To not want DD's teacher to tell me off because DD did not have book bag?

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DP took dd to school this morning. I put book bag in DD's hand as she left house, she got into car with it,she got out of car and went to school without it. Its the first time this year its been forgotten.

AIBU to expect not to be greeted with the words "please can you ensure dd brings her book bag in future" I didn't even know until then it hadn't gone to school and anyway surely its DDs job to make sure she's got it

pink flip flop... I am sorry to say that i have had the misfortune to work for a similar head teacher. fortunately for only a term.

Don't tell off your OH, use the oppurtunity to remind dd that it's her responsibility and her parents shouldn't be expected to do everything for her

I agree HotPink

'please can you ensure dd brings her book bag in future'

That polite request is being told off?

You have a very fragile ego OP.
Plus you are expecting the teacher to remember that it's the first time this year for your child, when she has 30+ children every day, some of whom will forget equipment and need reminding. She probably uses the same phrase for bookbags and PE kit every time they get forgotten and to every parent.
When she's older, the responsibility will be hers, let's hope she copes better than you.

Happened to me today she ran after me I was off out the bloody school ground once I get rid of the little shits say have a lovely day darlings.
He had it and I placed it in the right box for Mummies that have read with them the night before but my DS told her NO My Mummy has forgot my book back Miss.

'When she's older'

'When your DD is older'

What Worra and Molly said on P1 and Fallen on this page said.
I would also be teaching the child to remember though.

As long as she didn't combine the request with a rabbit punch to the kidneys, a Chinese burn or address you as 'oi! douche nozzle' it sounds all very amiable, sane and reasonable.

These days the most important letters will be asking for money or that you you tell Ofsted how inaccurate their assessment was. Or how bullying is dealt with swiftly & efficiently (once you've spent 2hrs in A&E). The others will be duplicated via email. Book-bag my eye. I reckon that my son's year 6 teacher had only ever looked at the cover of one.

pingu2209
"She was even flagged in the Ofsted report and the head teacher had to tackle her attitude to parents."

the attitude may have been flagged but the teacher wouldn't have been. Teachers are never named in ofsted reports as the reports are open to the public.

YABU. Its not unreasonable to ask politely the child's parent. It doesn't matter if you dropped her there or not, you will know who did and can speak to them.

But what the hell is a 'book bag'? At school I had a school bag. My children have school bags. Is there an English thing that means you have to have separate bags for separate things? A book bag. A pencil case bag. A jotter bag?

It would definitely have irked me to be told that for a one off instance, this far into the school year.

Syd, a book bag usually looks something like this
www.schoolbagshop.co.uk/image/cache/data/classic%20school%20book%20bags%20regatta-500x500.jpg
It is fairly waterproof and strong, can hold a schoolbook or two, reading record book and any information letters and communications between parent and school, school and parent.
If you don't provide a book bag, any books sent home can get dirty, dropped in puddles, left behind in shops, letters go missing...
In KS1 in our school, the bags are checked a couple of times a week for communications.

We get them returned to school by members of the public because they've been left in random locations on the way home, but they have the school logo on.

Gosh, there's nothing like that here (I'm in Scotland, don't know if that's just local to me or Scotland-wide) - but my initial 'what the hell?' has been replaced by a 'thats actually a really good idea' - thanks FC.

It really does not matter but I would get your dh to write her a letter saying how sorry he is for his mistake [tongue in cheek]

Don't have book bags here (central Scotland) but looking at that picture I know for a fact that we would lose that - dd has a backpack which is less likely to be put down and left somewhere

When I saw the heading I thought oh those bossy teachers at it again. But really it was not a telling off only the teacher reminding you to remember the book bag. I agree. Don't read to much into it. It sounds perfectly reasonable.