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Nappy changing floor show

31 replies

mostlyupbeat · 07/04/2012 12:09

AIBU to think that a childminder should not invite six other children to go and watch everytime she changes her 5 month old grand daughters nappy? Or am I being a bit precious?

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WorraLiberty · 07/04/2012 12:10

If they're happy to watch then what's the problem?

All sorts of weird and wonderful things interest kids.

rubyslippers · 07/04/2012 12:11

Does she invite them?

Lots of children are interested in nappies and their contents and will willingly take a look

whackamole · 07/04/2012 12:11

Are you positive she 'invites' them and they don't just crowd around?

lisaro · 07/04/2012 12:11

And at least they are within sight.

WandaDoff · 07/04/2012 12:12

If it keeps them all in one place for 5 mins, then that sounds fine to me.

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mostlyupbeat · 07/04/2012 12:12

No she rallies them around

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ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 07/04/2012 12:12

What's the problem exactly? At least she knows where they are and what they are up to! I seriously doubt the 5 month old gives a flying fluff!

seeker · 07/04/2012 12:13

What's wrong with that? She can keep an eye on them while she's busy.

AFuckingKnackeredWoman · 07/04/2012 12:13

What are you thinking will happen?

rubyslippers · 07/04/2012 12:13

Maybe she thinks it's educational

When I had DD, I always asked my older one to help etc

I honestly don't see an issue

WorraLiberty · 07/04/2012 12:15

Should she even be in charge of 6 children and a baby?

Original poster
mostlyupbeat · 07/04/2012 12:17

No I am not concerned about anything happening, but for some reason this didn't sit well with me. I'm obviously being a bit precious. Thanks for the advice.

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WorraLiberty · 07/04/2012 12:19

For what reason didn't it sit well?

I genuinely can't think of one?

seeker · 07/04/2012 12:19

In terms of the baby or the children?

rhondajean · 07/04/2012 12:22

6 children and a baby I am certain breaches the ratios. The nappy changing bit doesn't bother me, but the numbers do.

DodieSmith · 07/04/2012 12:22

Hmmm, it sounds a little odd to me. Children are learning that their bodies are private, and this is sending a different message to the older ones.

ballstoit · 07/04/2012 12:24

To actually call them all seems a little odd to me. Not making a fuss if someone happens to be there is one thing, but calling them all to watch is different somehow.

Also, she's not respecting the rights of her Grandaughter to privacy...which would not sit well with Ofsted. And from a hygiene pov, what a ball ache to have to watch 6 sets of hands instead of just her own.

Have you asked her why she does this, op?

Original poster
mostlyupbeat · 07/04/2012 12:24

I have absolutely no idea why my gut instinct was to be concerned for the baby.. I am probably just not ready to consider any childminder for my little one yet..

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DodieSmith · 07/04/2012 12:27

In the playground when one child is surrounded by a gang of others, then it is often (not always) a bullying situation. Maybe that's what it brings to mind?

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mostlyupbeat · 07/04/2012 12:30

Maybe you're right. I did feel very protective of that baby.

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Tanith · 07/04/2012 12:31

It depends on the ages. Last week, I cared for 8 children alone: 5 were aged over 5 and two of those 5 were aged 8 and 12 respectively so didn't count in my numbers.

The other kids used to help bath my DD when she was a baby and were fascinated with nappy changing, feeding, dressing and all the rest of her care. DD loved all the attention Smile

rhondajean · 07/04/2012 12:37

I know it depends on the ages tanith and it would depend on what she personally is registered for but I think usually the maximum is six children in total regardless of the age aspect. I'd wonder if she's being paid for the other six and having her grand daughter as well.

SuePurblybiltFromChocolate · 07/04/2012 12:39

So what, she calls them over? I should think it'll get old very quickly for the other children.

rhondajean · 07/04/2012 12:39

Btw I'm in Scotland, the age here is six under twelve not under eight.

DodieSmith · 07/04/2012 12:40

How was she treating and referring to the baby as she changed her? Some people can make quite negative comments as they change nappies (about how disgusting they are etc) and if she was saying or doing anything negative then I wouldn't be happy if it was my DD. however if she was caring and factual then that might be different.