to think mm will flame you if ...

[ScarlettAlexandra]

you have any point at all.

even if someone is being nice, and god help them if they mention the elderly or disabled.

where is the sisterhood, awaits the grilling ;)

Preach, the old 'Who is your favourite Mumsnetter' has been going on since Mumsnet was first created! In fact they would have Mumsnet quizzes like "who gives the best breastfeeding advice and whose name sounds like a clock?" Etc. There was even a YouTube eulogy which contained all your favourite in-jokes and popular Mumsnetters.

To be honest, it's nowhere near as bad now, mainly because there are so many posters now that it's impossible to have a Head Girl and the IN Crowd.

You can't create a pub for nice people only. It's a public house, free for everyone to enter, but if people are actually fighting and causing trouble on a regular basis they can and will be barred.

That's life babe and you just can't shelter from it, you have to go out and face it once in a while. At least on Mumsnet you can move to a different thread which is a darn sight easier than moving to a different table.

What maryz and roobarb said

I think the AIBU thing really is a bit of a problem. People frame things as an AIBU which just aren't so they can post it I the fighty place. Then get upset when it goes fighty. Hide AIBU if you don't like it there, this pub has lots of bars :)

fair point ladies. it can be a bit scary on aibu you dont expect to be personally attacked for something mundane.

Is this thread actually about anything?

I would recommend lurking for a while, to anyone.

There are things that i would ask MN advice on, because i feel that how someon here live and 'are' wouldn't suit me and my life, so the advice wouldn't be relevent.

Even if the case is that you don't want to start a thread,if you read through them, on , say relationships, there are helpful bits that will make you more imformed.

We are all likely to end up elderly or disabled, so it makes sense to create a world that is fair, just and equal (even if you are not a compassionate person).

You can be personally attacked anywhere. I think you also have to understand that sometimes emotions run high. People might post about arguments they've had with their family and we have no way of knowing the background or what shit they've had to put up with which would explain why they completely lose it if someone suggests that they are in the wrong.

Unlike real life, you can't read body signals on here. Most people just want to be told that they are right and you can imagine a heated argument with their partner for instance, then coming onto Mumsnet for a bit of consolation and an indignant moan with like-minded people, only to be told that you were in the wrong! Some people do expect us to act like their sisters or friends and stick up for them no matter what. But unfortunately that doesn't happen.

Anyway, it's only when you are personally insulted that you know you've really made it onto Mumsnet - so welcome!

Arrrgh @ threads about threads about threads about threads!!

Mumsnet will eat itself!

I think it is absolutely fine that, continuing our pub analogy, a poster is told to repost somewhere other than AIBU - but many - who may not be familiar with the battleground it can be - do take it personally - and some posters seem to thrive on this. But i agree that some idiots ask on AIBU then are utterly indignant when the are soundly told YABU (good fun to watch these threads though!)

and Rhubarb - I am most certainly not looking to be part of a forum which is "nice" all the time - I have not always been nice here myself (and have PM'd to apologise) and there are some people who need to be told firmly (but fairly) that they are completely wrong (and that includes me, though of course I am always right )

I just think that there are a few, who seem to pop up collectively on certain threads, who pounce if anyone so much as tuts about an aspect of MN. My opinions (which of course you don't have to agree with) is that this creates a slight vigilante atmosphere - and this is not necessarily limited to AIBU.

i just think that these "vigilantes" should accept that MN needs to cater to thousands of different types of character, and not just tell those who may not fit their ideal MN mold that they should "fuck off to nethuns" - fuck off to another thread is entirely warranted at times however.

Oh don't get me started on those who say "fuck off to Netmums", I blow a bloody gasket whenever that happens!

Yes there are knobheads everywhere. You just need to tell them that Knobhead Land is back at the top of the Faraway Tree so can they feck off back there with Fanny and Dick.

if post in aibu, then yanbu

Mind i have innocently offended people in my time

Once for saying i liked the ideas of fairies a lot. As in flower fairies in the garden.

Apparently this was bad.

Is this about the thread where a van driver swore at you, you then approached him in a petrol station where he swore at you again which upset you and then couldn't understand why the police didn't go through the CCTV at the petrol station to find his registration number? If so, you weren't flamed and there was only one post on that thread that was rude to you.

People won't support you if they disagree with what you're saying, female or not. If you post asking AIBU then you need to be prepared for some people to say YABU.

Hully no not really

As for the Mnet phrases being "needy" erm no idiom stems through ebb and flows. Take Wank Badger it has been used in this household well before my time on mnet. Should I not use it on here as I might be Hock Sorrer judged?

Any social group has these phrases.

And all badgers are bastards ... fact.

Surely if a website is making you that edgy.... Have a break. Your membership wont expire you know.

Maryz, I think there is a land up the Faraway Tree waiting for you.........

I saw a great badger splat the other day. I was tempted to buy one of those big cardboard luminous stars, write on it SPLAT OF THE DAY! and stick it in the badger.

Wish I had now.

Erm, I hate to break this to you, but I did actually mean a squished badger. As in road kill.

Honestly though, it really was a good splat!

And btw, I'd set fire to the bloody slippery slip.

But I DO love animals! I love 'em roasted, fried, grilled, boiled, steamed and barbecued

Besides, every good splat really should be commemorated. It's what they would have wanted.

Bollocks I even spell wrong when I'm spelling wrong

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