To think that my DH should have taken this a cue to get he hell out of bed?

[AutumnSummers]

I've had weird medical issues for 2 months that seem to be culminating. Abdominal pain, painless swollen tonsil, painless swollen lymph node and painless swollen saliva glands.

Over the last few days I've had hot flushes and shortnes of breath that, this morning, have been compounded with shortness of breath and chest pain. I went upstairs to tell DH and he asked if I phoned NHS 24 (I told him I was going to last night because swelling has incraesed in spite of three courses of antibiotics.) Also I have dry eyes and a burning feeling in my fingertips. I also have a sharp pain in the ear beside the tonsil My saliva glands are so swollen that it looks like I've been punched without the bruising. Here is a link to the tonsil.

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I said to him that Argos opens at 10:30 and that he'd have to go get our DS1's birthday presents out before I can go to hospital (His birthday is tomorrow.) He gave me a sympathetic hug and has gone back to sleep.

I was talking with him last night how scared I am about all these lumps and pains (Had an ultrasound on Tuesday for my womb / varies on top of this) and that I wished they would jut fix mer. Then all thi braething nonsense starts.

WIBU to expect him to get up? I know that I don't need him to go out til 10:30 but i'm really worried and could use a buit of freaking moral support here. the kids are temporarily pacified by fireman sam but that will only last so long.

Maybe I'm just angry with the situation rather than him but it doesn't help to know that he's too busy burying his head under his pillow muster half an ounce of give a fuck.

I despair hearing about relationships like these. Imagine the situation reversed - you'd be doing all the running around AND phoning AND running him to the hospital I expect. Grr! You should have phoned first thing and he should be up, getting the children ready and either arranging childcare for them or taking them to Argos with him. Sympathies

Apparently me responding to his asking how I was with the truth waa me "having a go" and I had no right to do that when he just got up. When I told him how I was and how I wished he'd have got up he stared me right out and got defensive so I got annoyed that he had no right to be defensive. Apparently by doing this, it's my fault. I'm taking his advice and giving my mouth a rest. whenever I ak a question he can't answer he just stares me out and tells me to shut it.

I'll update you all when I get back / get access to the interwebs.

I also asked him why he said that I'd ruined hi sunday. he said that he was being sarcastic. I told him the sarcam mean the opposite of what you ay so how can taht have been sarcastic. "Well I'm not as good with words as YOU" was his scornful reply. I'm in taxi en route to hosp now. With all this shit in the background. Fun times.

Oh you poor thing . Just focus on getting seen & getting better. If you're not admitted you will need to rest at the very least - will that happen? Do you have any family near or friends who can help?

Oh Autumn :(. Much easier said than done, but you need to block out your DH and even the DCs now and focus on recovery. Your DH behaved very selfishly this morning.

I'm havng panic attacks they say. Hubby is in prime grovel mode. Think I'm going to go have a bath and go to bed early. I'm exhausted. Thank you all you wonderful people :)

Good idea to get an early night. Hope it all sorts out soon.

Sorry but how do panic attacks explain the tonsil/various lumps and bumps?

They don't. That's a seperate thing. I'll have to wait til Thursday to find out about the throat. I'm seeing a head and neck specialist then. The breathing and hot flushes were what made me want to go to hospital. I didn't know if they were connected to the throat thing or not and it was pretty damn scary not being able to breathe properly. At least now I know why that's happening and it's nothing immediately serious. Tonsil, throat and face will get seen to. The Doctor I saw today did say that the glands on the other side had gone up too. i hadn't even noticed that. She offered no suggestions. Just said to wait til Thursday.

Glad you are ok for now. Hope this is a wake up call for your DH. Will you get a proper rest? Ie will DH commit to getting up with the dcs in the night/morning?

destination yes. He's managed to get tomorrow and Tuesday off work to take over the house stuff and childcare and says he will do the school / nursery run too. He's even run me a bubble bath, which i am about to grab a book to go in with :)