to ask you to guess whether dh or I answered this 'facts of life' question in this way and to ask your opinion on these two appraoches?

[lecce]

I promise I will reveal who said it but want to guage the replies first - not because I intend to lie, but to see what the reception will be before giving my reasons- promise .

So, parent 1 was alone bathing the dc when ds1 (5, just) suddenly noticed his testicles and asked what they were:

Parent 1: They're called testicles.
Ds1: What are they for?
Parent 1: (taken aback, not expecting this) They have a special seed in them for when you want to make a baby.
Ds1: (giggles, thinks a bit) How will they get in (pause, thinks, giggles)...her?
Parent 1: You remember we talked about how babies get in their mummies' tummies and we talked about the special cuddle mummies and daddies have?
Ds1: Yes. (but doesn't really seem sure- still giggly, not unhappy.)

He then changed the subject.

Parent 1 recounted all this to parent 2 (with all the details included above about reactions etc) and Parent 2 said they would simply have said testicles were 'part of what makes you a man,' and left it at that.

Parent 2 is not angry or upset about it but just feels it was too much information.

So who was who and who is BU .

I really do want to see that :o

I had no idea life as a parent of different-gendered children held such attractions...

I think the second answer is daft anyway- what if someone had to have their testicles removed after an accident or something? wouldn't they be a man anymore? Not that you'd want to get into a conversation like that with a 5 year old...

so the first answer was clearly superior :)

Worra

Bleeding hell, I'm sorry .

Tbh, I was probably having some wierd flashback to my own childhood. I have always remembered a particularly disturbing conversation when I was about 10 in which 2 boys kept asking whether or not I was a virgin and I had no idea what they were talking about but just knew that whatever I said it would be the wrong answer.

Sorry, didn't mean to come across as some sort of anti-feminist.

Oh yes - it's funny - there was the time DS suddenly realised she didn't have one - burst into tears in the bath and asked "where has DDs willy gone".

a friend was told by his older brother that sex is when a man puts hos willy in a woman's bottom and has a wee - at least your lo was given accurate info :-)

Should have told him they were to scratched and endlessly rearranged at moments of boredom, especially on public transport.

The Dude from The Big Lebowski agrees with Parent Two!

Sorry to swim against the tide, but TMI from parent 1.

This reminded me of my own DS when he was about 3 or 4. He went through a real 'how' stage which coincided with pregnancy so just answered the questions as they came up but did get a little floored when he was in the bath looking at his willy and said 'yes but how?' and I could see he couldn't work out how you could get a floppy penis into a vagina! I bottled out the time (as completely caught by surprise ) but later I explained it as the mechanics of it was really bothering him

DD once asked how many times mummies and daddies had sex too. Again, caught on the hop so I asked her what she thought and she said 20 times a day! And before you ask, my sex life was pretty non existant with 2 small children! Does beg a few questions though.

School did an excellent talk on how to talk to children about sex and it reconfirmed to me that I want my children to have a healthy understanding about normal loving relationships (and sex) before I have to tackle the potential pitfalls and risks.

I think it was sufficient information and well handled .

I dont like "special cuddle because that's the only part of what was said that isnt true"

I think his dad's proposed would likely have either confused him or possibly shut him down from asking more questions - whilst it's true it didn't answer the question.