Thinking about something my ex used to say - horrible isn't it?

[ChickenSkin]

I just mentioned this on another thread but it's got me thinking about it. I've never mentioned it to anyone before incase I was being too sensitive but tell me what you'd think in this situation.

You're sat watching the news and a story comes on about a woman being raped. Your partner then says something along the lines of "oh I'd hate it if that happened to you, would be horrible knowing another man had been all over you".

He didn't see anything wrong with what he'd said. What I interpreted this as was "I'm not that bothered about YOU but I'd be pissed off if some other bloke got to have sex with you".

Like I say, I've never mentioned it before but it does stick in my head. He had aspergers traits which could explain it but he also had a lot of arsehole traits which probably explain it better.

Reminds me of that (infamous) 1970s press article along the lines of, 'A 42 year old man was tied up and forced to watch as intruders raped his wife last Thursday night....'

Guess it depends on what your experience with rape and domestic violence is then since, to me, the Op isn't talking about someone with ASD. She's talking about an abusiveman who also makes pro-rape statements.

i have extensive experience of abuse (really cannot be arsed to even begin to explain/justify myself to someone with such rigid ideas.

and i thought it was supposed to be people with ASD who had problems with rigidity of thought and lack of empathy.

im hiding this thread now as it has genuinely upset me to such an extent that i am questioning whether i want to post anywhere but the SN section of this site in future.

the ignorance surrounding the condition that my son has is astounding. im massively fucked off with these threads equating having AS to being some kind of abuser or rape apologist.

How many people with AS do you actually know?

if the OP isnt talking about someone with AS why mention it as an excuse in the opening post?

i could generalise about radical feminists but i realise that it would make me sound like an ignorant twat, shame the same doesnt apply to those making anti SN statements.

thank fuck for the hide button.

The thing with stating Asd traits, is we all have them. It doesn't mean we have all have Asd.
I am horrified that Asd = horrible person.
No one can say Asd without a dx, it's very wrong to do so. It's a long and complex dx process and a life long disorder.
Some people can just be an arse with odd behaviour!