I promised DH he could name the baby. Now I've changed my mind.

[JakeyMom]

When I was pregnant with DS1 I had my heart set the name Jacob. DH hated it and used to come up with all these alternatives but I had my heart set and I promised him that if he let me call DS Jacob he would pick the next DC's name. I PROMISED.
So fast forward and I'm pregnant with DC2 and naturally DH has been considering names. He was under the illusion that we would be having a boy and had already picked out the name Adam which I was fine with. However, it turns out we're having a girl which has totally thrown DH off course.
He's now decided he wants to name DD after his GRANDMOTHER(!!!) as she brought him up. It's an AWFUL name for a child (Blanche) and I just can't bring myself to agree. The name makes me shudder, it reminds me of coronation street. I've told him I hate the name and it's disgusting for a baby but he won't budge on it and is digging his heels in. AIBU to go back on my promise for the sake of our DD?

I refused to compromise with my "D"H over the name of our first child.

Now, I'm considering breaking a promise I made to him about the name of our second child.

That's okay, isn't it?

"...he's obviously sticking with this name even if he has second thoughts."

Or, he obviously wants to name his daughter after his beloved grandmother.

where are you OP?

I love Blanche. It makes me think of Anya Seton's book too. Incidentally, both Blanche of Lancaster and the eponymous Katherine were my many-times great-grandmothers and Anya Seton was a very, very distant relation.

[shows off]

Sorry OP, YABVU.

Suck it up. That's what you made your DH do.

And, FWIW, I like Blanche.

I too like name Blanche v much and fwiw not keen on Jacob. Not that it matters...
However the main point is that parents should surely agree on dc names?
I wouldn't have "forced" names on my dh. I came up with loads of names for dd and we only agreed on 2 in the end... So our dd has one of those names!
You were crazy to enter this agreement knowing that you both have such differing tastes in names!!

Before she's born you could have many happy hours pronouncing Blanche in a mock Southern accent and proclaiming

Yes YABU.

Advice: There's nothing worng with Blanche in any event. Call her "B" until you get used to it. "Bee" is a perfectly pretty and useable pet name.

Well, you have given him carte blanche to her name....

fneeeer.....

YABU. He felt the same way about Jacob, but you forced it. Now you reap what you sow, and you can understand how he felt before but you took no notice of.

How old is Jacob? If he hasn't started school yet, maybe it's not too late to renegotiate terms. If you offer to change JAcob's name, he might realise how strongly you dislike it.

Oh, harsh one. You did promise him... but if it were me I would just have to go back on my word and veto that name. It's awful.

It's quite pretty.

Unfortunately YABVVVVVVVU.

how much time have you got, can you use humour to try and make him see the name in the same light?

Hey OP! Try stamping your little feet and screaming til you're sick. That seems about your level of maturity. You never know, if you keep it up long enough the poor man may fold just to get you to shut up.

And then you'll have WON, and that's the main thing, isn't it?

I think it's rather lovely to name a daughter after one's grandmother but I also think that the person carrying and giving birth to the child has every right to the final say in what the child is called. I hear all the screams of YABU at that but they will change my opinion not one jot so there's little point in coming screaming at me. :) If I were you and if I felt that strongly about it I would simply smile and nod at DH and then go register the baby in the name of my choice.

You'd find yourself divorced if I were your husband, 'tribe.

graham, you would register the baby without letting your husband know?

I think this karma - you made him have a name he hated and now it is your turn.
Id go along with it, be very reasonable, explain you REALLY dont like it BUT it is his turn, so you will not go back on your word- he may change his mind if he sees you being reasonable

I'll check, but I'm pretty sure that's what I said Booy. I also said that opposition to my viewpoint (while just as valid) won't change it one jot so there's no point in arguing the case, we could be here for days going back and forwards if we start that.

OP yab totally u.

What posessed you to be so selfish as to insist on a name that your dh hated?

Serves you right that you're now hoist by your own petard, frankly.

"I would simply smile and nod at DH and then go register the baby in the name of my choice."

Lovely ground for a strong lasting marriage.
OP I wish you lots of luck as clearly mutual consideration and partnership are not featuring in your life (and neither your dh's).