Am I being Unreasonable

[clairec1]

Long long long story short

Had an interview under caution for IS and Hb claim
They wanted to know where my partner lives and i told them exactly what i know, he lives here there and everywhere i.e with friends and family


Was requested for a 2nd interview
They are now saying if my partner does not go in for an interview and prove where he is staying they are stopping my benefits please keep in mind HE DOES NOT LIVE WITH ME, .....DOES NOT CLAIM ANY BENEFITS AND WORKS! They dont believe that he doesnt live with me but have given me no reason as to why they think this!!!! I have never had a reason to doubt that he was staying at a mates but he does get his bank statement sent here as he needs a trustworthy address for it to be sent i did think that this would be a reason to think he lives with me when it is just generally for a trusted address

Im petrified that they will stop my money and i will lose my home and my belongings all because he cant prove he lives with anyone or anywhere the only letter he ever recieves is his bank statement which as i stated comes to my home i have 2 sons already and a daughter due in 12 weeks this is stressing me out so much im having chronic migranes

Sorry to say this, but if he gets his post at your house then they've 'got you'.

One word - Experian - a simple credit search will show a financial "relationship" - and yes DWP have the powers in law to do it.

They can access your credit report and will be able to see anyone linked to your address, which your dp will be if his bank statements are being sent to your address. They will be able to see if he has applied for any loans etc using your address as well. If you are genuinely telling the truth I would get your dp to get all mail redirected to another address which ideally he would registered on the electoral roll as living there. If DWP suspect your dp of living with you, then they seem to put the onus on you to disprove this (I dont know how easy or fair this is).

"he does not with me, he doesnt claim benefits, he works" Is he the chidren's father? if he is he bloody well should be paying for them then! If he is your "partner" why doesn't he live with you? Becaues from where im standing, it seems like he does live with you but says that he doesn't so that you can claim maximum benefits. If it seems like that to me, from the info you have given above then its going to seem that way to them.

When i was a single mum on benefits, Hb etc i was very wary about having my partner stay over with me because the fact that he stayed over made my claim very dodgy - i was not entitled to have him stay for periods longer than one night if i remember correctly, of course he did, but he genuinely wasn't living with me, just staying with me because he lived a fair distance away.

Why doesn't he live with you?

The OP is talking shit. She (according to another thread) has 4 kids and 1 on the way. Poor attempt OP, very poor.

why is his post being sent to your house?-this would look fishy to the social as if he had a permanent residence surely he would get the post sent there???
Is he the father to your unborn baby?
Tbh it is sounding dodgy to me let alone an official-& why has he not told you where he is staying?
You really need to make him go to the meeting

On another thread op stated she had four kids & 1 on the way and she said her dp lives with his parents but on this thread op states she doesnt know where his living