to give my DS a milky coffee?

[CowboysGal]

I have just had an old friend round for a bit of a catch up and a chance for us to get to know each other again after being out of touch for a couple of years. It wasn't very pleasant. She was fairly negative about my DS (oh isn't he shy, don't you take him to groups to socialise him/doesn't like sharing much does he/does he always shy away from adults) I brushed off the comments as firstly I'm not hugely worried about DS and secondly her 2yr old DD is her first child, DS is my fifth so I think I maybe have a little more experience under my belt. Having said that I don't pretend to know it all and sometimes us parents do things out of habit because we've always done it with older DC and it takes a fresh pair of eyes to point out when things may not be a great idea.
Thing that really narked me happened just before she was leaving. I made the two of us a coffee and DS asked for 'a warm brew' He often has one mid-morning. She was horrified. Now I'm not talking a shot of espresso here, he has 2/3rds milk some boiling water and a tiny hardly worth putting in but makes him think he is having the same as us bit of (decaffeinated instant) coffee.
She then went on to list the acceptable drinks for a toddler-fruit juice,water,milk,fizzy pop when dining out or having a take away!!
AIBU?
Is a warm milky drink most mornings with a minuscule amount of coffee in it worse than giving a toddler cola once or twice a week?
Starting to realise why we'd drifted apart in the first place

My mum used to dilute tea for us with milk. Tea time is such a lovely time in my family and she only wanted us to join in! I'm absolutely fine and would probably do the same with my kids!

YANBU

warm brew that is so sweet!

I drank milky coffee (mellow Birds!!) from about six or seven. We were not allowed coke or fizzy drinks. I think I might have had a slight addiction to the coffee creams in Milk Tray, too.

I used to love it after school with a malted milk biscuit.

I am healthy and have never had problems with my blood pressure and I don't think for a minute I was hyperactive as a result. I was a healthy kid too and did well at school - went on to law college.

Mind you. I was six in 1974 and most of what we did then would be unlawful or banned by H and S.

We were all given tea in a bottle from betwen 4 - 6 months old! I wouldn't do that but DS2 had his first cup (as in a lid cup not bottle, he doesn't use them) of tea yesterday. He's just over a year old and had been on the scrounge for my tea so I gave him his own. He loved it.

Didn't realise there had been a similar thread recently coconutty as I've got more familiar addicted to MN it's become more likely that I'll post rather than just searching for a similar problem as I did when I was being shy .
I'm glad i didn't mention the fruit shoot she gave her DD while tut tutting at my DSs milky sugar free drink the other thing now as that seems to be a common thread/gripe on here from what I've seen

I always had milky coffee, and tea from being a toddler... and (cover your eyes if easily offended).. a drop of whisky in it if i was feeling poorly..

I havent grown up to be an obese, caffeine addicted alcoholic...

Blimey! Can you only imagine if he'd been feeling a bit under the weather and I'd put a little snif of whiskey in? Think that would've ensured no more 'catching up' sessions

YANBU.

My DS (3) loves a cup of tea. He doesn't mind coffee but he only gets sips of that not a full cup.

I started having coffee young my mum would do me one every morning even in my bottle before I went onto a cup and it never did me any harm, I drink more tea than coffee these days.

Personally I'd rather he have a brew (tea or coffee) than coke. He does get coke but not very often I tend to stick to fresh fruit juice, milk or water more than anything.

Your friend sounds annoying and quite easy to avoid in the future so maybe just let the drift continue.

My 2 year old ds drinks milky tea sometimes, and I think that's fine. I usually give him decaf but I've given him normal tea too. He doesn't drink that much of it anyway, likes dipping things in etc. People freak out far too much about stuff like that.

What did you say to her when she started laying down the law? Did you give her a piece of your mind?

I didn't joannita
In our friendship previously she had always been the dominant one. I used to let her be what she was because it didn't faze me and I thought I understood where it came from. We drifted because I dropped my social life right down so without the bond and fun of a social setting we saw less and less of each other.
We met at a children's play centre and swapped numbers.
I will be letting the drift continue as there was nothing particularly nice about her. I don't remember her being quite so awful.

YABU. Coffee for a toddler?

The world is going totally mad.

What is wrong with water or milk. If it has to be warm, then warm the milk.

What next? Watered down wine?

yanbu, although id rather give my child barleycup than coffee for some reason.

iMoniker - it was a decaf coffee by the way!!

My mum got me a small mug - a proper ceramic mug like hers, but smaller - and we had coffee together whilst the other kids had a morning nap. I was the oldest with a younger db and a bunch of child-mindees (if that is the right word!) and that was my treat. Mum says it was deliberate - if I was a big girl like mummy then I would be more patient with the little ones!

Accompanied by a gingernut. They were grownup biscuits...

squeaky- I used to have a drop of whisky in tea if I had a bad cold. We used to call it 'medicine tea'. I'm not an alcoholic now either.

When I was at junior school we got milky coffee in winter .