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AIBU?

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To not want to be my dogs 'mummy'?

91 replies

SpaghettiTwirlerAndProud · 18/04/2012 07:46

I have a 10mo DD, I am her mummy. Not the dogs. Everyone seems to refer to me as his 'mum/mummy'. When I took him to the vets and the vet took him away to be weighed she brought him back in and said "Here you go, back to mummy." and quite a few other people have made other comments (can't think of any straight off the top of my head).

It just really bugs me.

AIBU?

OP posts:
LadyBeagleEyes · 18/04/2012 12:38

I'm my dog's mummy.
What else would I be? His owner? Nah, I've had him since he was 6 weeks old, he's my best boy.
And currently looking very posh in his Harrods collar wot I just bought him in London, along with Harrods biscuits and a frisbee.
Ds got a Harrod's pen.

MrsBovary · 18/04/2012 12:44

God no, you are not being unreasonable. I'm wary of people who pronounce pets their babies, or even worse as I've sometimes heard, fur-babies.

I find it amusing enough when the vet attaches our surname to one of our cats' names, and it is called out in the waiting room E.g. Tiddles Smith.

DuffyMoon · 18/04/2012 12:58

I call my dog the son I never had Blush and as I now have 2 teenage dd's, he is by far my most favouritest child Wink

Housewifefromheaven · 18/04/2012 13:00

What ^ said. My little baby pug is at the vets being spayed and I miss her :(

DuffyMoon · 18/04/2012 13:01

Oh I would love a pug...you will need to wrap her in a blankie when she gets in

GerardWay · 18/04/2012 13:17

Another Mummy here. DH is her Daddy and my brother is Uncle. DC's call us Mummy & Daddy when talking to her about us. And I'm yet another one that gets Mother's Day, Birthday and Christmas gifts and card from my baby.

SpaghettiTwirlerAndProud · 18/04/2012 13:25
OP posts:
70isaLimitNotaTarget · 18/04/2012 13:28

I'm the guinea-pigs' mum.
Legally.
My name on the Adoption Papers.
They both have dark brown eyes,like me.
They are both vegetarian, like me.

IRL,they belong to the DC.
The GPs and I know the truth. That's what matters. Wink

Codandchops · 18/04/2012 13:40

GrinWink

LittleMissMcFartyPants · 18/04/2012 13:51

Fartydog is currently laid across my knee on his back paws in the air, licking me so i rub his tummy Hmm

I've picked up poo, entertained him with games with his ball, fed him, been barked at because he wanted something and told him to go do a wee 67 times ( scared of a bit of rain)

I'm not his mummy, oh no not me Grin

loopyluna · 18/04/2012 13:53

Where I live (abroad) we are our pets' masters and mistresses which I find funny. DH was quite alarmed the first time he came to England and heard my father refer to himself as "daddy" when talking to the dog!

CremeEggThief · 18/04/2012 13:54

YANBU, OP.
I adore animals and would stick up for them sooner than for most adults. But I am not my cat's mummy. I don't really like to think of myself as her 'owner' either. I know it sounds OTT, but the term I like best is human companion. I don't often say this aloud, but I think it.

pinktrees · 18/04/2012 13:56

Oh no!

You are a meanie OP - you are his mummy Grin.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 18/04/2012 13:59

Grin it's like when people call their animals Animal Companions because pet is too demeaning and submissive.

at thought

LumpyLatimer · 18/04/2012 14:04

LumpyCat is my baby and I am her mummy and DH is her daddy and we all love each other very, very much Blush Blush Grin

We are long-term TTCers and when we first got her we had a very serious conversation about how we were not to refer to each other as Mummy and Daddy as it would be Simply Too Painful Hmm

Once you've pulled a long bit of string out of her arsehole/woken up with her paw in your mouth/ come home from work in tears to find someone does love you after all, even if they refuse to show it, they do become your baby SO THERE

CheerMum · 18/04/2012 14:04

we have chickens and they are my "girls", i don't refer to them as my babies, nor am i Mommy. I kind of see them as a group of girlies who live in my garden.

but my freddiebaby is my best baby boy. my dd and dh are going away for a couple of days this weekend and freddie and i have been talking about what we shall do while they are away (so far we've come up with - eat, lie on the sofa, watch dvd's, trump and snore)

twirler, you and your fosterdog are welcome to come join the madness Grin

Pandemoniaa · 18/04/2012 14:13

Does my head in, tbh. I know who my dog's mummy is as it happens. Oddly enough, she is another Jack Russell terrier.

I'll never understand why people can't give animals the dignity they deserve. They are not fucking "furbabies" ffs. Nor are you their "Mummies and Daddies". Unless you happen to be remarkably literate cats and dogs yourself.

crashdoll · 18/04/2012 14:38

Of course I am DDog's mother! I adopted him with love. I do tell him about this birth mother and explain why she couldn't take care of 5 puppies by herself at the tender age of 4. He's never met his birth father.

I've also adopted the term PFD for myself, precious first dog. For the first year of his life, we spent a lot of time at the vet. Blush

Tokamak · 18/04/2012 15:21

We have a dog and 2 cats. I'm not the 'daddy' of any of them. They're animals, cute and clever though they might be.

Chilenachica · 18/04/2012 15:32

I was a dog's mummy for a while, but only because the half starved waif I rescued was temporarily my baby. I'm now the Alpha and she's just another member of the packGrin

Mrsjay · 18/04/2012 16:49

I think foster parent is acceptable JUST Hmm my friend washes her dogs face with a baby wipe and he has a sooky blanket the dog is 8 i think he is far to old for a sooky blanket i bet all the other dogs laugh at him Grin

Rinkan · 18/04/2012 17:43

Hmm. I think that the story of Greyfriars Bobby would be a lot less poignant if the dog were said to have held vigil at his "Daddy's" grave. "Master" is so much classier.

everlong · 18/04/2012 18:26

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DublinMammy · 18/04/2012 18:32

YANBU I imagine if you aren't into it it would be really annoying but this is coming from someone who rings the vet or kennels and introduces herself as "It's Dublin Mummy here, Fang's mum". I also describe him as "my first son" and he send me cards on Mother's Day. I know, a lot of people think it's weird but I it makes me happy and so what?!?

wherearemysocka · 18/04/2012 18:41

One of the vets where my cat goes referred to him as my 'little friend' and then proceeded to talk to him like that 'ok, little friend, let's get you out of your box...'. To me it sounded like something you might call a penis!

He gets called by his first name and surname at the vet's too. They also sent him a Christmas card.