OK I'll try not to rant. I've got 5 weeks to go till due date and have worked myself into a frenzied panic today about what isnt ready yet for the baby's arrival. I've got severe SPD as well so find it really frustrating not being able to do much. We've managed to paint the nursery but haven't put the flat pack nursery furniture up yet. I had a go at trying to assemble the changing unit earlier which took me ages as I had to be very careful not to twist, bend, lift a heavy weight etc and failed miserably. It looks like its gonna collapse (in fact it does if you lean on it!) and is wonky. I then started freaking out about not ahving the chest of drawers assembled to put her clothes in and not being able to sort out what other clothes I might still need to buy.
In desperation I rang my Dad to ask if he was working over this way anytime in the next few days and if he could help my husband assemble the chest of drawers (husband said he would do it this weekend but I've realised that he is out all day Saturday and we are at a Christening all day Sunday). We also have our 3 yr old and tbh my husband has history for promising to do stuff and then not doing it which really stresses me out so I couldnt see it happening any time soon. My Dad was great and said he'd come tonight straight after work which made me feel really guilty for asking him but also reduced my stress levels considerably!
I then phoned my Mum and spoke to her and mentioned that he was coming over and she sounded really pi**ed off. I expected this as she always tells me that he's too busy to do things - I offered to pay his hourly rate to paint our lounge a few weeks ago but she said he wouldnt want to do it as he doesnt like painting and when I've asked her about him helping do things like adjust the TV ariel etc she's never got back to me. Therefore I very rarely ask unless I'm desperate.
Anyway the point I guess Im trying to make is that I've realised that its not him, its her - her reaction on the phone was v obvious, she didnt try to hide her irritation and sugegsted that I should carry the pieces of wood up the stairs one by one and get on with it. I pointed out (as I hate being dependent on others) that I had tried to lift the pieces one by one but they were too heavy for me - I couldnt physically lift them. AIBU to ask my Dad for help and to feel upset that she's so against it. I ask them to babysit about 2-3 times a year and we have to be back by 10-10:30pm and other than that I dont see them unless I make the effort to visit them (which I do - otherwise we wouldnt see them). My inlaws on the other hand are always doing stuff and visiting but live nearly 200 miles away!!