To ask what you and d talk about?

[goingmadinthecountry]

I !don't mean insurance, who bought cat food etc,

I really want to know if you have stuff to talk about because it gets a bit boring for me. Would love new ideas after meeting way back in 1983!!

'd' what?

Do you mean DP/H?

If so not a lot!! General waffle, general waffle about the household, general waffle about work, general waffle about the news etc

Sometimes we talk about our plans and our past experiences but not as a general conversation.

Sometimes we debate/review things but I'm always right [buwink]

Crikey - I thought we were more interesting than that!!

After we had been together 13 years I suddenly realised that we had not had a new topic of conversation for about 5 years. It was when he was (yet again) regaling me with tales of his university life one evening that I realised the time had come for us to go our separate ways ...

Well, we work together, so we talk about work a LOT.
We also read different papers, so that can keep us going for a while.
Children, always a source of interest...especially as they are teenagers, so there is a bit of, 'did DD call you today' , 'has anyone seen DS?'

But mostly we laugh at the dogs :)

Our conversations run the full (bizarre) gamut from the weather outside to dialectical materialism. Today we managed to discuss The Levellers (not the popular beat combo), the politics of paganism, if the dog would shit on the daffodils again today and whether hot cross buns should be warmed in the oven first. It's what I like about him, tbh.

We range from the sublime to the ridiculous. We've been together for 18 years, still seem to have plenty to talk/laugh/bicker about thankfully.

Stuff.

we talk about DD

and the dog

I couldn't tell you. I rarely have clue what he's we're talking about. This evening it was Sferics (confused). Over lunch we had the feasibility of creating a 3 headed dog. I can't remember what it was at breakfast as that part of my brain bled out of my ears afterwards.

goingmad - I've been with my husband about the same length of time; sad to hear that you are bored

We are happy being silent in each other's company and doing our own thing - which is just as important, I think.

But we also talk happily about pretty much anything, including:

Current affairs/politics/ethics
Our careers and colleagues
Our grown-up children and their interests/education
Family/in-laws - including reminiscing
History; local, architecture, art
Friends/neighbours
The future - work, house, retirement (a way off yet, but we already have a massive wish list of things to do)
Our hobbies and interests (different)
Health, fitness and diet
Food, wine, eating out
Astronomy and science
Household affairs - finance; DIY plans etc.
Each other and our relationship
Cinema, music and television

And

A whole massive pile of nonsensical and meaningless shite and bollocks; silly observations that we find funny (like most couples, I imagine) and utter niff-naff and trivia [bugrin]

Everything Talc said ^ up there. Well most of it.

plus recently we sorted out the existence/non existence of God and what happens after you die. Sorted it.

Who was the better Jean Valjean? Colm Wilkinson or Alfie Boe?
and Am I too stupid to do a degree? ( just 2 of todays)

The H on my laptop's a bit stiff - obviously meant dh!

Think I'm having a big mid life crisis - 24th wedding anniversary tommorrow - will have been married for half of my life. Sometimes think we go too far in opposite directions. Obviously there's the kids and what's happened this morning, but then it tends to get back down to (his) work far too quickly.

We talk about art... in various forms because we're both artists...he's an actor and I'm a writer. Also, we talk about education, the shopping, the cats, our pasts and of course the DDs!

We also dream up money making business ideas.

If you mean DP/H then everything. Anything that comes into our heads at the time be it a recipe or period pains. We also like 'not talking' and can sit in silence without worrying.

Just observe and natter.

Assuming you mean DH/DP. We've been together slightly less than you and your partner.

Although we both can go for periods without talking I'd describe us both as talkers. This means we can get a lot of mileage from simply a new drama series we start watching or a new book one of us is reading. So musing about the characters, the plots, how we would behave feel in that situation.

Unfortunately we talk about the children quite often, but thats more factual stuff.

General topics are:

Whats in the news
Goings on at work
Goings on with our friends and neighbours (Dh is very female in this respect, he loves a good gossip)
Holiday plans
Films, books, theatre, exhibitions that we want to see/ hear etc
Things on TV

I think some of these topics can be boring and predictable because we know each other so well we invariably know what the others opinion will be.

A sort of tradition of ours is on fridays, the family takeaway night, when the kids have gone to bed, we play Would You Rather and Kiss Marry Kill which is basically snog marry avoid. Also Dh has a book with various riddles and funny questions about the world which whenever we look at (kept on the coffee table) we end up talking for hours and hours.

We've been together 10 years. We talk about anything really. He is like my best mate so anything that would crop up in convo with your best mate is a good topic for us.

The best 'conversations' we have though are ones where we don't speak. We have them more and more often these days. It's lovely when you know someone so well that you can do that. I'd really miss that if I ever got into a 'new' relationship.

There's nothing funnier than knowing what your partner is thinking. Especially in public and in an embarrassing situation. You know that if you make eye contact it's game over and you'll both just burst out laughing at the most inappropriate moment.

Good question as I often wonder what other people talk about.

If you both think it's a bit dull try some games/quizzes that will prompt new topics.

We've been together much leas time than you - five years - but we talk about:

Other people
Politics
Work
Our child
Books
Would you rathers eg would you join the CIA or FBI, vote Tory or eat own vomit etc

And, as pergolalola says, stuff.

Oh and joint interests that have developed since we got together especially horseracing, oddly.

I've been with DH since I was 18 and I'm now nearly 38. We still have loads to talk about but find DDs being 4 and 1 can get in the way. We find it hard to talk above the squealing.

We talk about holidays past and future (we do our own thing, road trips and such so lots of planning required), music, film, architecture, books, the lunacy of our local council, gossip about friends, work, the DDs. We are never short of things to talk about and there is so much we still want to do together.

Have been with DH for 23 years. We sound similar to Adversecamber and her dh. We both work full time so do talk about that.

Yesterday we talked about:

The DC

Henry Moore

How many people were at the church service and how some mutual friends were;

Camellias and paeonies and our plans to plant some which led to a discussion about the acidity of the soil and what thrived respectively at ours and my mothers;

We looked at some vines and worked out which way they faced, measured the distance between them and talked about some books by Patricia Atkinson we had read, recalled a holiday in Brittany which is where we were when we read them - leading onto to English wine;

How the Chinese are working on electric cars and how the price needs to come down and clever marketing is needed to make them sexy;

We had a chat about processed food (!)

How bright and sparkling all the road markings look a mile or so up the road as one swings onto the Olympic route towards the tennis at the All England Club.

Trenton Oldfied, the boat race, and anarchy moving swiftly on to DH asking if I would mind if he stood for parliament at the next election - that one's still sinking in because it was an ambition I thought had died years ago but I think he means it!!

But a lot of the time we are deeply boring and DH tells me in great detail about his cases and pieces of advice most of which is too dry and boring to listen to and has to be deleted from my mind and never repeated outside the house.

You need to get a new set of friends so you can both bitch about them, works for most of the couples I know.

Work, kids, our dramatic families, new iPhone apps, technology, the future and our plans, we talk about tv a lot. Our hobbies such as writing (me) and computer games. Pc (him) and ps3 (me)
Holidays and what car we should look to get in future...

Currently we talk about home improvements and moving house a lot (hoping to sell ours)

we've been together and we talk ALL the time, mostly politics, film and music.
We're both massive movie fans. And we have similar tastes in music. But different politics, which is great because we can debate all night. I'd hate to be married to someone who shared all the same views all the time. Dull.