub by the finishing line I'd tell my DH to fuck off.

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 27/04/2012 20:37

No way!

And I speak as a runner! Dh and the dses trudged around London to see me in the marathon but next marathon will be me on my own. I wouldn't ask them to do it again, it's nit much fun watching people run pastHmm

Enjoy your day and let him do his thing.

Butwhatdoyoudoallday · 27/04/2012 20:39

Balls, ignore my previous post - I drunkenly didn't read the OP properly. I am going on Sunday for race day. There is no way I would turn up for a training run, unless it was at a prearranged time to provide fuel/extra water/dry socks.