Orrible Day ahead. I bet mine is going to be worse than yours.

[DameHermione]

To start with I have been, against all my best instincts, said I will take DD2 to the cinema.

She wants to see Titanic 3

D2 is 14, She is a teenager she is prety vile at the best of times.

Add into the mix of swirling vilness and teenager hormones and attitude she also has aspergers. It is an orrible mixture, it truly is.

DD2 doesn't actually like the cinema. it is too loud, and there are generally other people there (although maybe not watching Titanic 3D). Going to the cinema leaves her all twitchy and overloaded. 3D will push this even further.

She has also woken up in an absolutely foul mood - whether this is down to teenagerness, hormones, aspergers or just DD2 being ner normal vile self I don't know, but I know that for at least today i am going to be edging around her, minding how I breathe and diffusing rows with DD1, DH and the dog. And of course it will be all my fault as usual.

And did I mention Titanic 3D?

I mean Titanic fucking 3D!!! Why? why? why? what have I done to deserve that?

go see something else tell her its sold out even. it can be avoided.

but you called your dd vile twice in the OP ... thats horrible.

Ooh. That's not good.
Can you think of something she might prefer?
Or could she go with a friend?
I feel your pain...dd 15 has OCD which makes eating out interesting as she has issues re food preparation and vomit.
My day looks amazing suddenly compared to yours.

Teenagers can be vile scuzy...do you have one?

scuzy - here are my shoes................. try them for a while.

fucking Titanic?????????

oh she has masive HUGE problems with food and vomit. fun isn't it.

YABU to call your daughter vile

Ooh, poor you.

My own DD has high temp since yesterday, vomitted all over me at 4 am anf then again in the morning and is now laying on the sofa like a queen and ordering me to bring her toys, food, blanket etc. She is also insisting that we will go to the park later on. We won't, obviously, but she will not be happy about it (aka tantrum).

Can you go and see something else?

problem is she doesn't actually like much at all. so for her to get enthusiastic about anything it needs to be encouraged.

so why does she choose fucking Titanic???? I offered to take her to sodding Dublin (or was it belfast) and the new Titanic exhibition but oh no, she wants to see the blasted film. again.

FourYolks.... you'll have to wait until Scuzy has tried them but you too are also wlecome to try them for a while.

Oh, FGS, of course teens can be vile. Doesn't mean OP doesn't love her and care for her.

Scuzy and FourYolksAche, the daughter in question is DameHermione's, not yours. That gives DameHermione superior knowledge of her and every right to describe her just as she damn well pleases in this LIGHHEARTED thread. Teenagers can be vile. Very vile, in fact. A little less judging of this lighthearted OP might be appreciated, no?

no i dont have a teenager.

i sympathise that it must be tough dealing with a teenager with aspergers. i have a nephew with it also.

can you not tell her it is sold out and encourage something else.

and i still thinking calling your own child vile is horrible, regardless.

DS1 (nearly a teen-eek) isn't vile but he can be vile.

"no i dont have a teenager."

Scuzy, that explains everything - although it was totally unnecessary for you to tell us.

We guessed.

i guess i give the word "vile" more weight that you do. nothing to get in a flap about, just my opinion.

Titanic is Vile. I don't fucking want to go.

although with any luck she stay sulking in her oom and not want to go.

she know's she doesn't like it really, but still wants to go.

oh ok, i forgot the MN trend, unless you have kids of your own (in this case a teenager) your opinion isn't valid.

hope your day isnt as tough as you expect it to be OP.

Your opinion is as valid as anyone else's, Scuzy. It's your understanding and ability to empathise which was being called into question.

Anyhow, I can't beat Dame's shitty day. I have a whole bunch of work in front of me that I don't want to do but at least I have a nice evening to look forward to when DH comes home from his travels. Dame, I'd go for the "Titanic is sold out" option.

You won't find any titanic exhibition in Dublin, since it was made in Belfast!

will she tolerate ear plugs? and mints to help with the smell?

scuzy, no one said your opinion wasn't valid. But if you don't have a teenager (with or without aspergers) of your own then you truly have no idea whether they are vile or not. really.

although now she is banging around in a strop because she doesn't want to go, although she does really, but can't.

excuse me while i scream a little

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i do empathise. i really do. and i'm sure your at your wits end at times. i just dont like the word "vile". thats all. its nothing personal. i would give it the same weight as "hate", i know you dont hate your child. its just my opinion. thats all. some stranger on the net.

would Mrz like to go and take DD?

I'm saving the Hunger Games for next week. I am going on my own

OK, AS logic here - would she be able to better control her behaviour if you weren't in the theatre with her? That way shecan see the film and you can have three hours of peace with a coffee and a book just outside (and are around for her tocome to if it's all too much.

To the haterz: take a teenager who appears "normal" but actually has massive problems with noise, sounds and smells to a crowded cinema, then come back and judge the OP for her language. I think you'll find vile quite mild...