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To talk to the teacher re smut?

61 replies

Almacks · 16/04/2012 21:13

I know there is always a certain amount of sniggery sex talk amongst top end primary kids, but I think my daughter is feeling uncomfortable/disturbed by the amount she's hearing. She knows about "normal" sex stuff, but there's a lad in her group who keeps bringing it up. I've heard about hand gestures to refer to two other class members "doing it", "private time" on the school field between him and another boy where they pretended to shag each other (in the missionary position tho' not sure how that'd work...) and did sex talk, watched by loads of kids, and, today, kept on in the classroom about wanting a teabag. This was a new one on me, btw, but DD could tell from context it was smutty, turns out it is.

Anyway, I'm thinking this is all a bit too frequent (all within last two weeks of term, then today), and maybe it's time to have a chat to the teacher. I do also know all the parents of the children involved, but DD is scared of getting into trouble with the kids if I say anything to anybody.

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BertieBotts · 17/04/2012 08:09

I didn't know men had anal sex until I was about 16, I just sort of assumed they rubbed their penises together or something Blush

SoupDragon · 17/04/2012 08:12

"I think that allowing this behaviour affects what females think they have to live with."

I don't think it has anything to do with gender. The child who was uncomfortable with it could just as easily have been male.

Heyyyho · 17/04/2012 08:27

But in this instance the person feeling uncomfortable is a girl and the person making sexual references is a boy.
I wouldn't want dd to think she had to put up with this from all boys.

RevoltingPeasant · 17/04/2012 08:30

Heyyy can I ask a possibly naive question? - really, though - in what sense is the OP's DD 'putting up with it'? As far as I can see, this is all taking place between a couple of boys in her class, not directed at/ involving her - she's just a spectator along with the rest of the class. Apols if I have the wrong end of the stick.......

Anyhow sounds the boy in question needs a lesson in manners, at least.

InAnyOtherSoil · 17/04/2012 08:39

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valiumredhead · 17/04/2012 08:42

I think a lot of people on here would have a shock at what some 10 year olds discuss in the playground. I would agree that lots of it comes from gaming.

Hownoobrooncoo · 17/04/2012 08:59

Well my nine yr old has done the Tea bagging thing he learned from classmates who play COD, my 6 yr old does it too. The older one also comes home telling me all the swear words he has learned, who is in love with who (all doing the girlfriend/boyfriend thing), asks if it's true that sex can be putting a penis in the woman's mouth, being gay is a big topic etc. I think it's common and I they to be open about these things and tell him what is rude and whatbis acceptable. I dread to think what they are saying. He has said that some classmates are watching people naked on the PC and having sex.

Babylon1 · 17/04/2012 10:01

REALLY glad I asked now Blush

REALLY glad DH was sleeping, else i'm sure he'd have demonstrated!!!

Are 6 YO and 10 YO REALLY talking about this stuff???

And I thought i was quite clued up :(

SoupDragon · 17/04/2012 11:15

"If it were in the workplace - if an adult woman were subjected to this kind of conversation- would that seem ok?"

Well, it's not actually directed at the female is it? It's conversation she just happened to hear.

It has nothing to do with gender at all. It could just as easily have been the OPs DS feeling uncomfortable. I really think people should stop trying to see gender issues where there aren't any. It just makes females look ridiculous.

SoupDragon · 17/04/2012 11:16

The issue here is whether children should be making such remarks.

BonnieBumble · 17/04/2012 11:18

I remember a lot of the boys were like this at primary school, I found it very upsetting but was too embarrassed to tell my mum.

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