to tell dh that no, I don't want to go on holiday with his mother.

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Mil had a holiday caravan. We are really fortunate to be able to use it free of charge.
Last year I planned to take my mum and dc to caravan for a few days. Mil happy for us to do it Unfortunately, my mum passed away before we were able to. In the end I didn't go because dh wanted me to take his mum. Not the same.
He is doing it again this year. He is trying to help I know as I will be heavily pregnant in the summer.

Don't blame you!!

Will your DH be with you?

Why not just say to him that you don't feel like going at all - as it was something special you were going to do with your mum it would make you feel too sad to go without her IYSWIM. Sorry for the loss of your mum.

Just don't go.

Couldnt you be resting up at home and DH take his Mum and dc's for a few days ?

I wouldn't go. Small confined caravan and mil? Recipe for disaster.

Do you mean he wants you to go with his mum without him?

Heavily pregnant with my MIL in a caravan sounds like Hell to me.

Is DH planning on going with you?

Do you not get on with mil? So sorry for your loss :(

Do you not get on with mil? So sorry for your loss :(

Dh would be at work so just me. I get on ok with her but we are not exactly close.
I do feel best solution would be for her to take dc on her own but not sure if she would want to. Dotes on dd but not so keen on ds.
Thank you.

Sorry for your loss, good luck with the pregnancy.

Why is he so keen for your mil to go? Why can't you go on your own.

No nothing wrong with her. Obviously have had minor niggles. Don't we all. Just don't feel close enough to her to want to spend a week in a caravan with her.

I wouldn't want to either
He needs to take time off work & go
Why should you?

We are going away anyway. Just he has had to shorten break as will need to take time off after birth.

bit of an ask really. bow out graciously. I wouldn't spend time with my mil in a confined space and we are just about OK together. I don't know if he gets the potential of it.
Sorry about your mum, and I get why you wouldn't want a sort of crappy alternative. Probably thought with best intentions but hasn't really done all the planning

It would be a "no way" from me. My MIL is fine but I wouldn't want to be cooped up in a small space with her for days on end. TBH, I'm not even sure I would want to do that with my parents. We've been on weekend breaks with both sides of the family but only with the OH there and not in such a confined space as a caravan.

it would be a no for me too, MIL is lovely, and a good grandmother to DD, but we have nothing in common, very different sense of humour etc.. could and would happily spend the day with her having coffee or shopping etc.. (although she's not really the type to want to do this with me) but couldn't spend a week in a caravan with her.

say no OP, tell your husband to leave it. let him go to the caravan for a week with her.

Tbh I don't think this is coming from Mil. I think it's an ideal dh has. I don't think he's even mentioned it to her yet.

just tell DH that you don't want to and not to bother mentioning it to her!

No I wouldn't do it. Such cramped conditions will only make any minor niggles or uncomfortable moments ten times worse and potentially could sour an otherwise okay relationship.

We went away with my PILs a couple of years ago and it was ok but would never do it again. You don't really realise how different it is- seeing them for a day or a few hours is one thing, but all day every day for a week is a whole 'nother story.

You don't mention FIL so is she alone? Could be that she's a bit lonely and you OH is trying to be nice?

And no, you're not being unreasonable at all. If you don't want to, you don't want to.

I definitely wouldn't...but then again my inlaws caravan NAKED. Yup. Full frontal nudity in a space that two people can't pass each other without some bodyparts touching.

So it could be worse, eh?[Grin]