i have known my stepdad 10 years or so and although i have never lived with him we get on well, he has supported me in many ways, babysits with my mom for me once or twice a year and is a decent man.
when i had my first dd 4 years ago mom asked if stepdad could be called grandad and dp and i agreed he would be a grandad to our kids.
he is a wonderful grandad to both my dds 4 and 1 and they both call him grandad as well as my dad and dps dad so they have 3 grandads and 2 nans and have never questioned this.
If i say dds have been playing with grandad, MIL will regularly say do you mean your real dad or X,oh you mean your stepdad then and i say yes my stepdad is their grandad too. dont know if im being oversensitive but it seems she is implying he isnt their grandad.
also my dad says my stepdad isnt a real grandad to my kids, he is just moms husband. this is partly jealousy i suppose but not kind to my dds.
i dont call stepdad, "dad" but dds call him grandad. aibu?