I promised DH he could name the baby. Now I've changed my mind.

[JakeyMom]

When I was pregnant with DS1 I had my heart set the name Jacob. DH hated it and used to come up with all these alternatives but I had my heart set and I promised him that if he let me call DS Jacob he would pick the next DC's name. I PROMISED.
So fast forward and I'm pregnant with DC2 and naturally DH has been considering names. He was under the illusion that we would be having a boy and had already picked out the name Adam which I was fine with. However, it turns out we're having a girl which has totally thrown DH off course.
He's now decided he wants to name DD after his GRANDMOTHER(!!!) as she brought him up. It's an AWFUL name for a child (Blanche) and I just can't bring myself to agree. The name makes me shudder, it reminds me of coronation street. I've told him I hate the name and it's disgusting for a baby but he won't budge on it and is digging his heels in. AIBU to go back on my promise for the sake of our DD?

I think it´s a great name tbh.

If you really don´t like it-would he go for Bianca?
(Although I don´t see why he should)

OMG.... You just say you changed your mind.

I like Blanche too!
It's unusual and retro cool.
She'll fit right in with all the Seths, Alfies, Rubys and Pearls at school.

Sorry OP but it's a name you're going to have to learn to love. You got your way with Jacob and sucky though it is, you have to keep your end of the bargain. You proposed this...it was your idea and your dh went along with it.
It would be dodgy as fuck to renage on it now.

What accent do you have? That can make a huge difference to a name....said with a Northern accent Blaaanche is positively dreadful.

It is a strong feminine name isn't it?

Does this thread hold the record for being quite straightforwardly the most 'yes YABU' on MN in a good while?

No ifs, no buts- the dh is simply playing by the rules YOU decided op!

It is a hideous name imo.

Yabu. You also have a peculiar idea of what a relationship/marriage is.

So you called the first child you share a name he hated, and now he wants to call this one a name you hate?

Well, it would have been better to find a name you both like in the first place, wouldn't it? too late now of course!

But is it really fair to say that you can decide on a name and it doesn't matter if he hates it, but he can't decide on a name that you hate? That's as good as saying the children are more yours than his and isn't right at all.

What about giving the child the first name Blanche, if he really really won't budge and choosing a middle name you love and just calling her by that instead?

Or start telling everyone that the child will be called Blanche and hope they laugh in his face so much that he backs down

I was talked out of Harvey if she'd been a boy when pregnant with DD3, phew

However I did agree to a girls name I didn't love but it is lovely and it does suit her perfectly.
You've got to be able to bear though at least.

I think Blanche is an awesome name. Your baby will LOVE it when she's an adult, I promise you.

Yes, when she's six she'll want to be called 'Lizzie' or something, but every child does that - even ones called Lizzie.

Lots of people dream up utterly daft names during pregnancy, but the reality of a baby changes their mind. DH was adamant that we should call DS2 Ace or Slevin while I was pregnant. He now admits that would have been very foolish indeed.

I think YABU to go back on your promise now. Also I think Blanche is a lovely name. Would he accept Bianca which I think is equally gorgeous, if you suggest that Blanche might end up being mispronunced and therefore spoiled?

Dd is elaine after dps mum who passed away but we call her laney because its more modern. My family dont like it but oh well. If dps mum was blanche we would have had a problem

I think Bianca is considerably worse than Blanche. Blanche sound like a formidable old lady, Bianca is just horrible.

Are you sure he isnt just winding you up op? Maybe for revenge?

Ooh apparently DS1's name is retro cool! Excellent!

Fwiw I like Blanche

Blanche is a lovely name, but does it sound well with the surname?

While I'm here, what does the OP think is a good girl's name? Her DH's choice has been roundly slagged off/praised.

YABU

I've no idea how your partner puts up with a name he hates though. My partner's daughter has a name I completely abhor - I mean detest and it hurts my mouth to even say the repellant god-awful name. Goodness knows how I'd feel if this was actually my child!

So you are both going to have one child with a name you hate. strange arrangement but each to their own.

I'd relax about it, say no more and hope he goes off the idea. Otherwise you are just going to have to lump it I think.