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AIBU to think that dds' primary school has been inappropriate in two instances this week

59 replies

noonar · 27/04/2012 16:17

Firstly, today my 10 yo dd's teacher was showing them funny youtube clips of animals doing crazy things. just seemed a bit crass to me. plus i don't think a teacher should be promoting a website that's full of some pretty dodgy material.

Secondly, dd2, who is 7, was in a school concert this week. most of the songs that they sang were pop songs with lyrics that were pretty adult, imo. i don't want to hear my 7yo singing about 'desire', 'one track minds'. i just don't see why they had to pick songs with 'sexualised' or adult themes in the lyrics. the song 'valerie' for example is about going to jail following drink driving offence! and before you all say that they don't understand the lyrics anyway, i don't feel that that is justification at all.

so...AIBU/ too old fashioned, or is this a all a bit dodgy?

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JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 27/04/2012 16:55

i have reservations about promoting the use of the site as it needs parental supervision.

All internet use requires adult supervision. The children were being supervised. By their teacher.

YABU Grin

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 27/04/2012 16:56

And if they were singing something like Blockbuster by The Jesus Lizard, you might have a point.

SuePurblyingoodVOICE · 27/04/2012 16:59

Jenai, did you just make that song up, thinking we're all too gimmer-y to know? you're right there.

I'm going to have a go. If they were singing Flashback by The Thorny Handtowels, I'm outraged Grin

Pandemoniaa · 27/04/2012 17:14

I think YABU about YouTube. If you can't accept that your dd's teacher is a responsible enough adult to choose appropriate clips then I fear for your long term relationship with the schools your dcs attend. There's really nothing at all wrong with a little harmless fun on a Friday at school but you do come across as someone who is looking to be offended.

I don't like sexualised lyrics being sung by small children as it happens but I'd need to know rather more detail before commenting on this second atrocity incident.

hackmum · 27/04/2012 17:19

Were they singing Wet Dreams by the New York Hard-ons? If so, I'm disgusted.

I agree with the OP about the songs, fwiw. Not sure about YouTube.

MerryMarigold · 27/04/2012 17:20

YABU about the youtube clips. They are 10! I think they know about youtube. I'm sure school has given them loads of lessons on internet safety. I think that was totally fine. Our school lets kids play Friv from Y1 at the end of term/ as a treat on a Friday pm etc.

The songs I can understand more and I think YANBU...I think one 'pop' song would be ok if the words had been vetted. I wouldn't want a 7yr old singing some of those lyrics...otherwise there's plenty of 'nice' songs for kids to learn. I think the music teacher is lazy/ inexperienced/ not v good if she doesn't want to motivate the kids to sing something that's a bit different.

HolyCameraConfusionBatman · 27/04/2012 17:22

YABVVVVU about Youtube.

I can see your point about the song choice for the concert. I don't want to hear a 7 year old singing stuff like that either.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 27/04/2012 17:23

Oh it's very modern for me Sue. I think it came out in about 1989...

I am Googling the others....

perceptionreality · 27/04/2012 17:23

I wouldn't like it if my daughter's teacher was showing silly You Tube clips instead of teaching. Unless it was some sort of down time.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 27/04/2012 17:26

Hack, Sue - I can't find you siggestions. Have you made them up Angry

Blockbuster is one of my favourite songs btw. But it most certainly isn't suitable for anyone children.

hackmum · 27/04/2012 17:34

Sorry, yes, I took a leaf out of Sue's book and made up the New York Hard-ons. I thought it could be a new game.

SuePurblyingoodVOICE · 27/04/2012 17:35

Oh no, they're very modern. And hip. Like me. lies

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 27/04/2012 17:36

Well it certainly spiced up my search history Grin

LindyHemming · 27/04/2012 17:54

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SuePurblyingoodVOICE · 27/04/2012 17:58

Oh, get a grip with the sarcasm. Fun is also a learning experience, my point was that there isn't a division, there's no point at which children stop learning so everything is educational to a degree.

Pandemoniaa · 27/04/2012 18:00

Dangerous stuff is fun. People might enjoy it. And nobody likes to see that happen, do they? Much better that life remains a Grim Vale of Tears. Especially at school.

WilsonFrickett · 27/04/2012 18:03

Euphemia I will probably regret this but what the jeff does WALT and WILF mean?

yousankmybattleship · 27/04/2012 18:05

Sorry, but YABU. And a bit of a fuddyduddy.

catgirl1976 · 27/04/2012 18:30

YABU about the youtube. Its youtube not redtube.

YANB totally U about the music. I am not a fan of hearing small children singing songs with adult lyrcis they (hopefully) don't understand and there are lots of other songs they could have sung.

LindyHemming · 27/04/2012 18:55

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NovackNGood · 27/04/2012 19:27

Little white bull... you mean the song where all the black bulls call the white bull a coward because he's white. So he goes to the bull ring to fight to prove otherwise because the little white bull needs to be accepted by givign in to bullying. Some good bullfighting videos on youtube. You can even see Padilla getting gored in the face with the horn coming out of his eye socket if the kiddies want to know about a bullfight.

Scarborough fair....the one where he tells her to make him a shirt and she's to clean it and she tells him he's to go and buy a farm and do all the work and then he might have a chance.

The teacher was there supervising. Youtube has parental controls for anything flagged as inapporpriate by the masses. Parents should supervise internet at other times if you don't want what you consider sexualisation. Use the off buttton or change station. As for sexualisation it's only a few of this generation who are thinking that way, the people who are shocked their 12 year knows about anything and that's because they are having their children much later in life than previous generations they've forgotten what it was to be 12. If you weren't engaged/married by 24 in 1950's you were a suspicious and if you weren't married by 20 in Jane Austin's time you were a spinster for life and Juliet was only 13.

WorraLiberty · 27/04/2012 19:33

Leave the fun loving bastards!

exoticfruits · 27/04/2012 20:06

YABU-nothing to add really, there will be far more to worry about in the future.

bringbacksideburns · 27/04/2012 20:08

YABU!

ItsMeYourCathy · 27/04/2012 20:15

YABU regarding the clips
Some of the best 'lessons' I've ever had - as a teacher or a child myself - were when the topic was dumped in favour of 'let's all get together as a class and experience something nice'. Kids love it. It bonds you together as a class. I bet you remember 'that time when we did....' much more fondly than a set lesson and THAT is an integral part of school experience.

Dubious songs .. hmmm... I have issues with this and personally, I would avoid it.