We get married next month. It has been booked for just under a year, everyone knew about it & were given plenty of advanced warning as its quite far from where some people live. STBPIL are making us bend over backwards to accommodate them. Having assured us they had booked accommodation we find out that actually they haven't and are expecting a room at the venue. We rearrange everything, ask people to find accommodation elsewhere. Then PIL decide that they cannot possibly ask DP's aunt who is travelling from Scotland to find and pay for her own accommodation. We quietly remind them that I have family coming from Europe who are doing just that but still have to ring/email several B&B's because apparently they "can't".
Then MIL is worried about stairs etc as she is registered disabled and struggles to walk long distances or up stairs. We offer our house about 30 mins away & that we will stay at venue instead. She's happy with this.
I get another phone call this morning that included every bit of emotional blackmail. She's not happy at all, wants to stay at the venue and if she can't they won't bother coming down until the night before the wedding. She comes up with various completely invalid excuses as to why this is the case, then claims I don't understand how frail she is now (she has been struggling with loss of appetite & unexplained weight loss meaning she has lost almost 6 stone in a year), how old she looks and we will be very shocked when we see her, despite the fact we saw her a month ago & on Skype every weekend. So she's now back staying at the venue because neither me nor DP could be bothered to argue with her yet again.
If my bitterly divorced & remarried parents can put everything aside for one day & not make this about themselves AIBU to expect other people to do the same?