AIBU to think 3yrs old is too young to get up themselves, down stairs, turn on telly while parent still in bed

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and have no idea how long they are up when parent gets up? child is quite mature and always safe (so far) but it doesnt sit right with me? or should i feck off and mind my own business.

Yabu. The parents have to assess the actual riska

Risks. I don't mind getting my son breakfast and putting the telly on in the other room for when he's done. I bolt the front door and shut the kitchen door, though there are few likely dangers there.

Depends on the kid, as everyone else has said. :)

DS gets up, uses the bathroom, gets a granola bar or muffin for breakfast, and gets dressed before he comes and wakes me. He's been doing that since he was about 3. I usually stumble downstairs and turn on something for him to watch and then fall back to sleep on the couch for half an hour.

He can't do it himself because we don't have a TV and it's a long complicated process getting something on Netflix, otherwise I wouldn't have to leave my bed til 9:30 or so. :o

I would not rely on the time span of a 3 year old. my d has done this from about 3 if not a little earlier. However the other day before school she woke 10 mins before the alarm, I sent her downstairs, enjoyed the 10 mins got up dressed wahsed and used the toilet all of about and extra 15 mins and she seemed to think it was hours and hours before I got up and ssumed we where late for school, she is 6 and can tell the time aswell.

I leave my DD downstairs on her own for at least 30 mins every day while I go and have a shower (quite far away upstairs in the servants wing - only kidding!) I don't see the difference. My front door has a high up bolt on it and I just make sure this is on to guard against walkabouts/random kidnappers. I make sure there are no knives etc- on kitchen tops or boiling pans on the hob etc-. Having said that my DD has always been a sensible madam and not one for random climbing so I totally agree with the knowing your own child comments.

Similarly often she goes up and plays in her room while I am cooking or whatever. I have made her room as safe as is sensible e.g. no blinds with cords etc-. I strongly feel that you cannot wrap them up in the proverbial cotton wool and that they must learn to assess risk themselves albeit starting off with small stuff. If she makes a mess - she would get a big telling off and know not to do it again, she has to learn that is not acceptable.

I let her go up and down stairs on her own from about 3, again I was lucky in that she has always been quite sensible and I really think they have to learn sometime.

If the child is the kind of child who would turn on the bath and drown just because they have been given permission to get up and watch the telly, might they not equally get out of bed and run the bath without parental permission to get up. Is it safe to have a 3yo at all?

i would not let my son down on his own last time i did he wrecked the room,went in fridge and rubbed a whole tub of flora over the sofa

well i agree iabu .... glad to see so many others do it. i need to loosen up a bit and trust she knows her child better than anyone.

I would love to be able to do this, but sadly, when my DD and DS were 3 and 2, I overslept one Sunday morning to discover a completely silent flat - on investigation I discovered them outside the flat on the top landing of the building, happily smearing the walls, bannisters and carpets with the contents of a huge tub of Vaseline.... It took me AGES to clear up, and I now have 4 locks on my front door .

Honestly, it depends on the kid. If they are quite calm and mellow, it's probably fine. If it's my two, not a chance in hell!

I never would have thought this was reasonable. Rather a bit lazy parenting. I have a 3 year old and would love a lie in . . . Maybe I should work out how to teach her to get up without me!

our child does that. do not really have a choice in when they get up and when we get up.

My nearly 4yo gets up, turns tv and DVD player on and watches fireman Sam that I've put on a flash drive.....he'll help himself to a drink and biscuit and perhaps play for a while on the iPad! Never had a problem....
However my 3yo niece kindly seasoned my entire kitchen in salt, redecorated my bathroom in nail varnish, ate 6 yoghurts and blocked the toilet!
So I guess my point is it depends on the child....DS has been trusted since a very early age as he's been I suppose quite abnormally good for his age!