AIBU to expect a 5 year old to just play quietly till 7 am ? ?

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Just that really. Personally I think that he could muster it. Let me sleep till 7.
DS wakes at 5.45..or 6 ish .DH thinks 5 is too young to be left to his own devices in his room, or say , downstairs.

DS just nags and whines till I or DH get up with him....How does it work in your home?

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Thanks!

DS only 18mo, but in our house, I have a 6am cut off (time DH gets up, so any later is a bit impractical in an apartment). Before that, there is NO getting out of bed. It is night. End of. I am not going to get into one of these insane early waking patterns as just means that lunchtime nap gets pulled forward to annoying times.

I go in, tell him it's still night, tuck him in and leave. DS will either go back to sleep, or just flump and huff around in his cot until I come back (or he hears DH turn the shower on).

Actually I'm laughing at "why 7? Have I missed something crucial" I have no idea why 7am, it's the time I allow DS to get up/ wake me too. Funny isn't it but I think it's just that 6 seems so early!

In fact I actually do get up at 6 on weekdays for work, 7am is a great time to set for DS because if I oversleep he is garunteed to wake me up in time for work anyway! (except the 1 time we both overslept

OP, YANBU and I agree if your DH thinks he needs supervising then he is more than welcome to supervise

Yeah I agree 6 wouldn't be my ideal time either, as I can get to work on time if I get up at 7.30, but for some reason (maybe as I always used to have to get up at 6 on the dot to get to work) I see 6 as "morning" but 5 is "the night" and therefore I'm not prepared to be forced out of bed.

DS (10 months) is in with us still and summons one us to bring him into bed with us at various times from about 5am onwards. Not a problem as he goes straight back to sleep with a cuddle.

DD on the other hand is a pain in the bum if she comes in with us as she likes to talk to us. Lovely, I love to hear what her toy elephant has told her but not at 6am on a Sunday. We do try to keep her in her room til aleast 7am at the weekends but she wants company She has no set bedtime at the weekend anymore unless we have to get up early for some reason so you'd think she'd need her sleep if she's stayed up til gone 9 playing with her sylvanian families but apparently not. Damn.

Yes imnotmymum - I will get up at 545 or 6am with DS2 then just have a nap at my desk in the afternoon - I'm sure work will appreciate that

Ds2 calls out - mummy - my clocks not working, its not saying its time to get up yet! My response is 'thats because its not 7 o clock - go back to sleep'! I've not ignored him, I have responded - I can't really see the problem!

well lou2321 I guess that would not work in your situation but then would you not like some extra time with DC in the morning 6am not that early if you got to go to work especially. I guess we just all different and I am wierd !! as I said now all growing up I miss my early morning snuggles even though my 13 year old and me did have a lovely cuddle this morning -revising for a maths test !!!

I don't ignore my children if they wake up before 7am thanks imnotmymum. But I don't have the option of martyring myself in the morning and then having a lunchtime nap (what are the children supposed to do while I have the nap BTW?). So I have just done gentle things to encourage them to play quietly in the mornings, such as bribery and showing them how to read the clock. I am lucky that they both enjoy their own company and if both awake, they will also play together. I love morning cuddles but 7am is when the morning starts as far as I am concerned.

Well I sure as hell ignored mine

Wish I could ignore my two years old 100db 'mama' top of his voice shouts at 5am.

My youngest is 4 1/2, if she wakes up early she will either clamber into the middle of us in bed and snuggle/doze back off or if she wants to get up she will play in her room or at the end of our bed, she doesn't come downstairs by herself. I also have a 12y old so if she is up she will bring her sister down and make them both breakfast (although she is now at stroppy stage and this is rare!).

We're really lucky though as DD2 has always been a good sleeper, DD1 was awful, never slept thru the night until around 18 months, refused naps, was just a terrible sleeper, not that you would know it now, I literally have to drag her from her pit at the weekends!

Dd is five and knows not to move until the alarm clock says seven something, except to go down for a wee. I get up for work at six and leave at seven so its nice to get a cuddle before I go. Dp gets up at eight to get her ready for school. Time to get up is moveable and cancelable dependant on behaviour. She watches tv or a dvd(she would find the news too boring too!) I know she wouldnt touch anything she shouldnt, raid the kitchen etc. Suppose it depends on how well your child manages on their own. Liking the idea of leaving breakfast on a tray for her-would buy us a couple of extra hours at the weekend !

I spend plenty of time with my kids thanks, we have snuggles from 7am and get up about 715/730. I think its just plain rude to suggest I should be spending more time with my children TBH when you know nothing about my situation. I work whilst they are at school so its not like I am spending any less time with them then anyone else does! And yes 6am is early when you have to be at school for 5 to 9!

I spend my whole day with the children, as a single mum the only time I get to myself is when they sleep, and since one of them is a poor settler and sleeper, sometimes the occasional weekend lie-in is just a nice little luxury to make it all bearable.

I think that it's perfectly reasonable to give the children a set time for getting you up, mine know the rules are only to get out of the room at night if you need to go to the toilet, or if you have had a bad nightmare, and to play nicely in the morning until mummy's alarm goes off. Of course, I respond to individual needs as they arise too, but generally that's what I like to do.

Its not like they would be left if they were genuinely upset or ill etc, there has been many a time they have slept in with us or one of us in with them and they have come into us early for a specific reason but I cannot function before 7am.

Like many kids, mine have various after school clubs so there is lots of running around from place to place, I do voluntary work as well as my paid job and I study when the kids are at school or in bed - rightly or wrongly I need my sleep and I do not have the hours in the day to go to bed any earlier!

When I was a SAHM (for 5 years) I felt exactly the same and 'worked' just as many hours so I treasured my lie-ins (and still do)!

7AM is not that late anyway. Ive not seen anyone on this thread say they stay in bed all day or get up that late. Its hardly neglect.

We have a star chart for 'staying in my bedroom room till 7am'. It's been quite slow getting filled!!!

No YANBU. He can play quietly till 7 am. And honestly, if you let him get up at 7 then next week it will be 6.30 and so on especially with the lighter mornings. I can see a three year old yelling if he/she wakes up early. But at five I think that's old enough to amuse himself.

DS is nearly 5 and an early sleeper and consequently, an early waker. He potters about upstairs till my alarm goes off at 7.10am. If I'm feeling particularly awake, it's great fun listening to him play. He's quite regimental!

At 6.50 (he checks his clock) you can hear him telling the toys "Come on! It's tidy up time" then at 7am he announces (again to the 4143515stuffed toys) that he's going "To do my jobs". This involves brushing his teeth, washing his face and putting his pants on