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To think I should be annoyed

30 replies

Midnightmoon · 20/04/2012 21:34

but I just can't seem to get into a grumpy mood.
Background- I have always wanted a dog since I was little but my mum hated them so I never had one. I used to have my eyes on a german sheperd and I told Dh that I want one, one day.
Dd1 also really wants a puppy and I told her when she was older we would get one. Dh offered me one a few months back for my birthday. However I said No because even though I really want one, I think it would be better when the Dcs get older as when Dd1 is older (she is 5) then she can help out more and she could do more with the dog. Ds is only 3, and he is a bit rough so was not sure how he would be with a dog and my other Dd is a few months old so I would be worried about a dog with her.

Today I went out at lunch at DHs insistence then I picked up Dd1 and took her shopping for some one-on-one time again something Dh suggested.
Me and Dd1 walked through the door and the cutest german sheperd puppy bounded up to us. We gave it a fuss and Dh came round the corner grinning like a fool. I asked whos the puppy was. He was still grinning and said that the puppy was ours, he had taken Dd2 and Ds and bought it today to surprise me and Dd1.

Since then Ds has been so gental with the puppy and he listened when we told him to leave the puppy alone for awhile. The puppy didn't bat an eyelid when Dd2 cried and Dd1 has been learning how to pour the food and water.
I love the puppy , he is curled up on my lap. Dh is still all smiley and chufft with himself.

My friend thinks I should yell at Dh for buying the puppy after I said No. But I look at the puppy and I can't do it. Plus Dh is so happy with himself and I know he has only bought the puppy because me and Dd1 wanted it so bad.

So should I act grumpy with Dh or just be really happy with him for getting the puppy for us.

OP posts:
Lovetats · 20/04/2012 21:37

Be happy. It's a lovely thing!

spidermanspiderman · 20/04/2012 21:41

Be happy and enjoy. Lucky you.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 20/04/2012 21:43

Of course you shouldn't be grumpy, you like the puppy don't you?

What sort of a miserable shit stirring frind is this?

StripyMagicDragon · 20/04/2012 21:44

Aww, puppy! The fact you can't get a grump up suggests there's no need for one. Remember this feeling when it chews lol!

comedycentral · 20/04/2012 21:44

Ignore your friend, some people like to find negativity in every situation.

Your husband has done a lovely thing, enjoy!

OnTheBottomWithAWomansWeekly · 20/04/2012 21:44

I'm soo jealous! Enjoy!

AgentZigzag · 20/04/2012 21:45

I can see why your friend might say that, but you'd agreed on getting one before and he knew you'd be happy.

It's not like it was out of the blue completely and you hate dogs.

Awwww, any piccys?? Pleease Smile

Debeez · 20/04/2012 21:45

What a lovely DH, no wonder he's grinning, I bet the look on your faces was worth the world to him. I've had wine, so the tears forming may be more alcohol than I'd like to admit but that's a beautiful story.

TeamEdward · 20/04/2012 21:46

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rhondajean · 20/04/2012 21:46

I'm not sure - he had the best of intentions but you have valid reasons for airing to wait, and if anything does go wrong over the next months,,what will you do with puppy and who is telling the kids?

2blessed2bstressed · 20/04/2012 21:47

I just want to know what you're going to call this lovely pup? Grin

Original poster
Midnightmoon · 20/04/2012 21:47

No pictures yet, as we only had the disposable camera. Dh is getting me batteries for the camera tomorrow :o

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TiredTits · 20/04/2012 21:48

What is there to be grumpy about?

Enjoy I also would like to see pics

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 20/04/2012 21:51

A GSD puppy sounds too cute for words. I think it's a lovely surprise, and I suspect that you will cope fine - after all, what's one more bit of chaos in the chaos of the early years of child rearing? And your dc will grow up with a wonderful friend.

Original poster
Midnightmoon · 20/04/2012 21:52

rhondajean- that was my worry, the puppy will grow a lot bigger than the Dcs. We would both tell the Dcs though.

The Dcs are thinking of names as they fall asleep. Dh has said I get final choice because I have waited the longest.
If anyone can think of names then just suggest them.

OP posts:
70isaLimitNotaTarget · 20/04/2012 21:54

What was your original reasons for saying 'No' to the dog previously.
Do those reason still exist?

rhondajean · 20/04/2012 21:57

I'm sure it will be fine - I'm just a worrywart!

Original poster
Midnightmoon · 20/04/2012 21:59

The reasons still exist, though watching the Dcs today has made me feel better about it.

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Sparks1 · 20/04/2012 21:59

My friend thinks I should yell at Dh for buying the puppy after I said No

Really? I think the fact your friend thinks verbally abusing ones partner is acceptable should tell you a lot.

Especially when he was actually doing something for you. That you had expressed. And he did it without prompting.

Dear god. Us men in England are terrible aren't we...

WinkyWinkola · 20/04/2012 22:02

If your dh had got the puppy knowing you hated the idea etc then yes, I think you would be cross. My dh came home with a hamster without talking to me about it first. I was cross.

But you're happy. The dog is happy. So that's just brilliant.

Mishimoshi · 20/04/2012 22:03

How lovely!!! Puppy sounds adorable. And actually if you'd waited until your child could 'help', then you'd be waiting AGES! 9 years old at least until they are useful dog sitters.Grin

ineedabodytransplant · 22/04/2012 16:52

Huh!

I was given a Springer spaniel pup as a 'tip' when I was a service engineer.

I walked indoors with this tubby bundle of manic energy and was greeted with screams of horror.

He sadly passed away at the age of 11 ( going on six months, he was still manic in a lovely way) last year. And the whole family loved him to bits

OP, enjoy your new family member.

madasa · 22/04/2012 17:17

Leave the bastard

fullofregrets · 22/04/2012 17:35

I am jealous.
No one ever does nice stuff like that for me! Be happy, it is lovely!

Graham is a good name for a dog. It's what I'm going to call my greyhound if I ever get one.

Catsmamma · 22/04/2012 17:39

oh a GSD puppy!!

If I could name one I'd call it Bear or Horse. or Jeffrey. :D I have two GSDs nothing better imo! :D