To want to cut dd's lovely hair off?

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She screams and cries everyday about having it brushed and washed... We only wash once a week as a result. It's long and curly and people always comment on it.

OTOH, she loves the tangled movie and is always undoing plaits etc so she can wear it down and have "long" hair. So she will be pretty upset to have short hair.

She is 3.6yo and a nightmare about everything right now, just would like to have one less Lot of battles in my life!

YABU. Bob it.

Do you have a tangle teazer? Use conditioner?

Well tell her she either lets you wash and brush it or she gets a bob.

I use a lot of detangling spray and one of those special brushes on DD's hair.

cut it to shoulder length?

obv not you, unless you are a hairdresser

and have you a Tangle Teaser?

YANBU I mean...

Gosh I thought I had wrote this post and forgot somehow!!!! Same dilema- not sure what to do? No help sorry!

YANBU but I'm not sure if I could do it myself. I love long hair on little girls. My DD1 had long hair from very young (still does at 12 years old) but my DD2 is 3 years old and it's barely touching her neck . I'd love it to be long and curly

I just cut DD's hair because of the same issue - just up to a bit longer than bob.

It looks lovely,much neater,and no more rugby tackles in the morning trying to get them to let me brush their hair

MrsCampbell - what special brushes please?

Dd 3.2 is same. I am seriously considering the chop. But I don't like bobs.

I use a really good detangler, but even when the brush is sliding through her hair like a warm knife through butter, she screams. It's a PITA.

The other thing I do is to use a bristle brush rather than the ones with 'plastic prongs' as my DD's find the plastic ones painful on their scalps.

I'm not a hairdresser but I cut their hair - a slightly wonky look is better than the full birds nest look any day

tangle teezer That along with leave in conditioner and or de-tangling spray makes life a lot easier.

I then comb through with a wide tooth comb.

Also sleeping in plaits reduces morning tangles.

You need a tangle teeter - they use them at my salon and they are amazing!

Definitely sleep in plaits! I learnt that a long time ago!

Tangle teaser and when I wash my DD's long hair, I use some of my Moroccan Oil. Regular trims do make a difference too.

When my daughters had long hair i used to either use a wide tooth comb or a bristle brush, get a section of hair and start brushing at the ends of the hair.
For tough tangles I'd get my fingers under it and brush through hair onto my hand

I had this when my daughter was 3 and I had it cut into a chin length bob.We were both much happier.

Now at 5 she has waist length hair and wants to keep it so suffers with gritted teeth

I second sleeping in plaits.

YANBU my DD has curly tangly hair, as do I, although I screech less during brushing. DD has had her hair in a chin length bob, which looked lovely and was easy to brush, but now has it about mid-back length which she loves. I try to remember to plait it at night, I use a tangle teezer brush and have found that cheapo alberto balsam coconut conditioner is second to none for detangling. If she's being really awful about brushing I offer to cut it there and then with my dog grooming hairdressing scissors, this usually reduces the screaming to a whinge.

Buy her a tangled dress up outfit it comes with a long plait on a comb

does she actually need it brushed? Hairdressers have recommended to me that curly hair needs washing once a week and no brushing, as it makes it go frizzy.

Well only washing hair once a week is pretty dire surely that will contribute to tatty hair and discomfort?

nope, it works a treat, using a really good conditioner; recommended by 2 top hairdressers. Gets ringlets rather than frizz.

FFS! There's nowt wrong with washing hair once a week! It's a lot better for your hair than a daily wash and if it's not getting greasy there's absolutely no need to wash more frequently.

OP, seriously, chin length bob would be perfect. It'll make her hair evem more curly and give you both a change to get better at managing it. She'll always be able to have her hair down and will probably love it once it's done.

Am in the same position OP....my DD is just 4 and her hair is MAD. It's shoulder length and I might take her to get a nice bob. I feel like the ends are damaged due to the tangles anyway.

Is it like Fiz's in Coronation Street? Her hair is lovely.

One of my children could go a week without another wash, one couldn't, depends on the child and the type of hair.

You have had great advice: Tangle Teezer, conditioner, plaits or tied back every school day (I let them wear it down on weekends) and get a pair of hairdressing scissors and trim it yourself, cuts down on split ends.