To think that my DH should have taken this a cue to get he hell out of bed?

[AutumnSummers]

I've had weird medical issues for 2 months that seem to be culminating. Abdominal pain, painless swollen tonsil, painless swollen lymph node and painless swollen saliva glands.

Over the last few days I've had hot flushes and shortnes of breath that, this morning, have been compounded with shortness of breath and chest pain. I went upstairs to tell DH and he asked if I phoned NHS 24 (I told him I was going to last night because swelling has incraesed in spite of three courses of antibiotics.) Also I have dry eyes and a burning feeling in my fingertips. I also have a sharp pain in the ear beside the tonsil My saliva glands are so swollen that it looks like I've been punched without the bruising. Here is a link to the tonsil.

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I said to him that Argos opens at 10:30 and that he'd have to go get our DS1's birthday presents out before I can go to hospital (His birthday is tomorrow.) He gave me a sympathetic hug and has gone back to sleep.

I was talking with him last night how scared I am about all these lumps and pains (Had an ultrasound on Tuesday for my womb / varies on top of this) and that I wished they would jut fix mer. Then all thi braething nonsense starts.

WIBU to expect him to get up? I know that I don't need him to go out til 10:30 but i'm really worried and could use a buit of freaking moral support here. the kids are temporarily pacified by fireman sam but that will only last so long.

Maybe I'm just angry with the situation rather than him but it doesn't help to know that he's too busy burying his head under his pillow muster half an ounce of give a fuck.

Sorry for not converting link :(

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My "s" key is fucked and I'm nervous. Sorry about spelling.

I am still home. I can't even call the hospital til he gets back from Argos beacuse I need to look after the kids while he goes. Then I can go. I know I should go right now actually but I don't want DS to miss his birthday prsesents. that's what I get for being last minute jane!

Aww sorry you are ill and worried

at that tonsil

Go and tell him straight that he should get up. He should have done it without being asked directly imvho. But get him up.

YANBU

Yes of course he should bloody well get up.

Your DS's birthday and YOUR HEALTH are both more important than a lie in. Unless he is a surgeon or something

gets nagging wife hat on

I hate it when he makes me nag him like this. I'm going to tell him to get up.

Yanbu. You're obviously feeling very poorly, it's his job to look after you and the kids and not just laze about in bed!

Have you tested your smoke alarm recently?

Funnily enough Silly not nearly as recently as I should have

What he'll do when I inevitably pull him up for not rousing himself is blame his broken phone. Or me for not being insistant enough.

Actually getting pretty angry now. He only has 40 minutes til 10:30 opening and it'll take him 20 to walk there.

Things like this make me feel like an afterthought tbh. On top of all this, I don't have the energy to waste being pissed at him toady!

Time to fetch the pokey stick. Get him up and tell him MN says he needs to go buy presents, get you to hospital and entertain those kids! Or else!

(if he says "or else what?" you'll need to make something up, I don't think we're allowed to make threats on here...)

Get the children to jump all over him. Repeat until he shifts his arse.

Yanbu. Ds1's tonsils are permanently like that, both sides. One side virtually touches the thing that hangs down at the back of the mouth, the other is marginally smaller. Even the ENT was amazed at the size of them. Hope you get sorted.

I would Nutella, but honestly he'll just shout at them. He's loke an ogre when he's tired.

I just put DD2 to bed for nap and went into our room for the monitor. I banged about a bit but nothing so I shouted his name and shook him and nothing. I even did the smoke alarm thing! He's really mean when he's tired. I'm tired too! I was up all night with DS2 who now thinks 3am is wake up time! DH also know this.

DS1 will wake up to the presents alraedy left here for him. DH can buy him our gift when he takes DD1 and Ds1 to school / nursery tomorrow morning. I need to call NHS 24 and on my way I will wake him to let him know that I am leaving and he has no option now but to get up.

Now I'm lonely as well as afraid. Fantabulous.

ty lazy hope your son gets fixed too :(

[very unmumsnetty hug emoticon]

Oh autumn, that's awful

Hope they sort you in a&e and you soon feel better.

Your dh is vvvu

I'd phone NHS24 now as from experience they take 2-3 hours to call back on a weekend then an appointment is usually 1-2 hours after that.

They have left his as he doesn't get tonsilitis, they were diagonised as big at about 2 and he is now six. His throat looks a mess tbh and anyone who looks at them always think he is ill. I am going.to take him back as we have had quite a few incidence of food getting stuck recently, sparking half an hour of gagging, being sick ect until finally the 'lump' of food comes back up. It is normally meat that does this so now he doesn't like to eat that at the moment and I can't say as I blame him because it is horrid to watch so must be awful for him.
Just to add he is not full on choking just he can feel the food there and it causes irritation until it moves.

I was right. He got up, shouted at me and then shouted at me for predicting he would shout at me. I'm on the phone now anyway.

you have shortness of breath and chest pain?? in addition to everything else you've got going on? and your "D"H went back to sleep and then shouted at you???

Get yourself to hospital now. Don't muck about ringing NHS24 unless it's so they will book you in for a timed appointment in your local A&E. If you ring them or do the NHS symptom checker and tell them about chest pain, they will send you to A&E anyway. So just go, and let your DH get on with doing whatever needs doing at home, (don't bother with instructions, he either does it or deals with the fallout of not doing it). Sounds like he really needs to grow up and cope with being tired while you go and get seen by some nice medics. Good luck.

OK I'm going. I'm in floods of tears right now. I need to calm down I can't even think straight what to tell them. Must write it down.