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Original poster

AIBU to think that GPs get a raw deal and are very much under appreciated

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scuzy · 09/04/2012 22:41

This is not a thread about a thread. its about numerous comments and threads i have read lately.

imo GPs have reared their kids and want to enjoy their grandkids. but for some, GPs who dont visit, or do visit and are spoiling the kids, or wont babysit or when they do, dont follow instructions are not appreciated.

many dont have help like that or close family. many dont have their parents still alive or in good health to mind kids.

appreciate your inlaws/parents that are in your kids lives and love them!

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joanofarchitrave · 09/04/2012 22:43

Oh, i thought you meant doctors!

In either case, YANBU.

SundaeGirl · 09/04/2012 22:43

Ha, was coming on to rant about doctors pay!

I agree, though. Mothers, especially first time mothers of small children can be quite brattish with their parents and in-laws about their DC.

lolajane2009 · 09/04/2012 22:44

both sets of gps are great for my ds. in laws particularly fawn all over him and anyone who does that is great imo.

igggi · 09/04/2012 22:45

You are generally making a reasonable comment but it's a bit simplistic as there are also GPs who are very unreasonable, manipulative, unhelpful etc - it's knowing there are great ones out there that makes that harder to bear!

WorraLiberty · 09/04/2012 22:45

I thought you mean Doctors too!

YANBU

It seems nowadays everything has to be just how the parents want it to be...on their terms.

I don't really remember my GPs visiting us much but we used to visit them every sunday and mostly ran out the garden to play.

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scuzy · 09/04/2012 22:51

sorry guys, should have said grandparents!

oh igggi i see your point. but in relation to mnetters who have a pretty good relationship with GPs they seem to pick at the most ridiculous things and expect free babysitting on their terms.

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Salmotrutta · 09/04/2012 22:52

scuzy - so true.

Seems to me that PIL get quite a bashing on here.

(I am one but it's a son-in-law I have)

I almost fear any future wife of DS's - after reading some threads on here.

And he's approaching that stage in life ...

WorraLiberty · 09/04/2012 22:53

I think you'll find it's generally the PILs they're picking at...more so than their own parents.

I think some people find it hard to cope with the fact their DH's parents aren't the same as theirs.

Salmotrutta · 09/04/2012 22:56

That's true Worra - my MIL is "difficult". But she would give us her last ha'penny and adores the kids.
And I always ensured fairness and equality with visits and so on.
She even once praised me for fairness Shock

WorraLiberty · 09/04/2012 22:58

She praised you Salmotrutta? Shock

The utter praising cow! Grin

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scuzy · 09/04/2012 22:58

yes it is mostly inlaws that can do no right.

i didnt know any ofmy gps growing up they had all passed away when i was young or before i was born. but reading some the threads here they are expetced to drop their own daily routine to babysit their grandkids with specific instructions to be followed to a tee!

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McHappyPants2012 · 09/04/2012 22:59

i need anyone who looks after ds to follow the routine and not side track from it. I can not even sidetrack from his routine ( he has austism and cant cope with change)

but with DD they can come and take her out or change the routine.

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scuzy · 09/04/2012 23:00

thats shocking! I am shocked! did she "gush" also and buy them presents?

Grin
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WorraLiberty · 09/04/2012 23:00

My Grandad always smelled of earth and tobacco Grin

I suppose in this day and age he'd be reported to SS for passing on 3rd hand smoke and ringworm.....

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scuzy · 09/04/2012 23:02

McHappyPants thats obviously a different scenario and very understandable.

but it does bug me when ANYONE offers to babysit and then is expected to move their own home and family life around this precious routine! it wont kill a child to sleep in, go to bed an hour later, eat coco pops for breakfast (shock!) or play in the mud!

i just want to collect my ds who still has all four limbs and a smile on his face and a not stressed GP who would have him back again.

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scuzy · 09/04/2012 23:04

oh the smell of a pipe always reminds me of my dad. Smile am sure there is a photo of me still in nappies sitting on his lap with his pipe in my mouth and his reading glasses on me. SS would have a field day!!

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WorraLiberty · 09/04/2012 23:06

Actually the smell of a pipe reminds me of my old Headmaster at Primary school Grin

Whenever he entered the classrooms he was always puffing on his pipe and if you walked down a corridor, you could tell if he'd been there before you by the trail of smoke he left.

McHappyPants2012 · 09/04/2012 23:07

it maybe the reason why nobody offers to babysit :)

lolajane2009 · 09/04/2012 23:07

tbhi am probably unreasonable as I know they really want to look after my son alone and at 7 mths old I have only maaged to allow myself to let him away from me and hubby once...

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scuzy · 09/04/2012 23:09

well that must be very tough McHappyPants. do you manage to get a break at times at all? over nights or anything?

Worraliberty there is a guy in work that lives in football jerseys and obviously isnta fan of a bar soap ... I too know which direction he is gone down the hallway! [boak]

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WorraLiberty · 09/04/2012 23:10

My parents nor my inlaws ever had my kids overnight and we never expected them too.

They'd babysit as regular as clockwork and didn't mind what time we came home, but when we did...they'd go home to their own houses.

To be honest when I become a Gran, I doubt I'll really want my GC's overnight either unless there's a really good reason for it.

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scuzy · 09/04/2012 23:10

lolajane thats not unreasonable ... you are not ready yet obviously.

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scuzy · 09/04/2012 23:13

Worraliberty I am the same as you. MIL is great but has minded him during the day for couple hours (ensuring he is fed and in good form so is less trouble) while i get things done if DP not around. ONCE she has him overnight when he was young as i was literally stuck between loo and sink with the worst bug ever! i can even remember roaring at dp between "episodes" to make sure and pack this and that praying he wasnt going to be a handful ... never thinking "I hope she follows my routine".

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WorraLiberty · 09/04/2012 23:13

Lol @ 'not a fan of a bar of soap' Grin

McHappyPants2012 · 09/04/2012 23:13

It is worked between me and my husband, but thanks for asking

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