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Original poster

to be fucked of when the icecream van comes round everynight around tea time?

42 replies

griffalo2 · 27/04/2012 09:43

ive tried changing the time we have tea to earlier or later but she comes round at different times everynight.
ive tried letting ds buy one then putting it in the freezer until after hes eaten, but i dont want him eating icecreams everyday.
yes ive tried saying no but its heartbreaking when hes up at the window watching his friends going to buy one,"oh please mummy"
what happened to just coming round in the summer,its not like the family that have the van are short of cash.they are well known in the area.

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WorraLiberty · 27/04/2012 09:46

But you'd still have the same problem in the Summer surely?

They come round here right up til 9pm and always have, even when I was a little girl.

My parents used to tell me they only sold cigarettes at that time of night Grin

worldgonecrazy · 27/04/2012 09:46

Just say no. Eventually your child will learn that whining and pleading do not get results.

DD nearly always asks for icecream after dinner, but I say "No, not tonight." and that is the end of the discussion.

BusinessTrills · 27/04/2012 09:47

So businesses should only be open if they are "short of cash"?

YABU

Learn to say no.

I really don't think the driver is psychically working out when you will be having dinner and deliberately coming round at exactly that time.

smalltown · 27/04/2012 09:47

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Olympia2012 · 27/04/2012 09:48

Drives me mad too.... I thought we had it solved for this year as we are on a new build estate, only a handful of us living here so far.... But no! The van came round the other day.....for the builders!!!

Mrsjay · 27/04/2012 09:52

Dont you know when the ice creamvan comes at night he is just run out of ice cream and its probably just for grown ups going to get fags and milk Grin

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griffalo2 · 27/04/2012 09:55

i ment summer holidays when we can be more relaxed about the evenings and tea time is when its ready.
"no, not tonight", "oh why", "but why", "please", Please", "wail", "mummy", "sob", "just one little one",on and on and on even after its left, every bloody night

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madmouse · 27/04/2012 09:58

well yes, blame him for whingeing, it works!

AngelWreakinHavoc · 27/04/2012 09:59

I was always told that when they were palying the music on the van it meant they had ran out of ice cream haha.

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griffalo2 · 27/04/2012 10:00

and since when was icecream made of powder,what happened to proper icecream!

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Changethatbulb · 27/04/2012 10:00

YABU

It's a "No. And don't ask me again" in this house.

Also agree with the drugs thing even though I'm not in Sarf London. Ice cream vans in November and December. Snow on the ground. Hmm

WorraLiberty · 27/04/2012 10:00

Just by a cheap multi pack of lollies from Iceland and tell your DC it was a prezzie from the ice cream man/woman Grin

WorraLiberty · 27/04/2012 10:02

Lol I'm in London and it's nothing to do with drugs!

They sell hot dogs too...in fact last year he even came round on Boxing day.

OP, wait til your child starts school and the van parks right outside Wink

Mine get something from the van on a Friday as a treat for being good all week at school (if they have been)

GrimmaTheNome · 27/04/2012 10:03

I was always told that when they were palying the music on the van it meant they had ran out of ice cream haha

that's not going to work if he can see his friends buying them, is it?

Make a rule that he can have one ice cream from the van each week, on condition that he doesn't whinge on other days. Stick to it. It won't break your heart as much as the effects of not learning that 'no' means 'no'.

How old is he, BTW?

timetochangeagain · 27/04/2012 10:05

I keep a stash in the freezer - I'm not paying £1 for a mini milk when they are 16 for £3 in asda

NagooIsBuildingAnArk · 27/04/2012 10:05

YABU it parks right outside my house most evenings and I just say no.

Say no and mean it. It's not difficult.

GrahamTribe · 27/04/2012 10:07

You're not serious? You don't like the guy earning his living and you wonder why he's not just working in the summer just because your kid doesn't like being told no?

DeliaRose · 27/04/2012 10:07

YABU.

Do you get fucked off that the shops sell sweets?

That they've got those ride on things outside the supermarket?

That they advertise toys on the TV?

Learn to say "No"

Jeees Hmm

Original poster
griffalo2 · 27/04/2012 10:10

tried buying some from supermarket,didnt work

would i bu to ask her to park further down the street and not right outside the house?

i agree with saying no and meaning no, but when its everyday i feel cruel.

just thought of setting maybe two days of when hes aloud one,so i could say not today its not friday or whatever

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GrahamTribe · 27/04/2012 10:11

Yes you bloody would!

maytheoddsbeeverinyourfavour · 27/04/2012 10:11

Yes heaven forbid someone should want to run a business when it might mean you having to say no to your child how awful for you Hmm

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 27/04/2012 10:11

Mummy can I have an ice cream?

No.

Works every time. Grin

GrahamTribe · 27/04/2012 10:11

This has got to be a wind-up.

Changethatbulb · 27/04/2012 10:12

Worra - mine doesn't sell hot dogs.

Wish it did though not that I would ever feed my kids that mechanically recovered shite Grin

BlueFergie · 27/04/2012 10:12

Look I know it's frustrating but you can't really blame the ice cream lady for the fact you can't say no to your child. They depend on people lik you for business. In this house No means No. They accept that (usually) but it is hard earned. I had to stick o my guns though lts of pester power to get to here but i did. Your child whines and whinges at you because he knows you'll give in. And you do. That's noones fault but your own.
Why not agree that he can have an ice cream one day a week. Say Friday? Any other day you answer is 'oh no it's not Friday today. Remember we agreed? Now go and play. No crying or shinning or we won't get any on Friday either' by the Summer you will have him well used to the idea, and won't have to put up with the begging anymore.