Quick answers needed - am i horrible?

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DD's birthday today. I had a half day at work today because of it and I brought her out for tea. Rather then having 'the usual' (not just here, it's the safe bet if ever eating out) she chose something from the adult menu which she has only had once before. Now she won't eat it. i have told her she's not having anything else all evening (she ate the potatoes and some peas). This isn't a one off. She is more a grazer then a three meals person but I feel a bit mean as we were talking about sharing the big choc sundae for two when we came in.

But it's her birthday

Oh just get the ice cream! She was brave enough to try something new.

How old is she?

Usually I would be right with you on this, but I have to agree with your last line. It is her birthday

Fgs yes. You shouldn't have let her order an adult portion if she is a light eater.

Meanie . It's her birthday. Enjoy that chocolate sundae

She also accepts she will not have anything else and I know she won't ask for anything else either (this will happen probably about once a fortnight - not just eating out buy also either food that she has agreed to for tea at home)

Ps she's 7 today

Get her the ice cream. It's her birthday.

i can understand your frustration, and you're not horrible, but i think you've maybe over-reacted a tad.

i'd go and give her a big hug, tell her you love her and share that ice-cream sundae and forget about what happened earlier.

as you say - it's her birthday!

Very mean :(

Yes.

Get the pudding - it's her birthday.

It's her birthday! Get her the ice cream and forget the rules for one day. If it helps, tell her you are letting her off this time because it's her birthday. If you can't eat a big chocolate sundae on your birthday, when can you?

Meanie get her the icecream like u said its het birthday xx

Goingtothepark I wouldn't mind if she left some of everything bit she left the main bit and just ate the potatoes and a few peas

Its her birthday, I'd overlook it on this occasion. If it's a long running issue tackle it on another day. Let her have some ice-cream!

Op have you never been excited to be out on your birthday and got over faced with food? I hate nitpicky parents when there is no need. There is a time for rules and a time for relaxation of the rules. She is a little girl.

I think you may put her off ever wanting to try anything new or order anything new if she's "punished" if she then doesn't like it. At least she ate some of it.

Blimey you're tough,on bdays anything goes as regards food imvho.My parents were the same.Bdays are different to everyday,order her the ice cream.

But if she ate the potatoes and veg, maybe it's coz she was hungry but genuinely didn't like the dish. She made the effort to eat the other stuff.

Check she still wants the ice cream first - otherwise you will be pissed off

Very mean. It's her birthday. Let the poor kid have the icecream, fgs.

Enjoy the ice cream

It's her birthday! Let her have some ice cream.

It's her birthday. Worry about it on the remaining 364 days of the year. I can still remember my 7th birthday - please don't let her lasting memory be of you being overly strict.

Tbh, I would have given dd as big a sundae as she wanted at that age if it was a birthday treat. I wouldn't have expected her to eat 'proper' food at all under circumstances. So yes, give her the ice cream.

Yes you are mean.