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AIBU to have liked to get an easter egg?

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Imachocolateportal · 08/04/2012 22:12

Yes there is much more to life than presents, and I do not give to receive, however I would have like to have got just one easter egg.

It is the same every birthday, easter, valentines day, christmas and mothers day. DH either says, "oh I forgot", or "I wish I had sorted out something now, I feel bad you didn't get anything."

It probably seems silly, but just a little something would be nice. Half of me feels tempted to "forget" or "not get round to" getting him something next time, but I am not really that petty.

I am however eyeing up the childrens eggs, DH has eaten all his greedy pig

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lololizzy · 08/04/2012 22:14

yabu, me too..i got 'petrol money' as we visited his parents (he doesn't drive) Hmm

WorraLiberty · 08/04/2012 22:14

I was going to say YABU...it's only chocolate but since he never seems to treat you, judging by your OP I'd say YANBU.

A bit of thought goes a long way.

AgentZigzag · 08/04/2012 22:18

It's not the egg, it's a DH who's thoughtful in that way that you're wishing for.

You can go and buy yourself ten eggs tomorrow for the price of the one he'd have got on you Friday.

Is he thoughtful in other ways to balance it out?

Make sure you get your order in early for other presents Smile

Why do you get him one btw?

2kidsintow · 08/04/2012 22:18

YANBU
My OH doesn't appreciate presents at any occasion, but he has been well trained enough by myself and my DDs that he does bother to give presents at Christmas and will give an egg at easter too (after they asked him "But Daddy, where's your easter egg to Mummy?" a few years ago)

His side of the family limit Easter to just the kids. .
My family do eggs for all from all so I've got 5 of my own eggs to eat.

cardibach · 08/04/2012 22:20

I'd have said Easter was for the kids, too. However, YANBU to expect him to buy things for you on all the other occasions you mention.

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Imachocolateportal · 08/04/2012 22:25

AgentZigzag - you are right it's not really about the egg I do feel a bit like he doesn't really give me much thought when it comes to things.

Think I am feeling a bit sorry for myself today.

DH is great with the big speeches .... but never any actions. I don't mean just presents, just anything in general.

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Imachocolateportal · 08/04/2012 22:27

Oh and, I get him one, because he expects one really, and would be more grumpy than the kids without one [buwink]

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SauvignonBlanche · 08/04/2012 22:36

If he expects one he should reciprocate.

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Imachocolateportal · 08/04/2012 22:41

SauvignonBlanche - I do see that, and it does get to me a bit. however at the same time he probably expects one as I always makes sure he gets something nice, as I do like shopping for other people. and his face lights up like a big kid which I do enjoy

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MNHubbie · 08/04/2012 22:41

YANBU! I wanted one too! My favourite chocolate in the world is Easter egg. Screw the bars that come with them it is something about the texture, the way it snaps, the bits inside that are sometimes thicker than other times...

undercoverPrincess · 08/04/2012 22:43

YANBU but men are crap, I bought my own and arranged a babysitter for last night and booked a meal and drew £ out of his bank a/c.....

BigHairyFlowers · 08/04/2012 22:55

Your post seems to suggest that your DH had several eggs and you had none - did he share them with you before eating them all??!

I know I'm never going to get one so I buy myself a chocolate bunny to keep me company..!

MNHubbie · 08/04/2012 23:13

Blush Ranty has just shared her egg with me. The look on her face when I asked if she'd read the above wasn't Confused but more Hmm... now I feel very Blush

Rhubarbgarden · 08/04/2012 23:39

YANBU. My DH never bothers remembers either. I'm going to go and buy myself one tomorrow instead.

Goolash · 09/04/2012 00:05

Wow! Did I read that right? You got him one, he didn't get you one, he scoffed his without sharing?

Historically I always get a big good quality one for us both to share whilst I'm buying them for the kids. It's been a silly joke that the kids find it from the Easter Bunny and give it to us.

The first year we were together I got him one, he didn't get me one, but he shared it out. After that I was a SAHM and I picked up eggs for the kids whilst doing the shopping, then popped us ona joint one.

This year we've both worked full time and I've had fun telling him on Easter morning that yes, it's fine the kids do have eggs and not to worry. Then not to fret about one for me as I bought myself one. He didn't even think about getting the kids eggs. I've rewarded husband with a truffle every time he gets me a cuppa Grin then showing him the FB post from my friends about the eggs they've been given. It's been very tongue in cheek and silly.

Please next year don't get him one.

Goolash · 09/04/2012 00:15

Do fish drink water.

Goolash · 09/04/2012 00:15

Sorry, the fish one was supposed to be on a different thread!

AgentZigzag · 09/04/2012 00:18

Let us know the answer won't you Goolash? Grin

MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 00:19

Goo freshwater fish have to worry about their bodily fluids becoming too dilute and salt water fish have to avoid dehydration. What thread is that?

RabbitsMakeBrownEggs · 09/04/2012 00:23

I'll share my creme eggs with you OP. [busmile]

Goolash · 09/04/2012 00:24

MNHubbie, yes that's pretty much it Grin

After googling I did remember covering it in o O level biology but at the time had no recollection.

AwkwardMaryHadAnEasterLamb · 09/04/2012 00:25

I have had to kick off a bit in order to train let my DH know that little gifts mean a lot to me. It's not that I want diamonds well ok Ido but we're poor but I do want to know he's thought of me.

He has now learned thanks to me sulking a lot. Crap I know but he enjoys it now...he grew up in a home where gift giving was'nt done.

hairytaleofnewyork · 09/04/2012 02:21

YABU about an Easter egg - they are for kids.

Yanbu about gifts or acknowledgement on birthdays.

SconeInSixtySeconds · 09/04/2012 02:51

Me neither. I never get a stocking at Christmas or any little things like that. Sometimes I feel very Sad.

He's not an awful man, just a bit selfish and thoughtless.

(I made him an easter basket - copy of top gear, chocolates, strawberries etc). I've got a badly sprained ankle, can't really walk much at all and he groused like hell at having to hide the eggs for the dc.

(realised I'm going to start ranting in a minute, so leaving thread now)

PeahenTailFeathers · 09/04/2012 10:22

YADNBU! It wouldn't have hurt him to get you an egg, especially if he expects you to get one for him [buangry] .
I certainly wouldn't buy him any more - next year, I think you should use the money you'd have spent on his egg to buy one for yourself.
I know, I know, you probably shouldn't expect an egg, but it would be nice of him to think of you.
Want one of mine? I've got plenty to go around [bugrin] .