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AIBU?

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to throw DHs dirty washing in the bin ?

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OhdearNigel · 16/04/2012 23:00

I have asked DH repeatedly over the last 5 years to stop leaving his dirty socks and underpants on the floor where he drops them. Frankly it is equivalent to trying to get a slug to converse in formal Japanese. We have two laundry bins and a washing machine. He is not disabled and is perfectly capable of putting offending items in the laundry bins. I told him 2 weeks ago that the next time I found underwear not in the laundry bin it would go in the rubbish bin. I have not followed this threat up yet. However after a row about whose turn it was to change the cat litter this evening I have found his socks on the floor. Again. I have thrown them in the bin.

WIBU ?

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OhdearNigel · 16/04/2012 23:23

It just feels like losing the battle. I want him to put them in the washing machine, not just capitulate for an easy life.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 16/04/2012 23:23

What does he care about then? Coffee, chocolate? Where could he find his stinky socks? As a bookmark in a favourite book?

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OhdearNigel · 16/04/2012 23:24

i stuck them in his motorcycle helmet the other day. He just threw them on the floor and had a go at me while walking out of the door

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MrsTerryPratchett · 16/04/2012 23:26

Oooo, motorcycle helmet is good! However, I think you have bigger problems if he had a go then carried on doing his thing. In this house, we say what we mean and mean what we say. If I put DH's stinky stuff in his possessions, it would be because he deserved it and was warned and he would not have a go at me.

TwatsInTheViolinFactory · 16/04/2012 23:29

Definitely bin. It's the only way by the sound of it.

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OhdearNigel · 16/04/2012 23:29

Most of the time I give as good as I get

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jifnotcif · 16/04/2012 23:32

Trouble with socks is they're disposable and he won't miss them until there are no more. Do the trick with the binbag - squirrel them away and present to him when he has none left. If he leaves his shoes on the living room floor, chuck them behind the sofa and tell him where they are if he asks you.

BaronessBomburst · 16/04/2012 23:33

DH leaves his clothes and possessions scattered around the house. I particularly HATE finding socks draped over the back of the sofa or the dining room chairs.

A toddler has cured him of leaving his phone and keys lying around - DS kept pressing whichever button connects to the internet. I now collect all clothes and just add them to the heap in the corner of DS's room, and don't wash them until they get put in the laundry bin. And in case you're wondering why he piles his clothes up in to DS room - I have no idea either. I think it's because DS doesn't complain, but if he starts a pile in our room, I do.

MooBaaWoofCheep · 16/04/2012 23:41

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jifnotcif · 16/04/2012 23:44

The only reason I don't put my socks in the laundry is because they contaminate it. I have a little box for my socks now, with a lid on. Perhaps he needs one too?

Bumblefeck · 17/04/2012 00:11

After 4 years I have finally got OH to at least put his dirty clothes in one pile. He still hasn't quite mastered the laundry basket but at least it's not all over the house anymore.

However, unless they make their own way to the laundry basket, they don't get washed which is why he has a big panic every week about the fact he has no clean pants/socks/work shirts etc tough shit i'm not your mother, a big spray of Febreeze keeps the stink down :o

PoppyWearer · 17/04/2012 02:57

I got my DH a neat little laundry bin for the bedroom because he would always cast off his used socks on the floor there. Our main laundry bin is in the bathroom, seemingly too far to walk. But he does put them in the bedroom one.

I know you said you didn't want one in the living room, but what about one that doesn't look like a bin? You can always put it away when you have guests.

Longdistance · 17/04/2012 03:09

Urgh! This is my bug bear 2. Drives me nuts! The laundry basket is outside our bedroom, and he leaves it lying around the bedroom everywhere. He knows that I do washing on a Monday, and Friday, but is his washing ever there? No, he ends up having 2 do it seperately Serves him right, the lazy sod!
YADNBU! But, I do like the collect in2 a bin bag idea wonders if this defeats the object

CheshireDing · 17/04/2012 03:22

I'm with Bumble DH knows that if clothes are not in the laundry basket they will not get washed, and as I only wash on Wednesday it's a long time without clothes if they miss their slot.

A dog helps with stuff left lying around as it gets chewed, maybe this is another option

mathanxiety · 17/04/2012 03:22

YANBU to bin it since you said you would. Doesn't matter if you feel regretful now. Keep on doing it until he runs out. Don't engage in arguments about it. Don't back down. He won't change his tune unless he realises you're serious. Do you want another five years of frustration?

Don't get a laundry bin for the living room. He wouldn't use it and you would sit there grinding your teeth about it instead of enjoying the tv.

Never do his laundry again. He is a grown up.

RosesAreBlue · 17/04/2012 04:44

No you are absolutely not BU!! I am lol at this as my dh comes home from work, sits down, takes off shoes (leaves them in living room grrrr), takes off socks and for some reason beyond my comprehension THROWS them across the room. Then heads up to shower and get into pjs. Drives me insane. Esp when they get separated and singletons lurk in corners etc.

Anyway, I used to leave them but would always cave in and pick up and wash until one day I spat the dummy and threw them into the open fire to burn! Dh shocked but I told him they would all suffer the same fate until he stopped his revolting, infuriating and lazy habit. He dug his heels in and continued until each sock had been thrown in the fire.. Then bought new ones. Oh the waste! I held strong.. And won. Now they aren't thrown anywhere except the laundry basket.

If he suffers a relapse they are thrown out the living room window. Where he collects them and washes himself if required.

lifechanger · 17/04/2012 05:52

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whoknewthat · 17/04/2012 06:50

Just don't wash them and if they bother you, kick them under the sofa.

DH was ranting about having no clean socks recently and I pointed to the growing pile of dirty ones by his bed.

If it's not in the basket, it doesn't get washed.

FallenCaryatid · 17/04/2012 07:03

YANBU, what happened to his laundry before he lived with you?
My son is an Aspie with sensory issues and does strip off and into his pjs as soon as he gets home, has done for years. That's the AS part.
But I broke him of his wish to drop dirty clothing on the floor as he turned on the TV because that's just idle brat syndrome. So now he puts them in the laundry basket. I'm not even the laundry person in this house, DH does all that and if it isn't in the basket, it doesn't get washed.
Do whatever you can, fire, bin, boiled sock stew for dinner to stop him behaving in such a lazy and antisocial manner.

JustHecate · 17/04/2012 07:45

So basically, it is his belief that it is your job to pick up after him?

Socks are just a symptom of an unacceptable mindset.

SofaKing · 17/04/2012 07:58

Nigel are you married to my dh? He comes in and takes his socks and shoes off in the living room. I keep tripping over the shoes .

He had the cheek to complain that he has no socks as they get lost in the wash. I suggested he put them in the laundry instead of leaving them inside his shoes. He said if he left them in his shoes and I washed them he should get a pair back.

I may save up all his dirty socks and stuff them all into his shoes. In pairs of course.

Annpan88 · 17/04/2012 08:04

aarrggh its so annoying! DH is the same, doesn't realise how disrespectful it is! He doesn't really do the washing, I do that during the day, all fine. But the fact that hes assuming I'm his little minion who will hop about with a spring like glee in my pinny picking up his fucking socks because he can't be arsed to aim about a meter to the fucking right when he launches them really gets my goat

AmberLeaf · 17/04/2012 08:07

This is what happens when mothers [yes mothers not fathers] run round picking up after boy children, they learn that its a womans job to pick up their filth.

If my sons dont put their dirty clothes where they are meant to go then they dont get washed.

Desiren · 17/04/2012 08:08

My husband doesn't throw his socks where ever he takes them off, he takes them off and puts them in the shoes he was wearing then puts said shoes away so what you get is a pair of socks so hard and crusty [boak] that they have to be thrown away I used to go looking for his socks but stopped a long time ago I just leave them now and every 6 months or so husband chucks away old socks and buys new pairs it's such a waste but I'm not touching those stiff sock for love nor money.

diddl · 17/04/2012 08:11

These lazy, infantile men-have they just moved from mother to wife & never lived alone?

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