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AIBU?

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to throw DHs dirty washing in the bin ?

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OhdearNigel · 16/04/2012 23:00

I have asked DH repeatedly over the last 5 years to stop leaving his dirty socks and underpants on the floor where he drops them. Frankly it is equivalent to trying to get a slug to converse in formal Japanese. We have two laundry bins and a washing machine. He is not disabled and is perfectly capable of putting offending items in the laundry bins. I told him 2 weeks ago that the next time I found underwear not in the laundry bin it would go in the rubbish bin. I have not followed this threat up yet. However after a row about whose turn it was to change the cat litter this evening I have found his socks on the floor. Again. I have thrown them in the bin.

WIBU ?

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SuePurblyBusinesslike · 17/04/2012 08:12

What is wrong with these people? Throwing them across the living room? Piling them in a heap in their children's rooms?

I'd stuff them in his pillow or put them in his car. Unwashed, obviously.

Northernlurker · 17/04/2012 08:20

I would do the bin bag thing. Occasionally dh makes the error of asking if he has a shirt for work. He gets snarled at and asked if he presented it for washing? I actually quite like washing and ironing and don't mind doing it but I will NOT be taken for granted. Fortunately my mil wouldn't be taken for granted either so he's in pretty good habits.

AgentProvocateur · 17/04/2012 08:23

Why are you all picking up and washing for your partners when they're adults? Either one of us will put the machine in if the washing basket's full, but neither of us would go round picking up each others discarded dirties that aren't in the basket. But I also wouldn't sanction my DH as if he was a child. This is what I find odd.

QuietTiger · 17/04/2012 08:26

I let the cat deal with it.

My DH has a laundry basket in the bathroom and in the bedroom. The deal we have, is I will wash what he puts in there. He's reasonably good about that, but he is the worlds worst for leaving his clean work clothes on the floor next to the bed "ready for the morning".

Or he was until the cat peed on them 4 nights in a row. Now his clothes are folded neatly on a chair.

whoknewthat · 17/04/2012 08:28

I agree Agent, that's why I just left them and didn't wash them. They go in the laundry basket now!

You'll be making him a sticker chart next!

I do all the washing in our house. It just works better that way. I have a system . However there is a difference between household chores and basic personal responsibility.

So DH does his own ironing as that is only of benefit to him personally and is responsible for making sure all clothes get into the 'system'

DS's (3 &6) have to do this too (within reason)

IShallWearMidnight · 17/04/2012 08:39

If it's not in the laundry boxes I don't wash it. If it's not sorted into my sorting scheme properly I may not wash it. If you need something urgently, you have to ask nicely and I'll wash it. It may not get properly dried, depending on how late you've left it. Only exception is school uniform which I will go and fish out of the DDs rooms occasionally. I am mean.

DH had to take a suitcase of dirty clothes one Christmas when we went to stay with my parents, and ask his scary MIL if he could use the washing machine as soon as we arrived . He's been a lot better since .

TheBigJessie · 17/04/2012 12:24

Leave the socks on the floor, until you are at breaking point. The day you feel an overwhelming urge to Just Get Them Off The Floor, put them on the seat of his customary chair/sofa cushion. Then, arrange them into words. You can do "Oi!" with as few as two pairs, depending on style of sock.

redrubyshoes · 17/04/2012 12:34

My ex-(D)H used to do this. I would pick up his clothes and put them back in the drawer or wardrobe unwashed. It took him a long time to notice that they were getting dirtier and dirtier.

Thank god he is now someone else's problem. Precious Little Mummy's Boy he was.

notquitenormal · 17/04/2012 16:07

When I was about 15 my Mum told me if I left my school shoes in the hall again she would burn them. Then when left them in the hall...she burned them. I had to go to school for the rest of term in my trainers (I only had two pairs of shoes in the world...it was only a couple of weeks) When I got in trouble I asked her for a note, which she did and it said "NQN is wearing trainers to school because she cannot do as she is told."

I do not leave my shoes everywhere.

And I would do the same to any lazy fecker in my house expecting me to skivy round after them.

mathanxiety · 17/04/2012 16:16

QuietTiger, our cats must be related .

cabbagesoup · 17/04/2012 16:47

I throw my DH's clothes socks anything that's left on the floor out of our windows, onto the front lawn of our lovely home surrounded by neighbours - he was gobsmacked the first time, really cross the second time, absolutely fuming the 3rd time, and you know what I think it might of worked for about a year at least most of the time items were picked up... took 3 times like a toddler. I think what made him run down stairs to retrieve his items was the fact his boxer shorts were on the lawn.. oh and come rain or shine this happens..and you know what it feels FAB!!

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