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AIBU?

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To go to church even though i don't believe?

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MarriedInVegas · 22/04/2012 23:08

I am wondering if iwbu to start going to church even though i do not necessarily believe in it all? My reasons for wanting to do this would be because i would like my daughter to be brought up in a faith of some sort. In times of trouble and hardship i see and hear of people turning to their church for support and guidance, people say it enriches their life in so many ways, also, i like the idea of her having "something to believe in" i feel that in my life a little something is missing and i don't want dd to have that gap.

Also i do like the message of Christianity, the whole "love thy neighbor" "do to others as you'd have done to you" etc etc. I want her to grow up with messages like this. I worry about how she might cope in the future when dh and i pass. I would want her to have some sort of way to deal with it as peacefully as possible (most people i know would pray) i think i just want there to be a nice support system for her throughout her life. I know that you don't need a religion to have this but i wonder if it really does make a difference throughout your life. I kind of hate that i don't really believe in anything, but i just don't!

Am i making sense? probably not! Confused Anyway... aibu?

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Ephiny · 23/04/2012 15:00

Maybe try a Unitarian church if there's one near you? They tend to be more about sense of community and supporting each other in the individual spiritual journey, rather than a particular set of beliefs?

There's no reason of course you shouldn't go to a C of E church, for example - as long as you have respect for other people's beliefs, no one is going to mind!

msrisotto · 23/04/2012 18:05

When I went to church (in the run up to my wedding), the priests/reverends seemed offended/bemused that I never went up for a blessing/communion when everyone else did. I was pretty determined that I saw no reason to be 'blessed' so remained seated, I didn't argue with them or anything just politely declined but I felt blimmin awkward. I think you will have to 'play along' unless you're happy feeling really odd about being in a place of worship, when you don't believe.

Do you have a believing relative who could take her? I just know that I personally couldn't do it, I felt like a fraud and an unwanted foreigner treated with suspicion, although with bemused smiles on their faces :)

MsWeatherwax · 23/04/2012 21:33

Actually I have heard good things about Unitarians - they don't seem to do any of the crap I grew up with.

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