to be fucked of when the icecream van comes round everynight around tea time?

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ive tried changing the time we have tea to earlier or later but she comes round at different times everynight.
ive tried letting ds buy one then putting it in the freezer until after hes eaten, but i dont want him eating icecreams everyday.
yes ive tried saying no but its heartbreaking when hes up at the window watching his friends going to buy one,"oh please mummy"
what happened to just coming round in the summer,its not like the family that have the van are short of cash.they are well known in the area.

would i bu to ask her to park further down the street and not right outside the house?

Would it be unreasonable to ask your local supermarket to cover the rides and change their whole sweet/cakes/drinks display so you can avoid your child learning 'No' means 'No'?

I think you know the answer

A simple no, applied consistently and effectively, will yield results. Tell your son that just because his friends have something that rots their teeth and spoils their appetite every day, doesn't mean he can. Decide how often he can have an ice cream and tell him it will only happen on X day (if he's been good IMO). Tell him that excessive whining on other days will mean he doesn't get the ice cream. I mean, it's not rocket science is it?

"would i bu to ask her to park further down the street and not right outside the house?"

This has got to be a wind up

Change mine only sells hot dogs so he can hide the drugs in the buns

It still has to be better than eating the shite

Saying no every night isn't cruel. He parks outside your house as he knows you're a soft touch and buy frequently.

Lol Worra

OP - consider getting your DC a strawberry Cornetto. I bought one from the ice cream van years ago for my DD. She threw up. She's never asked for an ice cream again.

Hope this helps.

I know how you feel because our journey home takes us past an ice-cream parlour, and there are often loads of people out on the streets buying them. DD always asks if she can have one, and she does tend to be more upset and persistent if she can see other children buying them.

I do buy them sometimes, otherwise I say not now and make up some sort of excuse. She does know that if a meal is due there is no way I will buy one, but that if we are walking past and she has just had lunch, for example, and it is hot and sunny, and we haven't had one for a while, then there is a good chance I will.

If the van comes round before you have finished your evening meal, can you not use that as an excuse, especially if it sometimes comes round after you have eaten - you could sometimes buy one then, but never at other times.

I don't think you can blame an ice cream van for trying to sell ice cream!

I think the OP doesn't need an 'excuse' - she needs some rules. Not during mealtimes may be one - though if she wants the rule to be once a week on a specific day that mightn't suit.

An ice cream van parks outside my son's primary school every day and has done since February, come rain or shine. I don't think he is selling drugs, but I guess he could be slipping a bit of something into a double cornet with flake and red sauce to the boden clad hoardes. I have never had a problem with my sons pestering for ice creams, because they know ice creams happen on Fridays and at no other times so there is no point. Even though friends seem to have them every other day. I am mean but by goodness, it works.

I think people are being very harsh on the OP. Of course she doesn't want some bloody ice cream van tempting her child every night of the week.

OP, I think you should go out and say to the vendor, "Would you please not come every night? I'm happy to buy from you once or twice a week but when you come and park here every single night it's just too much."

If she refuses, boycott her altogether.

And yes, of course her child will have to learn what "No" means, but ffs can't you see that it's irritating as hell? And it's nothing like a shop - a shop doesn't park itself outside your front door!

If she refuses, boycott her altogether

Wouldn't that just bring the OP right back to square one......

"OP, I think you should go out and say to the vendor, "Would you please not come every night? I'm happy to buy from you once or twice a week but when you come and park here every single night it's just too much."

Oh please do. And then come back and tell us how far she told you to fuck the fuck off what she replied.

Imperial, the way to deal with a child's pestering is not to try and restrict the legitimate business activities of an adult.

yabu
just say no
end of

Imperial, the problem with that is she is not just parking there for the ops ds is she? If other people are there buying icecream most days why should she lose business because the op can't say no to her son

We have one that comes round all the time, none of mine pester for one because they know when they can or can't have one, if they did keep pestering they wouldn't be getting one at all. I don't reward whining because that encourages it, no means no

YABU, and you are making a rod for your own back if you don't sort this out now. "i agree with saying no and meaning no, but when its everyday i feel cruel." Why do you feel cruel? Because DS whinging makes you feel guilty. Why does DS whinge? Because his whinging is rewarded with ice-cream.

You know what you need to do. Look at the ice-cream van as a training tool, allowing you to teach DS that whinging is not an acceptable strategy.

Frustrating, but we have a rule of once a week max - it's up to DDs when they have it, and if they ask again they're reminded that they've had it for this week. (they are 9 and 4)

If/when the child is old enough (from the description I assume he's very young), the other solution is to give him pocket money from which he can budget whatever combinations of ice-creams, comics and sweets he wants (though the no going to the van in the middle of a meal rule should still apply)