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to think that my 22 week year old should not have chocolate?!

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natwebb79 · 08/04/2012 10:47

Just had my dad and step-mum round and they had bought my 22 week old DS an Easter egg. They looked at me like I was some controlling precious psychopath when I said he can't have chocolate yet! Poor little mite only started on mashed carrot last week Ffs!

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scummymummy · 08/04/2012 11:11

Sounds like you were a bit rude to me. Totally up to you whether he has chocolate but you could have just accepted it with thanks and made your dad feel good.

doublethelovedoublethekisses · 08/04/2012 11:13

My nan and a family friend both bought 19 week old DD2 easter chocolate. We had a laugh about who was going to eat it really but they didnt want to leave her out. It was a nice thought anyway imo

pumpkinsweetie · 08/04/2012 11:14

Dont know my your so shocked at my suggestion catsarevil Confused, my eldest girl is 9 and she had a little bit of choc when she was this age-did her no harm & i have 4 dcs so thought i would give op a suggestion based on my experiences

doctordwt · 08/04/2012 11:14

We bought DD a lovely Green&Blacks egg when she was 3 months old.

Our favourite. Took a pic of her holding it and then scoffed it all. Shame she was too young to get her share Grin

GhastlyBespoke · 08/04/2012 11:17

You were being unreasonable to make a great big deal about it. There is no reason not to be polite. If it makes you feel better to think them a pair of twits that's up to you. At least they bothered.
My DD has never set eyes on her paternal grandparents let alone received an Easter egg because they couldn't care less.

catsareevil · 08/04/2012 11:20

pumpkin

A 22 week old baby is quite young, and will be on milk or the beginning or weaning.

Chocolate is not necessary for them and it is potentially allergenic.

scummymummy · 08/04/2012 11:26

Don't pay any mind, pumpkin. Most people who think chocolate poisons babies have only very young children and they really really believe with a passion that these things matter more than anything. When their children are a bit older they may gain some perspective, possibly. I would have been horrified if someone had given my baby twins chocolate... I was busy trying to get them to eat quinoa and nectarine surprise. But 10 years later I barely batted an eyelid when I found my partner feeding a jaffa cake to our 4 month old. I knew it didn't really matter. I will probably turn into a person who buys haribo as a weaning gift for my grandchildren to the horror of their parents. Mwahahahahaha.

catsareevil · 08/04/2012 11:28

Funnily enough I do have older children. But I still wouldnt give chocolate to a 22 week baby. Hmm

PooPooInMyToes · 08/04/2012 11:28

Blimey that's young for chocolate! My oldest didn't have any until she was one and obviously my second child had it a bit younger as they often do.

I don't think you were rude by the sound of it, just stating a fact.

pumpkinsweetie · 08/04/2012 11:28

Lol scummymummy Grin

StrandedLindtBunny · 08/04/2012 11:29

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FondleWithCare · 08/04/2012 11:32

I don't think it's unreasonable to not want a small baby to have chocolates, I'm surprised that anybody does. I also don't think it's PFB to not want to give a small baby sugar and caffeine, we have a LOT of allergies in my family and I will do what I can to minimise the risk in my daughter. If that makes me precious then I'm fine with that.

Pompoko · 08/04/2012 11:39

I would give him some chocolate. Yes it's not nessasary but is a lovely treat that will not have baby demanding it at all hours or rot their teeth instantly or make them fat and unhealthy. Its just a nice treat that baby will enjoy. Chill out

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natwebb79 · 08/04/2012 11:40

Ghastly - I don't think they're twits and I wasn't rude. I accepted it graciously but when my dad asked if he can have some I was shocked that my step-mum didn't know he couldn't seeing as she's a health care professional. It was the dirty look I got that made me feel miffed. We're from a family that speak their minds and I'm used to those two being very honest what they think about gifts (I won't bother buying them another trip to a West End show, they were a nightmare! Grin) and it doesn't bother me. That's why it came naturally for me to be honest with them. I did say thank you, I wasn't a cow. Smile

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 08/04/2012 11:41

He is to young for chocolate but u have to look at the thought behind the gift not the gift itself. They were probably just really excited about having a/another grand child to do these thongs for and couldn't wait another year. :)

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natwebb79 · 08/04/2012 11:44

Pompoko he is too young to 'enjoy' chocolate because he doesn't even understand what food is yet! At the beginning of weaning they take so little you have to make sure what you do give them has decent nutritional value. And I will feel the same way with any other children I may have! Creeps back to other universe where I'm more at home Grin

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inabeautifulplace · 08/04/2012 11:48

"I would only be sorry as most people get children cadburys and my fave choc is Green&Blacks."

Cadburys bought G&B a few years back. And ruined it. BASTARDS!!!!!!!!

Sorry, as you were....

gothicmama · 08/04/2012 11:49

Dd pfb no choc dc 2 and 3 dd fed them chocolate at their first easter sharing with them lol

Pompoko · 08/04/2012 11:52

He can taste food, then he can enjoy food. Cholate tastes yummy.

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natwebb79 · 08/04/2012 11:53

How old were they?! Is it me then?? Is it really not obvious that when a baby has only just started taking a few spoons of food a day that giving them a mixture of fat and sugar as part of it probably isn't the best laid plan?! Once he knows what it is and understands it then course he can have it.

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DesperatelySeekingBunnies · 08/04/2012 11:53

Silly thing to buy a young baby but I'd have said thanks and munched it later when they'd gone.

Pompoko · 08/04/2012 11:57

You are over thinking it. Baby's need fat so he is getting some goodness. A little will not do any harm

rhondajean · 08/04/2012 11:57

This sounds like my parents, I have been told I was stopping them getting pleasure because I'd didn't let them fill my children full of rubbish.

I am far from fanatical about food, they are now 7 and 12 and have disappeared upstairs with a haul of chocolate, but I totally understand op that you want to make sure your child has the best start in life and your mai responsibility is to make sure he is as healthy as possible and not to spare the feelings of people who really should know better.

Don't feel bad, if you play it down and leave them babysitting you can guarantee they will be feeding him milky bars before you are out of the door.

Mibby · 08/04/2012 11:59

Its not you, DD got bought eggs last year and I was mean for not giving her them. She was 5 months. This year we bought toys but shes still ended up with 3 eggs and she wont be getting much of them either!

somewherewest · 08/04/2012 12:01

My grandfather (who is lovely and very fond of children) bought my three month old chocolate. We just said thanks and scoffed it, but if he'd been weaned I would have let him have a tiny tiny bit. Given that I was brought up by said GPs I dread to think when I was weaned and with what, and I've survived Grin.