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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be oh so tempted to just delete DP's xw from his facebook friends.....

43 replies

mattysmum09 · 18/04/2012 22:43

Childish I know! and i wont do it as it will only demonstrate my pathetic jealousy but arrrrgggghhhhhhh so tempted it would be so easy - just delete :)

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porcamiseria · 18/04/2012 22:44

delete!!!!

CuttedUpPear · 18/04/2012 22:45

Do it. Who will ever know?

HalfPastWine · 18/04/2012 22:45

They clearly parted on good terms if she's still on his Facebook page?

LindyHemming · 18/04/2012 22:45

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DuelingFanjo · 18/04/2012 22:45

are they still friends?

Eclairwaldorf · 18/04/2012 22:45

do it, do it, do it

MrsLettuce · 18/04/2012 22:46

y a b utterly u

Unless you're 15, of course Wink

GrahamTribe · 18/04/2012 22:46

It may be satisfying but it may also cause a whole heap of arguments with your DH.

RachelWalsh · 18/04/2012 22:47

I think if it bothers you then speak to him about it, I don't think it's fair to decide for him who he should be friends with or delete people for him. My dh is friends with his ex wife on fb, it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Is there any reason for you to feel threatened by them being friends?

Debeez · 18/04/2012 22:48

Why are you jealous?

If you have reason to delete her you have reason to leave the bastard (still flirting etc)

If you have no reason then YABU. She's his ex, you're the person he's with now. Deep breath, smile and move away from facebook.

AKissIsNotAContract · 18/04/2012 22:48

YABU. It's ok to frape him but deleting his mates is crossing the line

tartyflette · 18/04/2012 22:49

Might be fun. But rise above it, sweetie. You are BETTER than this. (and save it for a time when you're seriously pissed off with him - or her. )

Debeez · 18/04/2012 22:50

Someone give aKissisnotacontact a gavel. A true mumsnet verdict!

Fireandashes · 18/04/2012 22:50

Angel shoulder: don't be silly, it's immature and very U and will only bring about dire consequences and recriminations.

Devil shoulder: delete ex-wife, a couple of other random friends he doesn't interact with much and if he notices and queries it say "oh FB is always doing this, it's so annoying, I thought half a dozen of my friends had deleted me last month but apparently it's just random FB re-sets".

Original poster
mattysmum09 · 18/04/2012 22:52

Oh i know i definitely wont do it not my place to and silly no flirting goes on he disslikes her, it just irritates me but then so do a lot of things on there so i will step away from sad annoying facebook it is not real life it is not a real friendship!! i do feel like i am 15 though my emotions especially jealousy never seem to have moved on since that stage so i will avoid my triggers from now on, much more helpful people on mumsnet :)

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HandMini · 18/04/2012 22:52

I would delete. How come you have access to his FB account?

Threeprinces · 18/04/2012 22:53

Haha, I understand. DH's ex wife has just joined Facebook. Hasn't asked either of us to be friends yet but has listed my DSIL as her SIL which has pissed me off a tad, after all they split up 20 years ago and we've been together 18 years. AIBU to be pissed off??

curiositykitten · 18/04/2012 22:56

I have my ex-h on my Facebook, so he has his ex-w! If a guy tried to get me to delete him, I'd not be best impressed especially if there was no 'reason'.

Threeprinces I have my ex's sister listed as my SIL, she requested the relationship with me, after we'd split up.

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mattysmum09 · 18/04/2012 22:57

Threeprinces she has done this kind of thing too! bloody annoying i am like a little toddler fuming at the computer sometimes but i feel better getting it out now so i can ignore it in RL....

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Threeprinces · 18/04/2012 22:59

You're right, get it out here rather than in RL but bloody frustrating!!

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mattysmum09 · 18/04/2012 23:00

Oh god i hope none of us know each other...lol.

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Threeprinces · 18/04/2012 23:05

She also goes through pictures MY (!!) SIL has posted of my children and their cousins and comments on them all. I just feel like I'm being watched even though she is a nice enough person I'm not now relishing her presence in lots of out lives even if it is online.

flyingspaghettimonster · 18/04/2012 23:05

Three princes, I think yabu... If I broke up with my husband I would still see his family as family... His brother is as close to me as mine. When we went through a rough patch he said whatever happened I was still his sister... Why should my relationship with one man ending mean I lose a whole family?

Op... Don't do it. if you delete her how can you keep tabs on her? Keep your friends close and enemies closer ;)

Threeprinces · 18/04/2012 23:10

Really flying, even in 20 years time when both of them have been remarried for 15 years? Surely there is no need to define a 'relationship' on fb? That said, I have DH defined as a relationship but no-one else. Surely there is either an ex SIL box, which I assume there isn't, or there is not an appropriate category so you wouldn't put anything? They were married for 2 years 20 years ago...

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mattysmum09 · 18/04/2012 23:11

That thought also crossed my mind flying ha ha very true and i suppose my dp is good friends with her brother stil so that i wouldn't wish to change just a silly little hissy fit on my part over now :( i will bloody well do it if he annoys me though. yes ditto threeprinces i feel your frustration!

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